Marriage and Divorce

More Than Simply Surviving Infidelity, Couples Must Aim to Resume a ‘Normal’ Relationship

When couples are trying to recover from an incident of infidelity, the betrayal often becomes the oversized elephant in the room. In fact, in every room.

Infidelity typically looms over a relationship. Breakfast is served with a side of infidelity. The garden sprouts infidelity. The shower spews infidelity, and the bedroom… well, the bedroom blasts infidelity like a set of powerful speakers ramped to maximum volume.
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Anger

7 Red Flags to Watch Out for in a New Relationship

You’re dating someone new and everything seems to be going pretty well. That is until you spot something a little off in his (or her) behavior. When you’re first getting to know someone, you don’t want to analyze and judge every single thing he does or way he acts, but you also want to evaluate what kind of person he is and if he could be a good fit for you.

When we really like someone, we often want to overlook certain behaviors and chock it up to him or her having a bad day or our reading the situation wrong. But before you get too invested in someone, it’s important to know what her personality is really like. Here are seven red flags to watch out for in a new relationship.
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Friends

Backhanded Compliments: Identify, Recognize, & Resolve

Ever give a compliment to someone and they seemed upset with you? Maybe they did not show the gratitude you thought they would or gave you a funny look after. This could be the result of accidentally giving a backhanded compliment.

A backhanded compliment is a compliment that actually has an insult in it as well. WHAT?! I know, seems to not make much sense right? How could complimenting someone be loaded with an insult? Especially when we had no intentions of insulting the person. Unfortunately, it happens.
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Addiction

Own Your Faults and Resolve to Mend Them

“How few there are who have courage enough to own their faults, or resolution enough to mend them.” - Benjamin Franklin

Everyone has faults. Some cause only minor harm, while others get in the way of relationships, career, mental health and personal development. The issue isn’t the existence of faults, but how we deal with them.
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Industrial and Workplace

4 Steps to Help You Appear Interested Even If You’re Not

Frequently, other people are talking about a topic that we honestly are not that interested in. When we do not show interest though, there can be relationship consequences.

These consequences may include the following: the other person may become upset with us; the other person may not listen to us when we are discussing a topic we're interested in; or the other person may decide not to maintain a relationship with us.

You may ask yourself, "But why should I pretend to be interested or care when I don’t care?" The answer is to avoid these and other unpleasant consequences.
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Habits

3 Ways to Cultivate Happiness

I recently attended the Mindful Self-Compassion workshop with Kristin Neff and Chris Germer. There were a number of practices I took away from the workshop that resonated and ultimately could provide a foundation for living a happier and more peaceful life.

While self-compassion and mindfulness were at the heart of each practice the idea of there being 3 ways to cultivate happiness really stuck in my head. Three ways or practices seems rather simple, made it easier for me to remember and more likely for me to actually practice. Because, let’s face it, if it hard or not really enjoyable, it is less likely that one will do it. Keeping that sentiment in mind, below are 3 ways to cultivate happiness:
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Anxiety and Panic

The Number One Mistake in Dealing with Rejection

This is Part Two in a series on Overcoming Rejection. Read Part One here: Overcoming Rejection: 5 Inspiring Lessons from Famous Women.
Tell me if any of this sounds familiar. You’re being criticized by friends, family, or coworkers. You try to defend yourself but you end up feeling embarrassed, angry, or some other negative emotion. Most importantly, this situation happened days ago and you’ve been reliving it in your mind ever since. If this describes you, then you have done post-event processing, which can be one of the most harmful reactions to rejection.
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Anorexia

Pickles, Mustard & Diet Coke: Self-Talk in Eating Disorder Recovery

Oh…and shirataki noodles. Anyway…

I am a recovering anorexic. Well... most of the time. Sometimes I'm just "anorexic." (Relapse is part of recovery, right??)

Regardless of how “evolved” I may be now, nearly every comment made about my physical appearance, or my intake, or my weight... cuts through me like a knife. People think that they are being kind, but they don't hear their words through the same ED filter that I do. 
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