4 Ways to Help a Struggling Coworker

When you spend 40+ hours a week with the same group of people, you can’t help but form bonds. Shared experiences like laughing at office-related inside jokes, dealing with tough bosses, and frequenting favorite lunch spots can turn colleagues into personal friends.

You may even come to know about your coworkers’ lives outside of the office. In the modern workplace, it’s not uncommon to spend time with your coworkers outside the office at happy hours and fitness classes or know about (or even meet) their kids, spouse, and friends.
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Children and Teens

8 Insightful Quotes about Life from ‘Wish I Was Here’

The 2014 Kickstarter-inspired release, "Wish I Was Here," starring Zach Braff and Kate Hudson, features a multifaceted narrative for middle adulthood. Braff’s character, Aidan Bloom, is a husband and father who faces obstacles regarding career choice, parenting, faith and impending loss. As the natural progression of life runs its course, new (and rather challenging and emotionally painful) experiences manifest.

Here are eight insightful quotes from this poignant film:
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How to Cope When Your Friend Commits Suicide

I remember the first time I walked into Vala’s store: she picked up a Nanette Lepore silk top and held it out.

“This would look great on you.”

“It’s more your color,” I said.

“No,” she laughed. “It would make me look like a sausage.”

It wouldn’t. Vala would not have gotten fat come hell or high water. But she made the sale, along with about $250 worth of merchandise more. I started working there a few months later.
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How to Help Someone Going Through a Tough Time

When someone is struggling, we might be at a loss for how to help. We want to reach out. But we’re worried we’ll do or say the wrong thing. So we don’t do anything. Or maybe we have a track record of saying or doing the wrong things. Either way, the result is the same -- we keep to ourselves.

Psychotherapist Lena Aburdene Derhally, MS, LPC, worked in oncology for years. She noted that the best way we can support someone who’s grieving is simply by being there.

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Why Seeing a Therapist Makes You Strong, Not Weak

When a potential client calls psychologist Shoshana Bennett, Ph.D, the first thing she does is congratulate them. "I say, 'good for you. You did something great for yourself and those around you.'"

That’s because seeking professional help takes strength. But we rarely see it this way. We feel overwhelmed or burnt out. We feel vulnerable, exposed -- a gaping wound. We beat ourselves up, believing we should be able to solve our own problems. We should be able to tough it out. And we berate ourselves endlessly because we can’t. What’s wrong with me?!?!

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Anxiety and Panic

9 Tips for Self-Care

Living with depression, anxiety, trauma, and other mental illnesses takes a toll, often in more ways than we realize. Our wounds leave us fragile and sensitive to the suffering of others. It is not uncommon for those with mental illness to find it difficult to read about certain subjects, view movies with disturbing themes, or even to read the news. This is referred to as being triggered, because witnessing or learning about the suffering of others may trigger the reopening of our own wounds.

While mental illness leaves us vulnerable and sensitive to others' suffering, it also has a way of increasing our interest in those stories that feel familiar. We have been through a lot, and we can easily identify with how others feel. We don’t want to shut the world out as a result of our reactivation.

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Dying Well: How to Have the Hardest Conversation

All of us live in a bubble, an illusion of safety and security that our lives will continue along a single, set trajectory of our own choosing. Sadly, life is rarely cooperative. We hit bumps in our relationship. Our bodies become the victims of a disease. We get into a car accident. We lose a friend.

One of the hardest conversations to have with someone is when something happens that compromises a person's health. It could be cancer, it could be an auto accident or some other injury. Or it could be the result of simply aging and getting to a point where your body starts to give out. How does the person want the last days of their life to be?

How do you have the hardest conversation about dying -- and dying well -- with a loved one?

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3 Vital Differences Between Pride & Dignity

Mental and emotional health mean feeling good about ourselves. But sadly, such self-affirmation is often mistaken for pride, which is in stark contrast to the sense of dignity that is synonymous with healthy self-worth.

Exploring subtle differences between pride and dignity might help us affirm ourselves in a way that allows us to move toward a greater sense of well-being and happiness.

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Suicide: Passing Each Other in the Flood

May 8, 1995, was the date of a massive flood in New Orleans. I remember us leaving for school in the rain. We drove the family van because it was high enough to get through the swampy streets. Dad said we had to look out for manholes; the covers can float off and you could easily get struck in the hole.

A lot of kids didn't come to school, which was all good and well because they were sending us home by 10 a.m. anyway. The buildings in the back of campus were taking on water. Parents coming through the carpool for the second time that morning were angry the school had been open in the first place.

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