ADHD and ADD

Stressed Out Teens & Empathic Parents: What to Do When It’s Contagious?

Though we hear a lot about the effect of parents on children’s development, parenting, like other close relationships, is a reciprocal interaction -- not a one-way street. Children with difficult challenges, such as executive function deficits, can tax any parent’s equilibrium. Parents of teens with such issues are often overwhelmed and under increased stress.
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Anxiety and Panic

Grit N’ Grind

“He’s here again,” you sigh.

Playing pickup basketball, there is always that tough as nails defender. He is relentless, contesting every passing lane. Playing to the whistle’s echo, his grit -- more than his physical talent -- frustrates you into submission.

Grit, though, is more than nabbing every carom or fighting through those bulldozing picks; it is persevering through life’s stumbles and, yes, self-inflicted wounds. According to a U.S. Department of Education report, grit is just as important as intellectual ability for success.
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Anger

How Healing Shame Can Save Our World

Personal growth includes recognizing the many faces of shame and how this hard-to-detect emotion holds us back. The gnawing sense that something is wrong with us keeps us roaming in a trance of unworthiness and self-doubt. A deep sense of being flawed and defective saps our joy and spontaneity.

But have you ever wondered how shame plays out on the larger world stage? Understanding the extent to which political leaders are secretly driven by shame and use shame to steal our vote can shed new light on the hidden ways that this insidious emotion infects today’s political landscape.

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General

Choice, Indecision, and Guilt

Any time we make a choice, we choose one thing and not another. One path is taken; another is abandoned. One choice lives, another dies. Why do I say dies? The Latin root of “decide” is “de-cidere.” The meaning of “cidere” is “to kill,” as in homicide and suicide. Every choice is a murder. To avoid this murder, we may keep ourselves stuck in indecision. Thus, to avoid indecision, we must bear the guilt of killing a choice.
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Happiness

One Trait Successful People Share

“Life Begins at the End of Your Comfort Zone”

The one trait successful people have is that they are willing to put up with being uncomfortable to get what they want. Successful people come up with ways to manage the uncertainty that makes them uncomfortable when they start something new and want to turn back.
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