When men attempt bold gestures, generally it’s considered romantic. When women do it, it’s often considered desperate or psycho.
~ Carrie Bradshaw (Sex & The City)
In Nicholas Sparks’s The Notebook, we see Noah carelessly hanging from a carnival Ferris wheel. He hopes that his bold gesture will be perceived as daring and romantic, and will therefore solidify a date with Allie, the girl he absolutely had to pursue.
Now, of course that’s an extreme scenario (albeit a fictional one), but that pivotal scene always had me wondering what would have happened if the roles were reversed.
If a girl decided to act in a similar manner, would that be seen (in societal terms) as persistent and vulnerable, with shades of romanticism? Or would she be dubbed as ‘crazy,’ or ‘psychotic?’ My personal opinion is that it’s typically the latter.