Marriage and Divorce Articles

When Your Partner Has Difficulty Expressing Emotion

Thursday, September 18th, 2014

When Your Partner Has Difficulty Expressing EmotionWhen partners aren’t able to express their emotions, it can erode the relationship. Emotions give us important information that we can use to better understand our needs, priorities and limits. We can use emotions to set boundaries and make decisions.

“If you’re not authentically experiencing, expressing, and learning from your emotions, then that erodes trust, security, intimacy and closeness,” said Jared DeFife, Ph.D, a clinical psychologist and relationship coach in Atlanta, Ga.

5 Divorce Facts That Might Change Your Idea of Splitting Up

Sunday, September 14th, 2014

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Find out how 50 percent of divorcees feel about their separation.

Many people think they have it all figured out when it comes to divorce. The whole “50 percent of marriages end in divorce” statistic gets thrown around a lot. Everyone knows someone whose family was torn apart by it. But there’s so much more to know about ending marriages.

Psychology Around the Net: September 13, 2014

Saturday, September 13th, 2014

Tips for Getting to Sleep and Staying Asleep

What happens when you and your partner are on different sleep-wake schedules? Do you experience anxiety when waiting on a text reply? What about social media — how is it affecting both your brain and your body? Find out within this week’s Psychology Around the Net.

Couples on Different Sleep Schedules Can Expect Conflict — and Adapt: If “[e]xperts think couples tend to have more stable sleep-wake routines and help co-regulate each other,” what happens when the two have sleep-wake schedules completely out of whack with one another?

Are You Fighting Fair? 5 Ways NOT to Fight With Your Partner

Wednesday, September 10th, 2014

Why Fighting With Your Spouse Might Save Your Marriage

There’s a reason you aren’t getting along.

Are you finding it difficult to communicate with an ex or with your partner? If so, then this article will shed some light on why you keep having challenging and aggressive conversations.

Below are five critical mistakes I see my clients (and myself!) making to create arguments, spur hatred and disable relationships.

Reader Question: How Can I Spice Up My ‘Monotogamy’?

Thursday, September 4th, 2014

Reader Question: How Can I Spice Up My 'Monotogamy'?Reader Monotogamous (do you see how I’m trying to coin that phrase?  Monotonous monogamy?  Come on, that’s pretty good) writes:

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years and I feel I am getting emotionally detached from him because we never have sex … I saw that he was watching porn all the time a few days ago and it bothered me because I feel he’s lost interest in me sexually and physically. I feel as if we are just friends. What are some ideas I could use to bring “love” back?

Well, M, I applaud you for trying to bring the spark back into your relationship. As far as I see it, there are three main areas in a relationship: Sex, Trust, and Communication.

Couples You Meet in Counseling #3: Mr. and Mrs. Just Not Feeling It

Wednesday, September 3rd, 2014

Couples You Meet in Counseling, #3: Mr. and Mrs. Just Not Feeling ItIn my previous two posts, I examined Mr. Perfect and his Crazy Wife, and the Ice Queen and the Martyr. Both of those couples are easier to work with in couples counseling than #3, Mr. and Mrs. Just Not Feeling It. 

Emotionally, this couple acts like they are already divorced, and have been for many years. There is rare, or no, sex, and often the partners sleep in separate rooms. The relationship can be entirely cold, sarcastic and bickering, or amicably businesslike.

5 Ways to Tell if You’re Having an Emotional Affair

Monday, September 1st, 2014

3 Signs Your Relationship is in Trouble

Would your partner really be OK with this?

Successful relationships are built on safety and trust — and a betrayal of that trust can derail a partnership before you know it. Both in the media and in our personal lives, we tend to associate such betrayals with physical affairs; however, an emotional affair, even without sex, can be just as threatening to your relationship.

Money and Relationships: Are You REALLY Fighting About Finances?

Sunday, August 31st, 2014

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Don’t let your money troubles prevent you from having a great relationship.

My husband and I have had countless arguments about money. And we’re not alone; divorce statistics suggest that money is the major cause of most divorces. Suffice it to say that money is a hot topic and one that a lot of relationships struggle with.

However, the source of most of these arguments is not really money. In fact money arguments and stress have three completely different causes.

Is History Repeating in Your Love Life? Understand the Power of Love Scripts

Friday, August 29th, 2014

The Power of Love ScriptsIs it just a bad break that you have had one troubled relationship after another while your friend has had an amazing long-term marriage?

Is it just an astonishing coincidence that the difficulties you had with your mom you now have with your spouse?

Did you promise yourself that you’d never get involved with another alcoholic then find yourself marrying a workaholic?

What’s going on here? Do we have free will in determining our relationships? Or is our destiny scripted from birth, like a Greek tragedy?

The answer: a bit of both.

How a Little Space and Time Can Help Heal a Relationship Crisis

Thursday, August 28th, 2014

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“Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to go forward.” – C.S. Lewis

When you’re in the middle of any sort of relationship crisis, the very last thing you want to do is let go. Conflict with someone you love often makes you want to do the very opposite, especially when the other person is already doubting the future of the relationship.

When we’re feeling threatened by the loss of someone we love, we act from a place of fear. Our stress hormones skyrocket as we react with our fight or flight instinct. Suddenly we hold tighter, talk more, do more, and think of nothing else.

Soul Mates: Do They Really Exist?

Thursday, August 28th, 2014

Soul Mates: Do They Really Exist?Lately, I’ve perused articles regarding soul mates, and I couldn’t help but note how a soul mate may often be conceptualized as an individual’s “other half to their whole,” synchronizing with Plato’s theory.

A news article on Psych Central even relayed that those who perceive their partner as their soul mate, as being part of that kind of unity, were more dissatisfied in their relationship when conflict arose. After all, if you are with your soul mate, the perfect counterpart, why should trouble even surface? Couples who viewed their relationship as a journey, a journey that involves continual growth, were happier.

Relationship Lies: Learn These 4 Dating Myths NOW Ladies

Wednesday, August 27th, 2014

The Secret to Great Relationships of Any Kind

No, you won’t “just know” when you meet the right guy.

Are you totally baffled as to why you only seem to attract men who are far from ideal for you? Are you tired of ending up with men who aren’t ready for the same type of relationship you want?

Before you give up on the possibility of ever meeting a guy who truly measures up, you may want to take a look at how the following so-called “dating rules” may be adversely hurting your chances of finding The One.

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