7 Tips for Dealing with Distractions for Adults with ADHD

Distractibility is a big issue for people with ADHD. They don’t have enough activity in the area of the brain that controls attention, said Ari Tuckman, PsyD, MBA, a psychologist, author and ADHD expert. That means you have a harder time filtering out things you don’t need to focus on. “So a kid dropping a pencil in class pulls at [your] attention just as much as the teacher announcing the next test.”

The ADHD brain also is constantly scanning for more stimulating things, said Dana Rayburn, a certified ADHD coach who leads private and group ADHD coaching programs. So often anything can become a distraction: sights, sounds, physical sensations, your thoughts and ideas, she said.

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How to Cope When Your Friend Commits Suicide

I remember the first time I walked into Vala’s store: she picked up a Nanette Lepore silk top and held it out.

“This would look great on you.”

“It’s more your color,” I said.

“No,” she laughed. “It would make me look like a sausage.”

It wouldn’t. Vala would not have gotten fat come hell or high water. But she made the sale, along with about $250 worth of merchandise more. I started working there a few months later.
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Brain and Behavior

3 Lessons about Psychological Well-Being from a Social Media Tsunami: Professor Holding a Baby

In the past few weeks I have been swept up in a social media tsunami. A photograph of me holding a baby while lecturing, taken without my knowledge in one of my lectures, went viral.

For those knowledgeable about these things, apparently being number one on BuzzFeed Trending and Facebook Trending is “huge.” The frenzy included mainstream media with articles and interviews appearing in the Washington Post, The Guardian and The Independent, as well as on CNN, Canadian television, BBC Radio 5, South African radio and the list goes on and on. On one site alone the photo received more than one million likes.

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How to Speak So You’re Taken Seriously

Yolanda was disappointed. Once again, she had summoned up the courage to put forth an idea at a board meeting, yet nobody picked up on it. She wondered why her ideas were frequently pushed aside, both at home and at work. This happens much too often, thought Yolanda. I must be doing something wrong.

Nothing was wrong with Yolanda’s ideas, but a great deal was wrong with her presentation. How we express ourselves is significant. Using certain words and phrases make you, and your ideas, sound insignificant. Here are a few examples:

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Brain and Behavior

7 Science-Backed Secrets to Being Happier at Work and in Your Career

Are you happy at work?

If someone asked you this question, what would first come to your mind? Maybe you’d evaluate your job satisfaction with the type of work you’re doing -- does it fit your skill set and challenge you? Others may equate career happiness to compensation or the prestige of a particular employer.

Studies show that people who are most satisfied at their job point to a wide range of features from friendly co-workers, a positive company culture, good pay, and high-quality management to fringe benefits like work-life balance and feeling valued in the workplace.
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Brain and Behavior

The Yes-And Rule and Confessions of a Wannabe Giver

Give, and you will receive. Your gift will return to you in full -- Luke 6:38

When I read Adam Grant’s book, Give and Take, I was impressed by the simplicity and novelty of the idea. He contends that there are three types of people, givers, takers, and matchers. The givers that do the best find ways of giving that are gracious and not depleting, yet they don’t worry about getting something back from the source they gave to. They give with the full belief that their giving comes back to them, almost in a karmic fashion, through other channels.

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Brain and Behavior

Are You Too Emotionally Invested in Your Job?

For many of us, career ranks as a top priority in our lives. We care about our jobs deeply, pushing ourselves to continually work harder to ascend to higher levels of success. We care so much about our work that it becomes ingrained in our identity and self-image.

However, this work-first mentality has its downsides. Those of us who pride ourselves on being career-oriented can get so wrapped up and emotionally invested in our jobs that it negatively affects our overall happiness and mood.

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Brain and Behavior

How to Learn New Stuff

When I was growing up, family dinners were often interrupted by a mad search through the encyclopedia. During our discussion some question would invariably arise and my dad or one of us would get up from the table and come back with a World Book volume containing the answer.

The practice fueled my curiosity and more than a few Trivia Crack victories.

I’m still in the habit today. Something will come up during our dinnertime conversation and I or my daughter or husband will seek out the answer. But, this time, it doesn’t come from a book. It comes from Google. And that may not be the best way to learn.
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6 Ways to Minimize Overall Stress in Times of Transition

Stress is the enemy of mental and physical health. And the primary stress trigger is major transition, as is shown by such resources as the famous Holmes–Rahe Stress Inventory.

Good or bad, transition means extensive adjustment, a heavy load of uncertainty, and some level of loss. While the resulting stress may not cause mental illness, it certainly can help elevate a previously undetected or under-control problem into a major one.

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Industrial and Workplace

3 Simple Ways to Tame Your Inner Control Freak

MAXIMIZE your day through delegation.

Wouldn't an extra hour or two feel great today? Think of what you might accomplish. You could make progress with an important project. Polish your presentation. Attend that networking event. Enjoy dinner with family or friends. Take that spinning class. Or sit on the sofa with your cat.

Delegation helps you create time that you can use as you choose.

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5 Foolproof Tips to Overcome Procrastination

If you’re like me, you have a growing to-do list filled with big ideas to accomplish. Yet day after day, life gets in the way and our passion project falls by the wayside.

We make excuses like “I’ll do it tomorrow” or “I’m not in the mindset right now”, waiting for the perfect moment of inspiration to suddenly strike. The funny thing is that “perfect moment” doesn’t actually exist.
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Anxiety and Panic

7 Ways to Overcome Shyness and Social Anxiety

It is estimated that nearly 17 million American adults at some point will meet criteria for social anxiety disorder or social phobia. The number of adults who struggle with shyness greatly exceeds that number. Fortunately, there are some effective strategies to overcome shyness and social anxiety and gain confidence:

1. Act confidently. 

Confidence comes through action, learning, practice, and mastery. Remember when you learned how to ride a bike? It was terrifying at first, but after you just went for it and tried it, you got it, and felt confident. Social confidence works the same way.
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