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5 Ways to Stop a Worry-Filled What-If Cycle

Thursday, May 8th, 2014

5 Ways to Stop A Worry-Filled What-If CycleWhat-if thoughts aren’t necessarily problematic. They become problematic when they’re chronic, and we experience a lack of control, said L. Kevin Chapman, Ph.D. Chapman is a psychologist and associate professor in clinical psychology at the University of Louisville, where he studies and treats anxiety disorders.

What-if thoughts also become problematic when they cause distress or interfere with a person’s ability to function, said Simon A. Rego, PsyD, director of psychology training and the CBT Training Program at Montefiore Medical Center/Albert Einstein College of Medicine in New York.

3 Facts about Feelings

Tuesday, May 6th, 2014

3 Facts about FeelingsMany of us have an uncomfortable relationship with our feelings. We might stuff down our sadness or sweep away our anger. We might even have trouble identifying what we’re feeling in the first place.

This isn’t surprising. According to psychotherapist Joyce Marter, LCPC, we’re socialized to mask our feelings. We learn that we must cover up our emotions “in order to behave appropriately, professionally, and to avoid conflict and navigate relationships.”

Mindfulness and Stress Reactions: Getting Off the Elevator of Distress

Sunday, May 4th, 2014

partnerselevatorservice.comA good friend of mine describes her depression as an elevator that takes her down to an unfurnished basement with toxic mold, the stench of cat urine and no windows. When she is there, she has difficulty believing that there are any floors above her. What she sees and smells, she surmises, is the sum total of her existence and she will rot there until her last breath.

We live so much of our day on automatic pilot — with little thought to what we are doing at the present moment — that we can get in that elevator with almost no effort on our part. Certain conversations or events trigger thoughts that push the “LL” (lower level) button. Then we walk out into a dark room and wonder how we got there.

Responsibility in Relationships: Stop Playing the Blame Game

Saturday, May 3rd, 2014

What Role do Sibling Struggles Play in Adult Relationships?

I often find it valuable to take commonplace sayings, or “rules” and, rather than just accept them at face value, “take them for a ride” to see if they ring true.

Most of us have heard the saying, “Others only treat you the way you allow them to.” The hard part about owning this belief is that we have to face the possibility that we are truly responsible for our relationships.

While it is my experience that this is true, it is also my experience that most of us would far rather rely on our “default” setting of blame. I recently had a situation that brought this saying into the realm of truth for me.

Avoid These 3 Mistakes When Going Through a Transition

Wednesday, April 30th, 2014

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Life is full of 180-degree turns. Just when we think we have things figured out, life throws us for a loop with both “good” things and “bad.”

Falling in love turns our world around. Having children, moving to a new place, getting married, getting divorced, getting a new job, retirement, deaths, accidents, births, accomplishments, graduations — all have the potential to destabilize our worlds. Every one of these transitions puts us into a state of flux so none of us is a stranger to the phenomenon.

Unfortunately, no matter how common transitional funks and confusion may be, what is also common are mistakes we make when trying to deal with them.

Workplace Bullying: The Importance of Catching It Early

Sunday, April 27th, 2014

Workplace Bullying: Catch it EarlyWorkplace bullying is probably one of the most expensive experiences you will endure. It can cost you your job, mental, physical and financial health, and in worse cases lead to suicide.

The good news is that workplace bullying has a timeline. If you intervene early enough, you can plan for the worst and be one step ahead in creating the best possible outcome.

Break the “Busy”ness Cycle: Live with More Intention

Sunday, April 27th, 2014

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Is the daily routine of life getting you down? Find your passion and live a more authentic life!

Do you ever have those times when you have been on the go non-stop trying to stay on top of all your responsibilities and get all the necessary things on your “to do” list accomplished — and then it hits you like a ton of bricks? You don’t have one more ounce of energy to keep going. You feel so stressed and overwhelmed from all the “busy”ness that you start losing things, forgetting things, your fuse with family, friends and co-workers is short and it feels like things are unraveling quickly?

Tips for Transitioning Graduates Into the Real World

Saturday, April 26th, 2014


As the end of the school year approaches, expectations and anxiety begin to loom in equal measure. Prior to graduation, the notion that “now life really begins” fills people with giddy anticipation.

However, there are several unexpected challenges that can take the young graduate by surprise, dismaying their parents who have been anxiously waiting for their offspring to spring into action on their own two feet.

If you know about the looming pitfalls in advance, you can expect the unexpected and plan ahead, lessening the impact on the student’s relationship with his or herself and the relationship between parent and “child.”

Ambush Firing: Is it Illegal?

Sunday, April 20th, 2014

Ambush Firing: Is it Illegal?Large corporations have a strategy to get you fired once you’ve been bullied in the workplace. It’s transparent to anyone who cares to look, but the company would rather keep it a secret. It’s called “ambush firing.”

What happens first is the target gets bullied. It usually takes several months for him to notice he is being bullied.

The Cost & Solutions to Stress and Mental Illness in the Workplace: An Interview with Graeme Cowan

Friday, April 18th, 2014

The Cost & Solutions to Stress and Mental Illness in the Workplace: An Interview with Graeme CowanThe direct cost of depression to the United States in terms of lost time at work is estimated at 172 million days yearly. According to the World Health Organization, mental disorders are the leading cause of disability in the U.S. and Canada.

Australian Graeme Cowan, who experienced a horrific five-year mental breakdown, published a report on this topic called, “The Elephant in the Boardroom: Getting Mentally Fit For Work.”

The Benefits of Stress

Tuesday, April 15th, 2014

The Benefits of StressStress.

What comes to your mind when you hear, read or write this word?

Most people consider stress to be bad. Many books and articles have been written about it. Much advice has been given on how to manage or overcome it. It is an unpleasant condition, which each of us try to avoid.

But stress is not necessarily your enemy.

Why Are We Drawn to Sad Movies?

Sunday, April 13th, 2014

Why Are We Drawn to Sad Movies?“The best movies transport us beyond time. We hitch a ride on the emotional roller coaster of the main character’s quest.” – Cathie Glenn Sturdevant

Conjure up any heartbreaking film: Chances are, I’ll most likely be interested in it.

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