Parenting Articles

The Importance of Involving Children in Household Chores

Saturday, March 21st, 2015

Sharing Household Chores with KidsAs much as we parents like to protect our babies, we are also responsible for preparing and teaching them about the various realities of life. The ability to cope with disappointments, accept the consequences of their actions, develop problem-solving skills, and become functioning, independent adults depends largely on our parenting choices.

Self-respect, responsibility, and accountability are not things that come naturally to toddlers and young kids. We must repeatedly teach them, show them, and help them to develop these traits and skills through our own actions as well as the expectations that we set for them.

Parenting Advice: Understanding Your Teen’s Cyberlife

Wednesday, March 18th, 2015

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Like it or not, this is the world your kids are living in. You have to learn to live in it, too.

Unlike my parents, I have always had indoor plumbing. I am guessing when they first started putting toilets in homes that more than one person protested. “In the house? Why would you want that in the house?”

However, I never once heard my parents say, “Life was sure a lot better when we had to go outside in the middle of the night.”

When I hear complaints about advancing technology, I think it is a lot like indoor plumbing. It may be questioned at first, but no one is going back to the outhouse.

Common Things Parents Say to Their Kids about Therapy that Aren’t Helpful

Tuesday, March 17th, 2015

Social Support Helps Relieve Some Anguish from BullyingParents often use therapy as a last resort, said Kate Leyva, a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in working with children, teens and families in Lafayette, Calif.

So by the time your child starts working with a therapist, you may be feeling helpless, scared, angry and ashamed. Many parents do, said Clair Mellenthin, LCSW, a child and family therapist. “Many parents feel shame for not being able to ‘parent’ their child’s emotional and behavioral difficulties and struggles away.”

How to Co-Parent Successfully after Divorce

Friday, March 13th, 2015

self-compassionate-parentingThere can be few experiences more painful in life than divorce. Divorces involving children are particularly fraught, with the tradition dictating that the mother is granted custody while the father gets visiting rights. However, recent years have seen the rise of co-parenting — a far more balanced approach which emphasizes the role of both parents in the children’s upbringing.

The sudden breakdown of the family structure after a divorce can be traumatic for children, who commonly experience feelings of abandonment, confusion and loss. Sadly, parents who remain adversarial may compound this trauma.

Tips for Moms to Make Time for Themselves

Tuesday, March 10th, 2015

Study All New Moms Should be Screened for Postpartum DepressionMoms wear many hats and tackle a slew of responsibilities every day. Depending on your children’s ages and circumstances, you might do everything from dressing and feeding your kids to picking them up from school and helping with homework. Then there are the household chores to deal with, too.

In the midst of all these moments and tasks, there’s very little time for you — even though self-care is essential for our well-being.

Top 10 Asperger’s Blogs of 2015

Friday, March 6th, 2015

job-question-woman-typing-laptop-computerAsperger’s is a curious syndrome, showing itself differently between individuals. One person may exhibit repetitive speech and one-sided conversations, while another will have challenges with nonverbal communication and have awkward mannerisms. Others may not engage appropriately in social interactions, may appear self-centered, lack empathy, or be obsessed with a particular topic. A person with AS will not usually show delays in language or cognitive development, and this is what sets it apart from autism.

There is heartfelt discussion of the impact of diagnosis in the AS blogosphere. The American Psychiatric Association’s diagnostic reference book, the DSM, added Asperger Syndrome to its fourth edition in 1994. 

7 Steps to Free Your Child from Anxiety

Wednesday, March 4th, 2015

freeing your childI had my share of panic attacks as a kid.

Especially over schoolwork.

I was dead sure, absolutely positive, that I would never ever be able to complete the assignment, pass the test, and get forwarded to the next grade. Because I was so stupid, I thought, I would have to repeat fifth grade until I was 20 years old, at which time everyone would mistake me for my classmates’ mom and I would have to make all my friends’ lunches.

I believe everyone is born with an “I can” voice and an “I can’t” voice. Some folks emerge from their mother’s wombs with a fervent confidence that follows them to their grave. They never ever question their ability to make friends, find a spouse, or get a job. Others will second-guess themselves on everything from learning when to poo in the potty to picking out a nursing home for their final chapter.

Take, Take, Take and Never Give

Sunday, March 1st, 2015

money 2 billsMike was grumbling about his daughter Crystal.

“She told me she was in ‘desperate need’ of a state-of-the-art computer only six months after she ‘needed’ a ‘loan’ because the lease on her Lexus had expired. Crystal wasn’t even apologetic when she asked me to foot the bill. She just rattled off a bunch of reasons about why she couldn’t pay for them and why I should.”

Mike continued. “When Crystal was younger, I used to think she’d outgrow this pattern. But she’s 25 years old now and I don’t see anything changing. She wants what she wants and doesn’t care how her wants affect me or her mother. We try to reason with her or tell her no but she’s an expert at wearing us down.”

Failure to Launch

Friday, February 27th, 2015

video-game-addiction-fix-itselfJohn was never the greatest of students but he did manage to graduate from college in six years. Yay! His parents breathed a sigh of relief. Finally, he had accomplished what he set out to do.

Now, three years later, Mom and Dad are feeling increasingly distressed. John is living back home and going nowhere. His motivation to get a job comes and goes. The bulk of his day is spent on social media, video games and getting high.

He shows little interest in becoming an independent, self-sufficient adult. If his parents would get him an apartment, he’d move in a minute. But the idea of working toward that goal is beyond him.

Remembering ‘Parenthood’

Monday, February 23rd, 2015

Parenthood TV showThe TV show “Parenthood” recently ended after six seasons and viewers bid goodbye to …

The Link between Bullying and Children’s Body Image

Tuesday, February 10th, 2015

Body ImageThe U.K. government recently released the results of a nationwide survey to better understand public perceptions of body image. Shockingly, they discovered that 87 percent of girls aged 11- 21 think that women are judged more on their appearance than on their ability.

This is worrying. Evidence from academic experts shows that poor body confidence can have a devastating effect. From achieving at school to effectively dealing with bullying, healthy body image is important for children. (The term “body image” describes a person’s comfort level with his or her body, their integrated sense of body and self, and the extent to which their personal value is tied up with their physical appearance.)

Whatever your role with children and young people, we all have a responsibility to do everything we can to give out positive messages about our bodies to further the fight against bullying.

5 Ways to Build Children’s Self-Esteem

Saturday, February 7th, 2015

child_overcome_negative_thinkingParents tend to forget about the importance of self-esteem in their children’s lives. Great intelligence or talent may not come to full fruition in adulthood if self-esteem is lacking. That’s why it’s important for parents to take action early in their kids’ lives to ensure a healthy dose of self-confidence and high self-esteem.

Here are five practical tips on how to build children’s self-esteem:

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