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Overcoming Common Paralyzing Thoughts for Adults with ADHD

Thursday, June 26th, 2014

medication-adhd-treatmentMany people with ADHD have limiting beliefs that prevent them from achieving their goals, whether it’s going to graduate school or going for a promotion.

For instance, adults might think: “I could never do that, the boring parts would be too hard” or “I’m too lazy and not that smart,” according to Roberto Olivardia, Ph.D, a clinical psychologist and clinical instructor in the department of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School.

3 Unique Techniques for Navigating a Negative Inner Voice

Tuesday, June 24th, 2014

3 Unique Techniques for Navigating a Negative Inner VoiceEveryone has a negative inner voice. For some this voice speaks up occasionally. For others the voice is a frequent visitor.

According to Steve Andreas in his book Transforming Negative Self-Talk, “An internal voice may remind us of past failures, sorrows, or disappointments, torture us with criticism or verbal abuse, describe frightening or unpleasant futures, or disturb us in other ways.”

A negative inner voice can make us feel hopeless and helpless, because we can’t control the demoralizing thoughts brewing in our brains. However, there is something you can do — many things, in fact.

10 Habits for a Happy Marriage

Sunday, June 22nd, 2014

10 Habits for a Happy MarriageThe key to a happy marriage is the quality of your habits, according to therapists Ashley Davis Bush and Daniel Arthur Bush.

Thankfully, healthy habits can be learned. In their book 75 Habits for a Happy Marriage Davis Bush, LICSW, and Bush, Ph.D, share a variety of practical, valuable tips for couples to reconnect, communicate better and enhance their intimacy.

Expert Advice: 4 Great Tips for a Lasting Relationship

Sunday, June 22nd, 2014

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A round-up of love advice from the pros.

There are so many people who are either looking for love or are constantly talking about how to save their relationships. I remember having many of those conversations with friends. We were all either in difficult relationships or had been single for a long time.

We all knew that we needed to work on ourselves first, but none of us were really sure what the key to a great relationship was. Some felt that great sex could always bring the relationship to a place of connection; others thought that meaningful communication was the answer. And when both of those tactics failed, then there were those who believed in using outside assistance (such as therapists or coaches) for support.

No Time for Meditation? Squeeze in a Little Laughter Instead

Saturday, June 21st, 2014

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Seeking out something to laugh about on a daily basis — such as watching your favorite comedian online — may be just what you need to create a more relaxed, zen-like state of mind.

A new study by Loma Linda University Health reveals that joyful laughter produces an abundance of gamma brain waves, similar to those found in a person who meditates often.

Using laughter as a form of therapy — also known as Humor Associated with Mirthful Laughter (HAML) — is increasing in popularity as a holistic and non-pharmacological treatment.

3 Ways to Navigate Anxious Thoughts with Self-Compassion

Saturday, June 21st, 2014

3 Ways to Navigate Anxious Thoughts with Self-CompassionFor so many of us when we start having anxious thoughts, we get self-critical. We berate ourselves for our worries, sweaty palms and all-over shakiness.

We call ourselves names. We become ashamed and embarrassed.

What is wrong with you? You’re an idiot for getting anxious over something so small!

Bullied in the Workplace? Don’t Lose Your Power by Emotional Dumping

Friday, June 20th, 2014

Lose Your Power by Emotional DumpingEmotional dumping is when you verbally offload the intense rage or fear you feel onto someone you think should care and fix it now. For example, if you’ve been the target of workplace bullying, you might spew forth your outrage onto human resources or senior managers. You might expect them to do something, but become even more upset when they react in an oppositional way.

As a therapist, I regularly encounter this phenomenon, often from otherwise intelligent and articulate women who feel OK about seeking help and solace from others (men usually find it more difficult).

5 Steps to Find Calm: An Interview with Robert J. Wicks

Friday, June 20th, 2014

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Renowned psychiatrist Peter Kramer once said that the opposite of depression isn’t happiness. It’s resilience, the ability to bounce back from tragedy, to regain a healthy sense of perspective after traumatic or stressful experiences.

In my recovery from depression and anxiety, it is calm — more than excitement or joy or contentment — that I seek. I want merely to enjoy a good night’s sleep and an evening without negative intrusive thoughts. I want to keep my heart rate down during challenging weeks, to let emotion take a back seat to rational thought, if that is even possible.

3 Ways to Develop a Spiritual Practice

Thursday, June 19th, 2014

3 Ways to Develop A Spiritual PracticeThere are just as many thoughts and definitions of spirituality as there are people. That’s because spirituality is highly personal.

“How I define it is different from how you define it,” said Polly Campbell, a blogger, speaker and author who specializes in spirituality, positive psychology and personal development.

She described spirituality as a profound physical, emotional and intellectual awareness of her core self, as the connection to all that she is.

How to Find Your Teachers: Listen to the World Around You

Tuesday, June 17th, 2014

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“I would sit,” she offered unapologetically, “uncomfortable in my own skin, and think to myself that it would be worth the suffering because when I finished, I’d be happy. Like I was going to get this reward for suffering through it, for being tough and pushing through it. That’s what I thought meditation was. But I wasn’t really listening.”

These words from an absolute stranger, as I sat across from her on a hard metal stool at a cramped charging station in a somewhat undiscovered corner of a very busy LAX.

3 Myths about Managing Bipolar Disorder

Tuesday, June 17th, 2014

3 Myths about Managing Bipolar DisorderA common myth about bipolar disorder is that you need to experience a depressive episode in order to be diagnosed with the illness, according to Kelli Hyland, M.D., a psychiatrist in outpatient private practice in Salt Lake City, Utah.

However, a person only needs to experience a hypomanic or manic episode, she said.

Many other myths abound – misconceptions that can jeopardize how you manage and live with the disorder. Below are three such myths.

4 Ways to Benefit from Envy

Monday, June 16th, 2014

4 Ways to Benefit from EnvyIf I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning. ~ Mahatma Gandhi

Upward comparison is a universal experience. It is one way that we determine where we stand among others. There will always be someone more intelligent, funny, interesting, or accomplished to compare ourselves against. Others appear to have figured it all out when we feel we don’t have a clue.

The effects of these comparisons can hit us hard, influencing our emotions and our self-perception.

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