Psychology Around the Net: November 21, 2015

With Thanksgiving just a few days away, we're in the throes of the holiday season here in America; unfortunately, this isn't a happy time for all. However, psychologists have a few tips and tricks to keep your holiday blues in check.

Of course, we've also got the latest on sex and happiness, how a mother's age could affect her daughter's mental health, whether your child's ADHD medication puts him or her at risk for bullying, and more.

Have a happy Saturday!

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Do You Suffer from Post-Coital Dysphoria or ‘Post-Sex Blues’?

If you've experienced depression after intercourse, you aren't alone.

According to a study published in the International Journal of Sexual Health, one in three of more than 200 young women surveyed have experienced "post-coital dysphoria" or "post-sex blues" following intercourse -- even satisfactory intercourse.

One would assume that following great sex, we're all left feeling spent, relaxed, rested and satiated. On the contrary, some of us feel great distress, want to curl up in a ball and cry for no apparent reason. Because there's very little research surrounding this condition, it's not easy to explain, and it's challenging to diagnose.
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Psychology Around the Net: October 17, 2015

Happy Saturday, Psych Central readers!

This week's Psychology Around the Net brings you the latest on therapy and your sex life, the effects of alcohol use on the economy, what exactly counts as creepy behavior, and more.


The Psychology of Sex: How Therapy Can Save Your Sex Life: Sometimes, physical conditions such as low testosterone and diabetes can lead to intimacy and sex problems; other times, mental health help such as talk therapy might be just what a couple needs to strengthen their relationship and boost their sex life.

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Hookup Culture: Dating Apps Don’t Change Who You Are

Every week there’s a new article published about how dating apps, specifically Tinder, are “tearing society apart” and fueling a “Dating Apocalypse” in America. I haven't been single in a while, so I was obviously curious about what changed. The answer is nothing.

Hooking up is nothing new. The one-night-stand wasn't invented during my lifetime. It would be naive to think there was a time when it didn't exist. It's not a Millennial invention, it's a Pleistocene invention. But is it a Millennial problem?
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The Line between Parenting and Political Correctness

Parenting is the most difficult, challenging, and stressful job anyone will ever do in their life. With a job that requires no qualifications and offers no training, how do parents know what is right and what is wrong when shaping their children for the future?

As parents we are supposed to protect our children. We are supposed to make choices for them when they are too young to make them for themselves. We are supposed to teach them to be compassionate, understanding, and kind. We are supposed to raise them to be independent and motivated to make decisions on their own.

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Tips to Restore Sexual Intimacy

What if you want sex more often than your mate? Or vice versa? Too often the “deprived” partner will blame the other. Don’t make this mistake. By calling your beloved selfish, cold, or frigid, you will only make things worse.

Pretending that no problem exists also will hurt your relationship. It is much more helpful to recognize your feelings and express yourself constructively.
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Authenticity: The Deep Hurt of Hiding Your True Self

"If I was lying on my deathbed and I had kept this secret and never ever did anything about it, I would be lying there saying, 'You just blew your entire life. You never dealt with yourself,' and I don’t want that to happen." - Caitlyn Jenner, Vanity Fair
We've all heard the expression, "live your truth." It means knowing and being yourself without the need for external validation. You're honest, you don't make excuses for yourself and you're not looking for something outside of yourself to complete you. You set healthy boundaries, care for yourself, and live your principles. You are yourself fully and respectfully, and you don't "turn it off" just to suit others' needs or desires.
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Brain and Behavior

Bruce Jenner’s Journey to His Authentic Self

Bruce Jenner, renowned for winning the 1976 Olympic decathlon and widely recognized as part of the Kardashian family, recently disclosed a deeply personal endeavor: He has decided to change his gender and finally embrace his true self. He has been fighting internal unrest his entire life.

He recently sat down for an interview with television journalist Diane Sawyer, letting the public in on his journey.

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Stigma Is Contagious

We all need to STOP infecting others with our own stigma.

I was recently scanning through the world’s favorite past time (Facebook, of course) and saw a post by one of my gay friends. That boy had called forth his inner diva and was on a roll about the stigma towards people with HIV.

I commend him with being so forthright about his status, but it also made me realize something. The way he was talking about the stigma of his illness can be applied to so many people of all different conditions.
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Marriage and Divorce

Relationship Troubles? Actions Speak Louder Than Words

Couples counseling is great, but actions always speak louder than words.

Many of us have been in a work meeting that went on for waaaay too long. The same people, saying the same things, over and over again. The same people complaining ad nauseam, using the meeting structure as an opportunity to vent about everything that is wrong with the company, its policies or their co-workers.

And they don't just state their complaint once and move on. Oh no. They state their complaint several times, often launching into long, drawn-out anecdotes to illustrate in excruciating detail just how bad things are.

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Migraines: Personality Inhibition and Sexual Repression

In my previous post, I discussed the underlying emotional environment that can trigger migraines, or keep people who struggle with chronic migraines consistently close to the migraine threshold. There are many possible triggers for migraines, and, for people who struggle with non-organic chronic migraines, emotional history may have significant relevance to this picture.

In my practice, I work with people who struggle with chronic migraines, utilizing a specialized form of psychotherapy that I refer to as "Migraine Therapy." While each person who comes in is an individual with her or his own history, there are certain themes that tend to accompany the migraine struggle.

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