Healing the Effects of a Narcissist: Putting the Focus Back on You

I recently wrote about why you can’t win with a narcissist. Many readers asked what steps one would take to handle the narcissist in their lives. However, that all depends on the situation.

Relationships are complicated. There’s no one surefire way to deal with a narcissist, but you can focus on yourself and heal the hurt they have caused.

The narcissist in your life may be your elderly mother, the father of your children, your boss, even your adult daughter. 
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Is Popularity Relevant to Your Life as an Adult?

The level of popularity you experienced in childhood and as a teenager is still affecting you today in ways that you may not even realize. And that ignorance could be holding you back in your life -- in your career, your relationships, and more.

Popularity, it seems, is not something that is just important in high school. It affects how we rise in our career -- or get stuck going nowhere fast.

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3 Eye-Opening Lessons for Rethinking Rejection

Think about the last time you were rejected. Maybe it was by your boss or partner or even a stranger. Either way, it was probably painful. In fact, for many of us rejection is downright terrifying -- so much so that we try to avoid it at all costs.

Our fear of rejection might stop us from pursuing our dreams or passions, from even entertaining certain ideas (what if others think this is dumb? Never mind I’ll just scrap it). It might stop us from pursuing a relationship, like asking someone out. It might stop us from talking to a professor or supervisor about a project.
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Brain and Behavior

Child Psychology for Teachers

No one works harder than teachers. They dedicate their professional (and often their personal) lives to making sure the children they serve are as well-equipped and taken care of as any. Teachers have a lot of responsibility, are underpaid, and don’t have enough time in the day to do everything they need to do.

Listed below are three crucial elements of child psychology that will make teachers' lives easier.
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Psychology Around the Net: May 2, 2015

Learn about mindfulness and depression, how to gauge your emotional intelligence, ways to become happier, and more in this week's Psychology Around the Net.

Mindfulness May Be as Good as Meds for Staving Off Depression: One study suggests mindfulness may be as good as depression medication, perhaps offering an alternative for folks who don't want to take medication long-term.

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Brain and Behavior

Am I a Psychopath?

If you’ve tuned in to any one of the many prime-time television shows in the last five years, you’ve likely come across a suspenseful crime drama replete with personality-disordered characters. Many of us find ourselves plotting the crime better than the criminal, solving the case quicker than the "good guys," or discovering the hidden agenda halfway through the episode. I wager that many of you even empathize with the charismatic antagonist, at times, over the logical hero.

We are all quick to judge, analyze, question, and shame characters on the screen, all while making general comparisons to ourselves or our lives. What happens if there are strong similarities? What if you could plot a murder better than the serial killer? Did you root for the killer to escape from his or her consequential justice? If you said yes to any of these questions, does that make you a psychopath, too?

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3 More Reasons You Can’t Win with a Narcissist

In a previous post I wrote about three reasons you can't win with a narcissist. Here are three more reasons you're bound to lose when you're dealing with a profoundly selfish person who lacks empathy, makes you feel small and robs you of the happiness you deserve.

1. Narcissists make you feel guilty when you experience happiness because they expect you to put their happiness first.

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3 Reasons You Can’t Win with a Narcissist

We've all met one at some point. A man or woman who seems to believe they are the center of the universe. Arrogant, callous and manipulative, they force the world around them to accommodate this belief.

Self-important and conceited, the narcissist exaggerates accomplishments, requires endless praise, and has an uncanny ability to quash the achievements of others. They lack empathy and don't seem aware that you are a whole person with your own needs. In fact, you're only a useful tool, something to extract admiration from. The narcissist believes they're entitled to everything, including your time, your emotions and your self-esteem.

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3 Important Steps to Help Women Celebrate Themselves

How do you celebrate YOU?

So, here's a question, ladies -- Do you believe it's arrogant or selfish to celebrate...yourself?

Are you the type of woman (and women over 40 seem to struggle with this the most) who receives a compliment and immediately replies with, "Oh, this old thing," or, "Yeah, but (insert reason you shouldn't be complimented here)," rather than a simple, "Thank you"?

Do you deny the compliment-giver the gift of giving?
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45 Conversation Starters to Bolster Your Bond with Your Friends and Family

Is this a familiar scenario? You’re sitting around the table, at home or at a restaurant. You and your loved ones have already talked about each other’s days. You’ve already discussed the delicious meal and any upcoming plans.

And now you’re sitting and maybe eating. In silence. Or maybe everyone is looking down and tinkering with their phones.

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4 Warning Signs You’re Dating a Narcissist

As a child, you probably remember the joyful feeling of receiving a holiday basket, many times (if you celebrated Easter) featuring a giant chocolate bunny, front and center. Large and beautifully wrapped in twinkly tinfoil, it was clearly the highlight of the entire gift. But chances are, once you bit in you were quickly disappointed. On the inside it was just hollow.

That is what a relationship with a narcissist is like. In the beginning there’s flash and excitement. Their presence is magnetic and he or she seems larger than life. They are intelligent, charming, and popular, and when they’re the center of attention, some of the spotlight shines on you, too, leaving you glowing with pride, importance, and accomplishment. Yet after a while, you discover that under the surface the relationship is hollow. Soon, the excitement and status wear thin.

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