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5 Tips for Communicating Assertively without Being Passive-Aggressive

Wednesday, June 4th, 2014

5 Tips for Communicating Assertively Without Being Passive AggressiveAll of us are passive-aggressive. That is, we use a mild form of passive-aggressiveness: “saying yes when we mean no,” according to psychotherapist Andrea Brandt, Ph.D, M.F.T.

However, some of us use passive aggression on a regular basis.

Emotions Coming at the Speed of Light & the Ghosts of Relationships Past

Thursday, May 22nd, 2014

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While working with a relationship retreat guest recently, I had a funny realization. You know how astronomers tell us that the light we see coming from the stars above at night is really from a long, long time ago? And in fact, the starlight we are “seeing” is really a window to the past as the star may not even be in existence anymore by the time we see it.

I suddenly realized that our emotions are often the very same way.

Career Paths: Your Own Expectations vs. Everyone Else’s

Thursday, May 22nd, 2014

Expectations and Projections Regarding Career PathsIn today’s market, it’s not exactly smooth sailing for anyone navigating the world of jobs and paychecks.

Territory becomes even murkier when societal expectations and preconceived notions about what constitutes a “legitimate job” enter into the conversation. This is especially true if you’ve chosen not to follow a conventional career path.

If your career choice doesn’t align with what others envision for themselves, you can take a step back and distinguish authentic desires from societal expectations and others’ projections.

Being True to Yourself

Friday, May 16th, 2014

Being True to YourselfI was in a bad place five years ago.

Well, to be perfectly honest I was just in a different place. I thought it was “bad” at the time because I didn’t know that things were also actually great in many ways in my life. The only thing for certain in life is change, so we have only to hope that this change is of the evolutionary variety and not the difficult, stagnant, whiny variety. Alas, in truth, our personal processes are always a little bit of both.

A Tale of Two Defiers

Wednesday, April 30th, 2014

A Tale of Two DefiersShelley, a college sophomore, is an actively aggressive defier. She prides herself on being a fiercely independent person who doesn’t need or want anyone to tell her what to do. She often resorts to fighting words in her verbal outbursts:

– “How could he give me such a crappy grade?”

– “He’s tormenting me with that ridiculous assignment!”

– “Doesn’t she know I have better things to do with my time?”

It’s not just her words that display her defiance; it’s also her actions. She feels no guilt about petty acts of defiance, like returning library books late, ignoring due dates for essays, and refusing to pay parking tickets.

Workplace Bullying: The Importance of Catching It Early

Sunday, April 27th, 2014

Workplace Bullying: Catch it EarlyWorkplace bullying is probably one of the most expensive experiences you will endure. It can cost you your job, mental, physical and financial health, and in worse cases lead to suicide.

The good news is that workplace bullying has a timeline. If you intervene early enough, you can plan for the worst and be one step ahead in creating the best possible outcome.

Break the “Busy”ness Cycle: Live with More Intention

Sunday, April 27th, 2014

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Is the daily routine of life getting you down? Find your passion and live a more authentic life!

Do you ever have those times when you have been on the go non-stop trying to stay on top of all your responsibilities and get all the necessary things on your “to do” list accomplished — and then it hits you like a ton of bricks? You don’t have one more ounce of energy to keep going. You feel so stressed and overwhelmed from all the “busy”ness that you start losing things, forgetting things, your fuse with family, friends and co-workers is short and it feels like things are unraveling quickly?

Athletic Focus: How to Make the Right Game-Time Decisions

Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014

Focus: How to Make the Right Game-Time DecisionsWhat did you do when you read the word “focus”? You probably zeroed in on the word and prepared for that big, important lesson that’s about to be thrown at you.

Many of us are wired to listen only when it’s important. Think about it: when you are sitting in class, listening to Coach, or in the middle of your third meeting of the day, all you really care about is how this relates to you.

You probably zone out when you don’t think that it does. But as sport professionals, you need to pay attention to everything. During your team’s performance the highest demands on your attention will be specific performance variables and the decisions you make based on those variables. This requires a highly honed focus.

Strategies for the Chronically Overworked

Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014

Witnesses to Workplace Bullying More Apt to Consider Quitting Than VictimsThe following is an interview with Dr. Greg Marcus, founder of the Idolbuster Coaching Institute.

Q: Dr. Greg, I recently read your book, Busting Your Corporate Idol: How to Reconnect with Values & Regain Control of Your Life. I was impressed with how well you described the dysfunction behind the “company-first” identity, which so many corporations adhere to. Please share more about this, what you mean by corporate idolatry, and what people who work in these environments should be aware of.

A: In many companies, you are expected to be on call 24/7. This includes checking email and taking phone calls on vacation. In effect, people are asked to make the company a higher priority than whatever else is going on in their lives.

Ambush Firing: Is it Illegal?

Sunday, April 20th, 2014

Ambush Firing: Is it Illegal?Large corporations have a strategy to get you fired once you’ve been bullied in the workplace. It’s transparent to anyone who cares to look, but the company would rather keep it a secret. It’s called “ambush firing.”

What happens first is the target gets bullied. It usually takes several months for him to notice he is being bullied.

The Cost & Solutions to Stress and Mental Illness in the Workplace: An Interview with Graeme Cowan

Friday, April 18th, 2014

The Cost & Solutions to Stress and Mental Illness in the Workplace: An Interview with Graeme CowanThe direct cost of depression to the United States in terms of lost time at work is estimated at 172 million days yearly. According to the World Health Organization, mental disorders are the leading cause of disability in the U.S. and Canada.

Australian Graeme Cowan, who experienced a horrific five-year mental breakdown, published a report on this topic called, “The Elephant in the Boardroom: Getting Mentally Fit For Work.”

Why Does the Boss Prefer the Bully to You?

Wednesday, April 16th, 2014

Why Does the Boss Prefer the Bully to You?Bullying, it seems, pays off. Did you ever wonder why the bully gets away with it and even benefits with a promotion or other reward?

Your gut feeling is correct: the boss really does prefer the bully to you.

No wonder you hesitate in reporting workplace bullying. Not only is it unlikely you’ll get a fair hearing, but it could also incite retribution and even lead to the loss of your job.

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