This guest article from YourTango was written by Larry Michel.
Are you someone who turns the lights down or off to have sex?
Tragically, this is all too common. A couple starts off with a good conversation. They feel comfortable. There’s a physical attraction, and the next thing you know the lights are off, they’re fumbling to remove their clothes, and then excitedly exploring each others’ bodies — in the dark.
The last part doesn’t sound so bad if you like exploring while blindfolded. But as a metaphor for intimacy, searching for a deep connection in the dark is a recipe for short-term, and certainly long-term, disaster.
Why? Because instead of turning the lights down, we need illumination.