College

How to Get Over Your Fear of Talking about Money (And Get the Pay Raise You Deserve)


Talking about money can be difficult, even scary. It’s a topic that makes many people feel uncomfortable. Whether you’re negotiating higher pay in response to a new job offer or vying for a promotion in your current role, discussing salary is downright stressful.

You’re afraid of getting turned down, making things awkward, or even offending your manager. So, you make excuses as a way to sidestep the conversation. You tone down your requests -- or worse, you don’t...
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General

5 Practices to Achieve Work-Life Balance

We live in a time-poor era where everything has to be done yesterday and our to-do list is ever-growing. Achieving work-life balance is an everyday challenge for many of us and it can sometimes feel more like a dream than a reality that can be realized. In the pursuit of a less frenetic life, simply the ability to get out of the office early can be of tremendous help to achieve a minimum level of work-life balance.

After all, no amount of yoga, meditation, massages or escapes to paradisal destinations would keep us feeling rejuvenated for long if we barely get enough hours in a day to relax or sleep. Try the five tips below to help you out:

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Antidepressant

Don’t Mess with Moms Who’ve Suffered Postpartum Depression #meditateonthis

When you claim there's some sort of global conspiracy against a minority population, you probably should have some, you know, actual data to back up your claims.

Unless, of course, you're New York Times best-selling author Marianne Williamson. Then you can just apparently make a claim without any need for science or data, all the while expressing what to me seems like a prejudiced view against people with a mental illness. Namely, moms with postpartum depression.

How did those angry postpartum moms react on Twitter? With one voice.

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Caregivers

The Embodiment of Motherhood

As my tired eyes squint from the harshness of a brightly lit grocery store, my gaze follows all different types of mothers: young and old, frazzled and worn, rested and carefully put together. These are your average, run-of-the-mill mothers, standing impatiently at the grocery store with newborns in baby carriers and a toddler navigating an iPad with impish delight.

As my gaze slides to the scuffed tile and lands upon my feet, I have an epiphany. It is a realization that I am not only one of these mothers, I am the embodiment of all these mothers. I never thought I would even partake in motherhood, let alone have it embody my entire life.

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General

5 Signs that You’ve Got Relationship Burnout

The term “burnout” means experiencing exhaustion, dwindling motivation, and a loss of interest in something you were once fully engaged in. While we usually apply this term to working environments, burnout can easily happen to people in their love lives, and often for the same reasons it happens in their work lives.

At work, burnout usually occurs when you start to feel you’re working too hard for the results that are being produced. It’s not just the long hours or the slow progress, it’s the combination of both that produces the loss of enjoyment.

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Celebrities

Glenn Close Opens Up About Her Depression

When Jessie and Glenn Close founded their mental illness nonprofit, Bring Change 2 Mind in 2010, all of the focus was on Jessie's battle with bipolar disorder. Glenn was there to lend her name and support to the effort, but I'm not sure anyone imagined she too suffered. Silently.

But, according to a new article in Mashable earlier this week, Glenn was first diagnosed with depression in 2008. Which makes her efforts to help launch Bring Change 2 Mind all the more laudable.

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Friends

The 7 Habits of Socially Connected People

Some people may be naturally gregarious and easily find themselves socially connected. For most of us, feeling truly integrated into a social scene takes some effort. Luckily, there are predictable patterns to social success. Do certain things, and people will be drawn to you.

Below are seven skills that all socially successful people possess:

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Children and Teens

5 Self-Care Tips for New Moms

When you’re a new mom, your self-care routine may seem like a distant memory. A very distant memory. After all, how are you supposed to care for your needs when your baby requires your attention 24/7? How are you supposed to care for your needs when you’re consumed with brand-new tasks, such as changing diapers and breast- or bottle-feeding?

Plus, often you don’t have any guidance or “policies and procedures” on how to do things, said Catherine O’Brien, MA, LMFT, a relationship therapist who specializes in helping families prepare for the transition from pregnancy to parenthood by managing overwhelm, creating more ease and deepening connection.
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Creativity

Why Vulnerability Will Make You Successful

I am a writer who blogs about being a highly sensitive person. I sit in my writing chair with my Mac and various beverages strewn about me, and write. It is very cathartic. I write about my emotions, feelings, thoughts, struggles, eccentricities, questionable habits, phobias, and anxieties. It feels so good to get them out. I finish my pieces and edit them for publication. I get ready to release them to the world. Then, as easily as they come, those cathartic feelings soon dwindle to just traces that quickly get absorbed by vulnerability.

What a word, Vulnerability. It doesn’t look nice. It doesn’t sound nice. It sure doesn’t feel nice. However unappealing the word is, vulnerability and I have been getting a lot closer lately. It’s not something I set out to do, like a New Year’s resolution:

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Depression

Making Sense of the 2016 Depression Screening Guidelines

As it did in 2002 and again in 2009, the U.S. Preventive Services Task Force (USPSTF) has once again recommended that primary care physicians and family doctors routinely screen for clinical depression in their patients. Why? Because undiagnosed and untreated depression remains one of the greatest public health problems of modern times.

For the first time ever, the new guidelines also recommend that screenings be conducted during and after pregnancy, as many women are susceptible to postpartum depression. Symptoms of postpartum depression can crop up not only after birth, but also during a mom's pregnancy.

What do these new depression screening guidelines mean for you?

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General

What Dogs Can Teach Us about Living in the Moment

“You must live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, find your eternity in each moment. Fools stand on their island of opportunities and look toward another land. There is no other land; there is no other life but this.” ~ Henry David Thoreau
Sure, a dog might squirrel away a bone for a rainy day, but he’s mostly not thinking about the future. He might even forget about that bone. When he stumbles upon it next spring while rifling through the heather bushes, it’s a wonderful surprise -- a new bone!

As humans, we think about the future often. We know our time on this earth is finite. We feel pressure from society or friends or even our own imagination to reach certain milestones with each passing year. Start a career, get married, buy a house, start a family, and so on. With each accomplishment we look for the next one. Never taking the time to appreciate our success.
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General

How to Love Your Partner When They’re the Least Lovable


Last week I walked in my front door after a long day of seeing clients, arms full of groceries, and was welcomed by a barking dog, a kitchen full of dirty dishes, and my husband cheerfully waving “hello” to me from his comfy spot on the couch. My heart sank and my blood began to boil.

As I proceed to trip over the dog, kick her water bowl and spill it all over, and drop a bag of groceries, praying the eggs didn’t break, all I could muster was a sharp, “Umm, could I get some help, here?” To which my husband responded with a bubbly, “Ya, hold on, let me finish watching this (YouTube) video -- this is hilarious!”
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