Addiction

Addiction: Accepting the Treatment Norm Is Not an Option

For over fifty years the treatment industry has categorically failed. Personal experience of this writer as well as objective data has demonstrated that 3-5% of individuals who complete residential treatment will remain “sober” for a year or more. Additionally, according to the Baldwin Research Institute Inc., over 90% of all treatment in the U.S. is 12-step based and over 95% teach the disease concept. From any perspective and surely from a business perspective, a 95% failure rate is utterly unacceptable. Why does society and the medical/clinical community accept these findings? The answer seems to be “this is how we have always done it.”
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Anger

How to Cope when You Have a Problem with Over Empathizing

Empathy is defined as the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. Nature allots all of us varying degrees of empathy. Those in the helping professions (psychologists, social workers, counselors, etc.) tend to have a higher level of empathy than those in other positions. To that effect, they often find themselves spending an above average amount of time thinking about other people’s issues. So much so that they feel guilty when they can’t come up with a resolution for that person’s problems.
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Industrial and Workplace

4 Steps to Help You Appear Interested Even If You’re Not

Frequently, other people are talking about a topic that we honestly are not that interested in. When we do not show interest though, there can be relationship consequences.

These consequences may include the following: the other person may become upset with us; the other person may not listen to us when we are discussing a topic we're interested in; or the other person may decide not to maintain a relationship with us.

You may ask yourself, "But why should I pretend to be interested or care when I don’t care?" The answer is to avoid these and other unpleasant consequences.
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Bullying

Why Trump’s Election May Be Especially Difficult for Many Raised in Dysfunctional Families

I have heard from many who grew up with dysfunction, abuse, or narcissistic control how upset they feel by Donald Trump's election. As one person told me, “It feels like a nightmare. An egomaniac who cares little for my welfare is taking over my country and there is nothing I can do about it. I feel like I did as a kid when my autocratic dad had total control over all of us.”
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General

Who Looks After the President’s Mental Health?

Nearly 100 years ago, the U.S. appointed the first physician to look after the physical health of the president. As the president's personal doctor, he or she looks after the president's health and well-being, and provides the American public with an annual report on the president's general health.

With all that we've learned about the important and inseparable connection between physical and mental health, might it be time for the president to also have a personal psychologist or psychiatrist? After all, who looks after the president's mental health?

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Psychology

Not All Screams Are Heard

“Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways.”
~ Sigmund Freud
Concerning pain, there are two ways in which human beings are biologically programmed: To demonstrate our own, and to respond to that of others.
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General

Choice, Indecision, and Guilt

Any time we make a choice, we choose one thing and not another. One path is taken; another is abandoned. One choice lives, another dies. Why do I say dies? The Latin root of “decide” is “de-cidere.” The meaning of “cidere” is “to kill,” as in homicide and suicide. Every choice is a murder. To avoid this murder, we may keep ourselves stuck in indecision. Thus, to avoid indecision, we must bear the guilt of killing a choice.
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Family

Surviving Infidelity Requires the Partner Who Strayed to Feel Genuine Remorse

There are many practical reasons why men and women who have an affair outside of their committed relationships might wish to reverse course, reconcile, and move forward with their legitimate partner.

Affairs frequently turn messy and almost always leave emotional destruction in their wake, especially if children are caught in the middle. Children too, have many issues when their family is afflicted with infidelity.
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