The Legend of the Two Wolves

There is a Cherokee legend about an elderly brave who tells his grandson about life.

“Son,” he says, “Within all of us there is a battle of two wolves. One is evil. He is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego."

He continued, “The other wolf is good. He is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth,
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3 Ways to Purge Your Inner Clutter

Edit your life frequently and ruthlessly. It's your masterpiece after all. - N.W. Morris
Most of us rarely listen to our bodies. Yet it is one of the most potent ways of connecting with the truth of who we are and the reality of our lives.

You might be feeling oppressed in some way, loaded with tension or sluggishness here and there throughout your body. But this is not necessarily a bad thing, and it is definitely not incurable. Most likely, you are emotionally cluttered. If you’re feeling wary, clumsy, irritable, sick or fatigued, it is time for you to do some emotional spring cleaning.
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Brain and Behavior

True Identity

The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. - Gandhi
Is our true identity in how we fall down or how we stand back up?

Many of us have bought into a devastating lie about the realities of being human. Somewhere along the way, we decided that we needed to secure approval from the people around us. We must get an A+ on our spelling test. We may never be caught in a lie. Only the things that everyone likes are acceptable as interests.

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Brain and Behavior

The Yes-And Rule and Confessions of a Wannabe Giver

Give, and you will receive. Your gift will return to you in full -- Luke 6:38

When I read Adam Grant’s book, Give and Take, I was impressed by the simplicity and novelty of the idea. He contends that there are three types of people, givers, takers, and matchers. The givers that do the best find ways of giving that are gracious and not depleting, yet they don’t worry about getting something back from the source they gave to. They give with the full belief that their giving comes back to them, almost in a karmic fashion, through other channels.

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5 Tips for Introverts for Replenishing Your Energy

As an introvert, you’re more likely to enjoy a small get-together than a roaring party. You prefer stillness and solitude. Social interactions tend to take a lot out of you, leaving you exhausted and drained.

As Jennifer B. Kahnweiler, author of the book Quiet Influence: The Introvert’s Guide to Making a Difference, told me in this piece, “The introvert gets their energy from within, while the extrovert is charged up by people, places and stimuli outside...
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Healing the Effects of a Narcissist: Putting the Focus Back on You

I recently wrote about why you can’t win with a narcissist. Many readers asked what steps one would take to handle the narcissist in their lives. However, that all depends on the situation.

Relationships are complicated. There’s no one surefire way to deal with a narcissist, but you can focus on yourself and heal the hurt they have caused.

The narcissist in your life may be your elderly mother, the father of your children, your boss, even your adult daughter. 
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Is Popularity Relevant to Your Life as an Adult?

The level of popularity you experienced in childhood and as a teenager is still affecting you today in ways that you may not even realize. And that ignorance could be holding you back in your life -- in your career, your relationships, and more.

Popularity, it seems, is not something that is just important in high school. It affects how we rise in our career -- or get stuck going nowhere fast.

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3 Eye-Opening Lessons for Rethinking Rejection

Think about the last time you were rejected. Maybe it was by your boss or partner or even a stranger. Either way, it was probably painful. In fact, for many of us rejection is downright terrifying -- so much so that we try to avoid it at all costs.

Our fear of rejection might stop us from pursuing our dreams or passions, from even entertaining certain ideas (what if others think this is dumb? Never mind I’ll just scrap it). It might stop us from pursuing a relationship, like asking someone out. It might stop us from talking to a professor or supervisor about a project.
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Brain and Behavior

Child Psychology for Teachers

No one works harder than teachers. They dedicate their professional (and often their personal) lives to making sure the children they serve are as well-equipped and taken care of as any. Teachers have a lot of responsibility, are underpaid, and don’t have enough time in the day to do everything they need to do.

Listed below are three crucial elements of child psychology that will make teachers' lives easier.
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Psychology Around the Net: May 2, 2015

Learn about mindfulness and depression, how to gauge your emotional intelligence, ways to become happier, and more in this week's Psychology Around the Net.

Mindfulness May Be as Good as Meds for Staving Off Depression: One study suggests mindfulness may be as good as depression medication, perhaps offering an alternative for folks who don't want to take medication long-term.

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Brain and Behavior

Am I a Psychopath?

If you’ve tuned in to any one of the many prime-time television shows in the last five years, you’ve likely come across a suspenseful crime drama replete with personality-disordered characters. Many of us find ourselves plotting the crime better than the criminal, solving the case quicker than the "good guys," or discovering the hidden agenda halfway through the episode. I wager that many of you even empathize with the charismatic antagonist, at times, over the logical hero.

We are all quick to judge, analyze, question, and shame characters on the screen, all while making general comparisons to ourselves or our lives. What happens if there are strong similarities? What if you could plot a murder better than the serial killer? Did you root for the killer to escape from his or her consequential justice? If you said yes to any of these questions, does that make you a psychopath, too?

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