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Why Are We Drawn to Sad Movies?

Sunday, April 13th, 2014

Why Are We Drawn to Sad Movies?“The best movies transport us beyond time. We hitch a ride on the emotional roller coaster of the main character’s quest.” – Cathie Glenn Sturdevant

Conjure up any heartbreaking film: Chances are, I’ll most likely be interested in it.

Dealing with Betrayal

Saturday, April 12th, 2014

Betrayal_by_endintearsBetrayal is one of the most painful human experiences. Discovering that someone we trusted has deeply hurt us pulls the reality rug from under us.

When we see the word “betrayal” we may immediately think “affair.” But betrayal comes in many forms. Abandonment, vicious gossip, and spreading lies also may be experienced as betrayal.

Helping Your Kids Set Boundaries

Friday, April 11th, 2014

Helping Your Kids Set BoundariesI’ve interviewed various experts about boundaries, and one of the running themes is that most of us aren’t taught how to set boundaries as kids.

That’s because our parents didn’t know how to set boundaries, and they didn’t know because their parents didn’t know either, said Fran Walfish, Psy.D, a child and family psychotherapist in Beverly Hills, Calif. “This is really a generational repetition of patterns.”

Invisible Victims: When Men Are Abused

Wednesday, April 9th, 2014

Invisible Victims: When Men Are AbusedIn cases of domestic abuse throughout the world, the stereotype involves a man abusing a woman. For some, however, the story goes the other way around.

In figures quoted by HelpGuide.org, approximately one in three abuse victims are male. That’s 33 percent — a startlingly high number.

Men usually are blamed for abuse because of modern gender stereotypes. Women are perceived as the weaker, gentler sex, whereas men are perceived as being stronger and having natural tendencies toward violence. These stereotypes are false.

Introducing Healthy Romantic Relationships

Sunday, April 6th, 2014

Introducing Healthy Romantic Relationships

A healthy romantic relationship won’t always come naturally to all of us. Even the best relationship …

When Unconditional Love Has Conditions

Sunday, April 6th, 2014

When Unconditional Love Has Conditions

I was once working with a group of teenagers discussing “integrity agreements,” which I described as “either spoken or unspoken agreements not to hurt each other.” These integrity agreements are the fabric of our society.

This belief, that we won’t harm each other, is what allows us to walk down the street without worrying about getting shot or intentionally run over. I discussed with the teens how every time we break integrity agreements with each other — every time we cheat, lie, abuse, or harm — we weaken the agreement and create unstable relationships.

The Power of Cookies and Belonging

Saturday, April 5th, 2014

The Power of Cookies and BelongingI ate a Girl Scout cookie the other day — Samoa, to be exact — and rather than just thinking about its delicious combination of caramel and toasted coconut, I thought about the meaning of being a Girl Scout and the desire people have to belong to a group or to another person.

It is this desire that inevitably shapes who we are as people. We seek to fulfill this desire in order to gain a sense of acceptance and security. We avoid solitude because we ultimately fear ourselves and who we might become without the impact or comfort of others.

This fear or encouragement of belonging is instilled from early childhood. At age 4, many parents enroll their children in Little League or other social organizations. We are taught from a young age to belong to groups and to others.

A Mindful Practice to Fully Feel Your Anger

Saturday, April 5th, 2014

A Mindful Practice to Fully Feel Your AngerEarly in her practice, psychotherapist Andrea Brandt, Ph.D, M.F.T, found that the clients she was seeing were able to talk about their anger. They used popular techniques such as “I” statements. They were able to articulate when they felt angry.

And, yet, their anger wasn’t dissipating. Communicating their anger wasn’t the problem. The problem was their inability to fully feel that anger.

Sexual Sobriety: Recovering from Sex Addiction

Wednesday, April 2nd, 2014

Sexual SobrietyMaking the discovery that you are a sex addict usually is facilitated by a pivotal experience that brings to light behaviors that were shameful or secretive. Often the person’s life grinds to a halt. Faced with some sort of loss, there is a realization that one’s sexual behaviors have become unmanageable and important steps need to be taken toward healing.

Therapy can be an important first step, and finding a therapist with experience treating sex addiction is crucial.

Listening to Our Emotions

Wednesday, April 2nd, 2014

Listening to Our EmotionsIlene Dillon is a world-renowned change agent and transformation specialist. Believing that truth is simple, she seeks and imparts the most straightforward and simple ways to understand and live life. Known as the Emotional Pro, Ilene has conducted her Parenting Consciously and personal awakening workshops worldwide and on Internet radio. She was interviewed by Francine Silverman.

3 Communication Errors We Make All the Time & How to Fix Them

Wednesday, April 2nd, 2014

3 Communication Errors We Make All the Time & How to Fix ThemCommunicating seems relatively simple. All we have to do is open our mouths to speak, and, other times, hear what the other person is saying.

In reality, however, communication is a bit trickier. In a single conversation many things can get lost in translation.

Being Authentic, Not Obnoxious

Tuesday, April 1st, 2014

Why Men Don't Ask for Directions

Do you know people who pride themselves on being authentic, yet when you walk away from them, you feel badly about yourself and the interaction? Perhaps they’re angry, accusatory, blaming, and shaming, yet they have no clue how they’ve hurt you.

“I tell it like it is,” they proudly declare. “I say exactly what I think. You want me to be honest, right?”

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