As a therapist, a common question I get asked is: “When is the best time to get help?”
It may not have even occurred to you to get some professional advice, even if you’ve Googled your problem. It’s common to believe that you should be able to fix it yourself and that seeking help is a sign of weakness.
Every day, I see clients who have tolerated a problem for way too long. Whether the problem is a marital- or work-related issue, it’s possible that the person has had it for years or even decades. I hear myriad tales of all kinds of abuse: verbal, emotional, sexual and even physical. My clients ask me “is it my fault?” as they blame themselves and feel guilty for their supposed sins.
I tell them that the only mistake they’ve made is in tolerating it for way too long.