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Adults and ADHD: Reminders for When You’re Feeling Overwhelmed

Monday, January 5th, 2015

Adults And ADHD: Reminders for When You’re Feeling OverwhelmedClinical psychologist Roberto Olivardia’s clients who have attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) regularly tell him they feel overwhelmed by everyday tasks. “They feel as if they are in the midst of an avalanche of chores they cannot properly prioritize, organize or execute.”

Tasks such as paying the bills, preparing dinner, or getting the car fixed can feel monumental, he said. On top of that, adults with ADHD can feel frustrated seeing others without ADHD accomplish these tasks with little effort, he added. “This leads many with ADHD to feel like they are ‘failing at life.'”

A Surprising Way to Quiet Your Inner Critic

Sunday, January 4th, 2015

The Many Factors That Trigger DepressionSelf-criticism has many faces. It might be a subtle push toward producing better work, or it might be an aggressive or abusive assertion that you’re wrong, bad or seriously flawed, said Ali Miller, MFT, a therapist in private practice in Berkeley and San Francisco, Calif., who specializes in helping adults live more authentic, empowered and connected lives.

Self-critical thoughts have two things in common, she said: They’re very painful, and they’re founded on the belief that you’re not good enough.

They may sound like: “I’ll never amount to anything,” “I’m so lazy,” “I always ruin relationships,” “I’m a lousy cook/mom/dad/friend/worker/person.”

Learn to Bring Light into the New Year

Thursday, January 1st, 2015

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‘Tis the season for drinking too much eggnog, eating too much, and pulling out old family hangover cures.

We’ve just moved past the Winter Solstice, the darkest time of the sun cycle, which happened within hours of the New Moon, the darkest moment of the moon cycle. We are in a season of darkness upon darkness, and it will take some time to start seeing more natural light again.

As human animals, light is an important aspect of our nourishment, like food and breath. I think part of the reason we have so many holiday parties during this time of year is to try to bring some light, even if it’s in the form of tea candles and colourful martinis, to a dark time.

30 Prompts to Reflect on In the New Year

Thursday, January 1st, 2015

The Power of the Written WordIn 2014 I shared 60 prompts we can respond to in order to get to know ourselves. (See here and here.)

Here’s another list of 30 prompts to help you delve deeper, take kinder care of yourself and connect to the core that is you. Prompts include everything from reflecting on 2014 to exploring your favorites to lessons you’ve learned about yourself.

A Kinder Take on New Year’s Resolutions for 2015

Wednesday, December 31st, 2014

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This time of year inspires us to be “out with the old and in with the new.” Is it a healthy path to take or are we caught in the self-improvement vortex?

Perhaps it is our restlessness, our lack of self acceptance and our inability to be with what is that makes this seems like a great opportunity to be better, do better, and have more.

The desire to change can be strong: an urgent craving that fills us with an energy we interpret as our inner voice speaking to us from a deep yearning to make our dreams come true. But is it actually a form of aggression toward ourselves?

Adding Power to Your New Year’s Resolutions

Wednesday, December 31st, 2014

Five Ways Autumn Boosts Our SpiritsI’ve lost interest in New Year’s resolutions. I’ve long since lost the “rah-rah-rah” energy for deciding something, trying to be a new kind of me, with better results in the world out there — thinner, kinder, richer, organized, highly successful, time for everyone and never missing a yoga class.

And yet, it seems New Year’s resolutions haven’t finished with me yet. Driving along, following the river one afternoon, I was musing on the word “intention.” In-tend. Tend-in.

Using Yoga to Return to Your Body

Tuesday, December 30th, 2014

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The yoga that we practice here in North America has a fascinating and complex history and lineage. There are influences from different branches of Hindu religion, Buddhist philosophy, and the maligned wandering Hatha yogis who displayed extreme postures in the streets of India in the late 1800s.

As a result, we can get mixed messages about what it is we are doing in our yoga. For example, sometimes we get the lesson that the world we live in is an illusion, and that we do our yoga practices to separate ourselves from the ignorance we live in, to wake up from the larger dream. If we can still our minds, the theory goes, we will be free of the pain and distraction of being a human in a complicated world.

The Wisdom of Insecurity: The Promise and Perils of Being in the Moment

Sunday, December 28th, 2014

despair-513529_640When I read The Wisdom of Insecurity by the philosopher Alan Watts during college in the 1960s, it turned my world around. He hammered home a point that is as simple as it is startling: life only exists in the present moment. Rather than blindly pursue a happiness that continually eludes us, we need to open to what is here now.

As Watts puts it,

“If happiness always depends on something expected in the future, we are chasing a will-o’-the-wisp that ever eludes our grasp, until the future, and ourselves, vanish into the abyss of death.”

Very simple, very profound, but misleading?

Toward a Language of Gratitude: My Problem with Saying ‘No Problem’

Wednesday, December 24th, 2014

How Gratitude and Kindness Go Together for Brain-Changing Happiness

“Thanks for being there for me yesterday. It really helped to talk with you.”

“No problem.”

“The flowers are really beautiful! Thanks for bringing them.”

“No problem.”

“I appreciate the ride to the airport.”

“No problem.”

In each of these interactions, there is something offered and gratitude expressed. Yet the giver does not appear to receive the gratitude. There is a lost opportunity for a deeper flow of giving and receiving.

3 Tips for Staying Present with Your Kids

Sunday, December 21st, 2014

3 Tips for Staying Present with Your Kids Being present with your kids is fundamental to connecting with …

Psychology Around the Net: December 20, 2014

Saturday, December 20th, 2014

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From holiday gift ideas to dealing with our bosses’ bad moods, today’s Psychology Around the Net is sure to keep you on the edge of your seats!

The Best Psychology Books of 2014: The Guardian writer Lisa Appignanesi provides a list of six of the best psychology books over the past year. (HINT: You might even get one or two holiday gift ideas from this one!)

The Best Christmas Gift Ever: Finding Blessings in Challenges: Speaking of holiday gifts, oftentimes some of our greatest blessings come from our greatest challenges. When have you faced a challenge that turned around and offered you a gift?

5 Mindful Ways to Protect Against Depression

Friday, December 19th, 2014

5 Mindful Ways to Protect Against DepressionCultivating a life of happiness is much the same as cultivating a garden. They both come with pests, and we can choose how we want to treat the pests. Using the example of a vegetable garden, we treat the vegetables and the soil to protect from pests that may interfere with growth and cause damage.

One choice is to spray pesticides. But pesticides also get into the soil, destroying needed nutrients and minerals, and ultimately affect the vegetables’ taste and quality.

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