Social Exhaustion: Avoiding Introvert Burnout

Some people derive energy from being with others. These are extroverts. To introverts they seem to rule the world with their easy charm and ability to small talk just about anyone. An introvert doesn't derive energy from other humans. In fact, socialization exhausts the introvert, who must retreat to solitary in order to recharge their battery.

It's like a video game. In my corner is a little health meter. When it gets too low my character slows down and can hardly play. During this time I'm easily susceptible to injury, so I have to hide. The problem is I don't realize that my meter is running low until it's all gone and I can barely function.

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Their Pain Is Not Your Pain: 5 Tips for Highly Sensitive People

“You,” he said, “are a terribly real thing in a terribly false world, and that, I believe, is why you are in so much pain.”

That quote comes from Emilie Autumn’s psychological thriller novel, The Asylum for Wayward Victorian Girls. I used it a few months ago in a post to describe Robin Williams and why, I think, he was in so much pain. But I also think it’s true for me, and why I am in pain so much of the time.

Ten years ago, after reading
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Separating the Narcissist’s Delusion from Reality

If you've ever dealt with a narcissist, you've probably experienced the sharp shock when you noticed the world wasn't exactly the way the narcissist wanted you to think it is.

A narcissist can be a great storyteller. They captivate you with tales of personal triumphs, heroism, even selflessness. But it's when you look behind the curtain that you discover they've rewritten history. Not only are they living in a fantasy, you believed all their self-mythology.

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How to Stop Sabotaging Your Business Success

As a business owner, you’ve chosen to carve your own path and be the one responsible for your success. But do you ever wish that sometimes you could just get out of your own way?

What you might not realize is that specific, unconscious behaviors may be stalling you and holding you back.

Here are four bad habits to ditch to stop sabotaging your entrepreneurial success and tips for demolishing inertia:

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What Kind of Introvert Are You?

Aren't all introverts the same? A roundtable discussion among my friends brought up three resounding traits: they're socially awkward, they're socially anxious and they're wallflowers. But I don't identify with any of those things and yet I know I'm an introvert. Being around people makes me physically tired, even exhausted, and the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator test in high school labeled me just the same. So are there really introverts who like being around people? Of course there are.

Jonathan Cheek, a psychology professor at Wellesley College, recently told the blog
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The Codependent/Narcissist Dance: The Perfect Partnership

The inherently dysfunctional “codependency dance" requires two opposite but balanced partners: a pleasing, giving codependent and the needy, controlling narcissist. Like a champion dance partnership, the dancing roles of both are perfectly matched. The leader or taker needs the follower or giver in order that the dance appears effortless and flawless.

Typically, codependents give of themselves much more than their partners give in return. As generous but bitter dance partners, they find themselves perpetually stuck on the dance floor, always waiting for the next song, at which time they naively hope that their partner will finally understand their needs. Sadly, they never do.
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The Legend of the Two Wolves

There is a Cherokee legend about an elderly brave who tells his grandson about life.

“Son,” he says, “Within all of us there is a battle of two wolves. One is evil. He is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego."

He continued, “The other wolf is good. He is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth,
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3 Ways to Purge Your Inner Clutter

Edit your life frequently and ruthlessly. It's your masterpiece after all. - N.W. Morris
Most of us rarely listen to our bodies. Yet it is one of the most potent ways of connecting with the truth of who we are and the reality of our lives.

You might be feeling oppressed in some way, loaded with tension or sluggishness here and there throughout your body. But this is not necessarily a bad thing, and it is definitely not incurable. Most likely, you are emotionally cluttered. If you’re feeling wary, clumsy, irritable, sick or fatigued, it is time for you to do some emotional spring cleaning.
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Brain and Behavior

True Identity

The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. - Gandhi
Is our true identity in how we fall down or how we stand back up?

Many of us have bought into a devastating lie about the realities of being human. Somewhere along the way, we decided that we needed to secure approval from the people around us. We must get an A+ on our spelling test. We may never be caught in a lie. Only the things that everyone likes are acceptable as interests.

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