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Getting Past Those Awkward Moments — in Baseball and in Marriage

Monday, November 24th, 2014

Getting Past Those Awkward Moments -- in Baseball and in MarriageYou might not expect to pick up marriage tips from a baseball team. Yet as my home team, the San Francisco Giants, moved toward the World Championship, I was struck by how they showed similar character traits to those I encourage in my couples therapy clients.

Some spouses I work with have explosive personalities. They become verbally abusive when their partner doesn’t do what they want. Such impulsive reactions harm their marital relationship. In sports and other competitive games, we call someone who acts this way a “poor sport.”

The San Francisco Giants Model Winning Relationships

Monday, November 10th, 2014

The San Francisco Giants Model Winning RelationshipsWhy would a marriage maven be writing about a baseball team? Living near San Francisco, how could I not get caught up in the hoopla? The Giants beat the odds again on October 29th, claiming their third World Series title in five years.

“How do they do it?” the pundits ask about this so-called team of misfits. And what does it have to do with marriage?

Actually, just about everything.

The Giants’ post-game interviews are enlightening.

Love Crimes: When the Abused Believe It’s for Their Own Good

Monday, October 13th, 2014

Love CrimesOne of the most nurturing, compassionate women I know is also an abused wife who once shared her biggest regret. Did she regret staying with her abusive husband? No. The most regretful day of her life was when she phoned the police after he physically assaulted her yet again.

“I ruined his life,” she said. “It’s the biggest mistake I ever made.” Immune to any reason, she pressed on, blaming herself for the “humiliation he had to endure” at anger management classes, the draining of her family’s resources on lawyer fees and the indelible black mark “she caused” on his otherwise spotless veneer.

Childhood PTSD: Spanking Is Not ‘About Love,’ It’s About Rage

Wednesday, September 24th, 2014

early-start-for-kids-with-autismMy first memory is of being spanked. I was 3 years old, and I didn’t know what I had done wrong. All I know is that it made me terrified of my father and forever doubtful of my safety in my home.

Minnesota Vikings running back Adrian Peterson was recently suspended after he was charged with reckless or negligent injury of a child after allegedly spanking his 4-year-old son with a switch. Peterson’s mother Bonita Jackson told the Houston Chronicle that spanking “is not about abuse”:

Music Speed and Exercise

Monday, July 14th, 2014

self care, exerciseIf you’re like us, you try to exercise to improve your health and fitness. Maybe you’ve tried one of our least favorite exercises: the dreaded plank. In this form of torture, you face down and balance on your toes and elbows, keeping your trunk rigid and horizontal, suspended above the ground for a specified period of time (Dave can manage 60 seconds).

It’s so excruciating that we’re always trying to figure out how to make the time pass quicker while we do planks. For years, researchers and marketers have known that playing music in waiting rooms can make visitors feel like time is passing faster. So listening to music while you do planks would probably make them (slightly) more bearable.

Introducing Sports on the Couch

Sunday, June 8th, 2014

Introducing Sports on the Couch

Have you ever watched a great game, then tuned into a sports talk radio the next day to hear all the analysis of the game? Many people have, and it’s great fun listening to commentators and experts talk about their perspective on the game.

That perspective is often limited to a discussion of strategy and personalities, without a lot of psychological insight. Have you ever wondered, What drives a player to play great one game and then bring a less-than-stellar performance the next three? Why do some star athletes seem to be laid back, while others are serious?

And what brings fans to follow one sport and care less about another? What drives fans in certain cities to be so rabidly supportive of their home teams, while fans in other cities seem like they could care less?

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