Borderline Personality

Identifying Borderline Personality Disorder in a Friend or Loved One

Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is one of the most misunderstood, wrongly-diagnosed mental illnesses. It affects an estimated 14 million Americans, or 5.9 percent of all adults. That means more people suffer from BPD than Alzheimer’s. One out of five psychiatric hospital patients has BPD, as do 10 percent of people in outpatient mental health treatment centers.

Despite all of this, BPD is rarely discussed in public forums. This is in part due to the fact that very few people know what it is or how to identify it.
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The Purpose of Emotions as Told through ‘Inside Out’

I was a little skeptical of the animated feature film “Inside Out" when I first met Joy. "Not another lesson about replacing everything with positivity," I thought during the first part of the movie. Her dazzling blue hair, her incessant happy attitude, and her “go-get-'er” attitude were almost too much for me to handle.

I suppose one could say that Joy is the epitome of happiness. But her heart is in the right place. She really wants the best for 11-year-old Riley (the protagonist).
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6 Self-Assured Tips to Earn and Keep Respect

Because you do deserve R-E-S-P-E-C-T.

Do you feel as if people (or friends) take advantage of you? Do you let it happen? If you responded, "Yes" to one or both of these important questions, it's time for you to get the respect you deserve!

Respect is something you earn; however, no one deserves to be taken advantage of. Luckily it IS possible to change how others treat you!

Try these simple tips and tricks:

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5 Common Spiritual Ego Traps (and How to Avoid Them)

Though many of us may have a love-hate relationship with our ego, it’s necessary to remember that it serves an important spiritual role. In the positive, it gives us a distinct personal identity that helps us fulfill our life purpose, allowing us to share unique soul gifts with the world while working out our karma.

In the negative, the ego fools us into becoming overly identified with our bodies, thoughts and emotions. This attachment tricks us into believing we are fundamentally separate from God, one another and even our own souls, which leads to suffering. Over time, enough profound suffering eventually leads us back to God, completing the cycle.

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Social Exhaustion: Avoiding Introvert Burnout

Some people derive energy from being with others. These are extroverts. To introverts they seem to rule the world with their easy charm and ability to small talk just about anyone. An introvert doesn't derive energy from other humans. In fact, socialization exhausts the introvert, who must retreat to solitary in order to recharge their battery.

It's like a video game. In my corner is a little health meter. When it gets too low my character slows down and can hardly play. During this time I'm easily susceptible to injury, so I have to hide. The problem is I don't realize that my meter is running low until it's all gone and I can barely function.

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Their Pain Is Not Your Pain: 5 Tips for Highly Sensitive People

“You,” he said, “are a terribly real thing in a terribly false world, and that, I believe, is why you are in so much pain.”

That quote comes from Emilie Autumn’s psychological thriller novel, The Asylum for Wayward Victorian Girls. I used it a few months ago in a post to describe Robin Williams and why, I think, he was in so much pain. But I also think it’s true for me, and why I am in pain so much of the time.

Ten years ago, after reading
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Separating the Narcissist’s Delusion from Reality

If you've ever dealt with a narcissist, you've probably experienced the sharp shock when you noticed the world wasn't exactly the way the narcissist wanted you to think it is.

A narcissist can be a great storyteller. They captivate you with tales of personal triumphs, heroism, even selflessness. But it's when you look behind the curtain that you discover they've rewritten history. Not only are they living in a fantasy, you believed all their self-mythology.

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How to Stop Sabotaging Your Business Success

As a business owner, you’ve chosen to carve your own path and be the one responsible for your success. But do you ever wish that sometimes you could just get out of your own way?

What you might not realize is that specific, unconscious behaviors may be stalling you and holding you back.

Here are four bad habits to ditch to stop sabotaging your entrepreneurial success and tips for demolishing inertia:

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What Kind of Introvert Are You?

Aren't all introverts the same? A roundtable discussion among my friends brought up three resounding traits: they're socially awkward, they're socially anxious and they're wallflowers. But I don't identify with any of those things and yet I know I'm an introvert. Being around people makes me physically tired, even exhausted, and the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator test in high school labeled me just the same. So are there really introverts who like being around people? Of course there are.

Jonathan Cheek, a psychology professor at Wellesley College, recently told the blog
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The Codependent/Narcissist Dance: The Perfect Partnership

The inherently dysfunctional “codependency dance" requires two opposite but balanced partners: a pleasing, giving codependent and the needy, controlling narcissist. Like a champion dance partnership, the dancing roles of both are perfectly matched. The leader or taker needs the follower or giver in order that the dance appears effortless and flawless.

Typically, codependents give of themselves much more than their partners give in return. As generous but bitter dance partners, they find themselves perpetually stuck on the dance floor, always waiting for the next song, at which time they naively hope that their partner will finally understand their needs. Sadly, they never do.
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