Industrial and Workplace Articles

Bullied in the Workplace? Don’t Lose Your Power by Emotional Dumping

Friday, June 20th, 2014

Lose Your Power by Emotional DumpingEmotional dumping is when you verbally offload the intense rage or fear you feel onto someone you think should care and fix it now. For example, if you’ve been the target of workplace bullying, you might spew forth your outrage onto human resources or senior managers. You might expect them to do something, but become even more upset when they react in an oppositional way.

As a therapist, I regularly encounter this phenomenon, often from otherwise intelligent and articulate women who feel OK about seeking help and solace from others (men usually find it more difficult).

4 Ways to Benefit from Envy

Monday, June 16th, 2014

4 Ways to Benefit from EnvyIf I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning. ~ Mahatma Gandhi

Upward comparison is a universal experience. It is one way that we determine where we stand among others. There will always be someone more intelligent, funny, interesting, or accomplished to compare ourselves against. Others appear to have figured it all out when we feel we don’t have a clue.

The effects of these comparisons can hit us hard, influencing our emotions and our self-perception.

Just Sitting There Doing Squat?

Monday, June 9th, 2014

Just Sitting There Doing Squat?Will Rogers, born in 1879, was a Cherokee Indian, a cowboy noted for his roping skills, a movie star, a columnist and, today, a legend. He was one smart guy but no boring intellectual.

He spoke in simple words that everyone could understand: “Even if you’re on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there.”

Are you sitting on the right track watching your dreams fade into obscurity? Or, could it be that you’re doing nothing because you know you’re on the wrong track? Think about which one it is.

5 Ways to Feel More Fulfilled at Work

Friday, June 6th, 2014

5 Ways to Feel More Fulfilled at WorkWe spend the majority of our day at work. So feeling …

New Beginnings Need a New Attitude

Thursday, June 5th, 2014

New Beginnings Need a New AttitudeNew beginnings often are exciting, yet terrifying — no one knows what the future holds. Unlimited possibilities lie behind the door to your new beginning: successes and failures, ups and downs, and even some smiles and frowns.

The past is sometimes easier to reflect upon because it is finite, it is done and it cannot offer new surprises in your life. The past, in a sense, is easier to control; the present and future seems mystical and uncontrollable.

5 Tips for Communicating Assertively without Being Passive-Aggressive

Wednesday, June 4th, 2014

5 Tips for Communicating Assertively Without Being Passive AggressiveAll of us are passive-aggressive. That is, we use a mild form of passive-aggressiveness: “saying yes when we mean no,” according to psychotherapist Andrea Brandt, Ph.D, M.F.T.

However, some of us use passive aggression on a regular basis.

Emotions Coming at the Speed of Light & the Ghosts of Relationships Past

Thursday, May 22nd, 2014

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While working with a relationship retreat guest recently, I had a funny realization. You know how astronomers tell us that the light we see coming from the stars above at night is really from a long, long time ago? And in fact, the starlight we are “seeing” is really a window to the past as the star may not even be in existence anymore by the time we see it.

I suddenly realized that our emotions are often the very same way.

Career Paths: Your Own Expectations vs. Everyone Else’s

Thursday, May 22nd, 2014

Expectations and Projections Regarding Career PathsIn today’s market, it’s not exactly smooth sailing for anyone navigating the world of jobs and paychecks.

Territory becomes even murkier when societal expectations and preconceived notions about what constitutes a “legitimate job” enter into the conversation. This is especially true if you’ve chosen not to follow a conventional career path.

If your career choice doesn’t align with what others envision for themselves, you can take a step back and distinguish authentic desires from societal expectations and others’ projections.

Being True to Yourself

Friday, May 16th, 2014

Being True to YourselfI was in a bad place five years ago.

Well, to be perfectly honest I was just in a different place. I thought it was “bad” at the time because I didn’t know that things were also actually great in many ways in my life. The only thing for certain in life is change, so we have only to hope that this change is of the evolutionary variety and not the difficult, stagnant, whiny variety. Alas, in truth, our personal processes are always a little bit of both.

A Tale of Two Defiers

Wednesday, April 30th, 2014

A Tale of Two DefiersShelley, a college sophomore, is an actively aggressive defier. She prides herself on being a fiercely independent person who doesn’t need or want anyone to tell her what to do. She often resorts to fighting words in her verbal outbursts:

– “How could he give me such a crappy grade?”

– “He’s tormenting me with that ridiculous assignment!”

– “Doesn’t she know I have better things to do with my time?”

It’s not just her words that display her defiance; it’s also her actions. She feels no guilt about petty acts of defiance, like returning library books late, ignoring due dates for essays, and refusing to pay parking tickets.

Workplace Bullying: The Importance of Catching It Early

Sunday, April 27th, 2014

Workplace Bullying: Catch it EarlyWorkplace bullying is probably one of the most expensive experiences you will endure. It can cost you your job, mental, physical and financial health, and in worse cases lead to suicide.

The good news is that workplace bullying has a timeline. If you intervene early enough, you can plan for the worst and be one step ahead in creating the best possible outcome.

Break the “Busy”ness Cycle: Live with More Intention

Sunday, April 27th, 2014

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Is the daily routine of life getting you down? Find your passion and live a more authentic life!

Do you ever have those times when you have been on the go non-stop trying to stay on top of all your responsibilities and get all the necessary things on your “to do” list accomplished — and then it hits you like a ton of bricks? You don’t have one more ounce of energy to keep going. You feel so stressed and overwhelmed from all the “busy”ness that you start losing things, forgetting things, your fuse with family, friends and co-workers is short and it feels like things are unraveling quickly?

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