Mindfulness Articles

The Power of Positive Feedback

Thursday, July 10th, 2014

The Power of Positive FeedbackI recently wrote about the importance of receiving – and how letting in good stuff is often more difficult than giving. But this is not to minimize the value and power of extending ourselves in generous ways to others.

How often have we felt devalued, unappreciated, and criticized? A basic human need is to be valued, seen, and appreciated. When this longing goes unmet — when our basic value and goodness are not recognized and reflected back to us — we may find it difficult to value and affirm ourselves.

Busting Summertime Depression

Tuesday, July 8th, 2014

The Four Horsemen of the ApocalpyseThe mark of summer is upon us. The kids are out of school, it’s hot, and it’s the season in which everyone expects to feel good. Except you don’t.

Let’s take a look at some of the causes of summertime depression.

Treating Social Anxiety with Meditation and Mindfulness Training

Saturday, July 5th, 2014

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Meditation is at the core of a new generation of treatments for social anxiety.

Kevin Schjerning, a 48-year-old film and video editor, doesn’t simply dislike social gatherings; he finds them overwhelming. “I basically feel claustrophobic,” he says. “I have to get out of there.”

An estimated 22 million people in the U.S. have social anxiety disorder, an intense and disabling fear of being judged or humiliated in social situations. Living with this disorder can make day-to-day social interactions a painful challenge. Even the prospect of meeting a friend for lunch might be daunting.

Find Out How You Can Ease Chronic Illness with Meditation and Mindfulness

Wednesday, July 2nd, 2014

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A novel study suggests that meditation and mindfulness can greatly improve the lives of people with chronic illness, particularly those with diabetes mellitus or coronary heart disease. Instead of worrying about the past or the future, patients begin to gently accept the limitations of their illness and focus on what is possible and beneficial in the present moment.

The study, published in Behavioral Medicine, found that patients who practice meditation and mindfulness experience better sleep and relaxation patterns and have a more accepting outlook toward living with a long-term illness.

No Time for Meditation? Squeeze in a Little Laughter Instead

Saturday, June 21st, 2014

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Seeking out something to laugh about on a daily basis — such as watching your favorite comedian online — may be just what you need to create a more relaxed, zen-like state of mind.

A new study by Loma Linda University Health reveals that joyful laughter produces an abundance of gamma brain waves, similar to those found in a person who meditates often.

Using laughter as a form of therapy — also known as Humor Associated with Mirthful Laughter (HAML) — is increasing in popularity as a holistic and non-pharmacological treatment.

3 Ways to Navigate Anxious Thoughts with Self-Compassion

Saturday, June 21st, 2014

3 Ways to Navigate Anxious Thoughts with Self-CompassionFor so many of us when we start having anxious thoughts, we get self-critical. We berate ourselves for our worries, sweaty palms and all-over shakiness.

We call ourselves names. We become ashamed and embarrassed.

What is wrong with you? You’re an idiot for getting anxious over something so small!

5 Steps to Find Calm: An Interview with Robert J. Wicks

Friday, June 20th, 2014

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Renowned psychiatrist Peter Kramer once said that the opposite of depression isn’t happiness. It’s resilience, the ability to bounce back from tragedy, to regain a healthy sense of perspective after traumatic or stressful experiences.

In my recovery from depression and anxiety, it is calm — more than excitement or joy or contentment — that I seek. I want merely to enjoy a good night’s sleep and an evening without negative intrusive thoughts. I want to keep my heart rate down during challenging weeks, to let emotion take a back seat to rational thought, if that is even possible.

3 Ways to Develop a Spiritual Practice

Thursday, June 19th, 2014

3 Ways to Develop A Spiritual PracticeThere are just as many thoughts and definitions of spirituality as there are people. That’s because spirituality is highly personal.

“How I define it is different from how you define it,” said Polly Campbell, a blogger, speaker and author who specializes in spirituality, positive psychology and personal development.

She described spirituality as a profound physical, emotional and intellectual awareness of her core self, as the connection to all that she is.

How to Find Your Teachers: Listen to the World Around You

Tuesday, June 17th, 2014

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“I would sit,” she offered unapologetically, “uncomfortable in my own skin, and think to myself that it would be worth the suffering because when I finished, I’d be happy. Like I was going to get this reward for suffering through it, for being tough and pushing through it. That’s what I thought meditation was. But I wasn’t really listening.”

These words from an absolute stranger, as I sat across from her on a hard metal stool at a cramped charging station in a somewhat undiscovered corner of a very busy LAX.

The Advantages of Being Conflict-Avoidant

Friday, June 6th, 2014

how_to_calm_down_after_a_fightHave you ever been told that you’re conflict-avoidant? Do you cringe in shame when people utter these dreaded words or ones like it? Do you find yourself leveling such accusations toward others?

The pitfalls of avoiding conflict may be obvious. We may conceal our genuine feelings, desires, and viewpoints because we’re afraid of how we’ll be seen or received by others.

Some Guidelines to Minimize Conflict and Maximize Connection

Sunday, June 1st, 2014

Using Curiosity to Improve Your RelationshipI often hear clients ask whether it’s always wise to express their true feelings — and how to share them in ways that invite contact rather than conflict.

Some people insist that every feeling they notice needs to be expressed to their partner or friends.They fear that by holding back, they’ll diminish themselves or lose self-respect. They maintain that by holding something back, they’re not being fully authentic, which might undermine trust and connection.

5 Ways to Strengthen Your Connection to Yourself

Tuesday, May 27th, 2014

5 Ways to Strengthen Your Connection to YourselfTo feel more connected to others it’s important that we first connect to ourselves.

“[W]e need to be grounded in who we are before we can have healthy relationships with others,” said Jennifer Kogan, LICSW, a psychotherapist who provides individual and couples counseling in Washington, D.C.

When we connect to ourselves we’re also able to create lives that are meaningful and fulfilling.

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