Why Kids Shouldn’t Be Incarcerated for Giving Dad the Silent Treatment

My husband's parents divorced when he was in middle school. When I asked how they shared custody of him and his younger sister, he said, "We got to choose who we wanted to live with." I marveled at that statement. I wasn't allowed to make any decisions.

I wasn't asked where I wanted to vacation or what movie I wanted to see. I wasn't allowed to be repulsed when my parents smooched. I wasn't allowed to give the silent treatment or to sulk after being beaten. I wasn't allowed to be angry, loud, energetic, silly or moody. I had no right to anything. I lived under a narcissist's roof.

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Older Americans Are More Prone to Substance Abuse

In 1998, government officials warned of a dire trend that we’ve only recently began to take note of. It wasn't an asteroid hurtling toward earth or the ever-growing impact of humans on the climate. It was elder substance abuse.

In the late 1990s, the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) already was predicting the drastic increase in alcohol and drug abuse among adults 60 years old and up.

Close to twenty years later, we don’t know much more than we did in 1998.
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Psychology Around the Net: June 13, 2015

Learn about the summer version of seasonal affective disorder, how creative people might carry genes for schizophrenia and bipolar disorder, the importance of proper nutrition regarding mental health, and more in this week's Psychology Around the Net.

Does Summer Make You Depressed? Although we often associate seasonal affective disorder (SAD) with the winter months, it actually affects some people during the summer months, with symptoms such as decreased appetites and insomnia.

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Addicts Need Rehab, not Jail

It’s a story almost as old as addiction itself. It’s a question with an obvious answer, but one still lingering. It’s a debate over helping vs. punishing. It’s a political pitfall, but one that may finally be addressed.

I’m talking, of course, about offering addicts treatment instead of punishing them with jail or prison. Now that’s a vast oversimplification of the personal, political, and socioeconomic debate raging across the country at this very moment. Still, I believe it should be that simple.

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Transforming Failure

My heroes are the ones who survived doing it wrong, who made mistakes, but recovered from them.

- Bono
I agree with Bono. Surviving a mistake or a perceived failure and transforming it into wisdom or a life lesson is inspiring. If you do an Internet search for quotes or articles on failure, there seems to be a never-ending supply. Like love, heartbreak, or jealousy, failure is a natural and challenging part of the human experience that none of us is exempt from.

Failure can be bitter and hard to swallow. We often cannot accept it very easily. It is a strong and intense experience that we may hide from, or refuse to admit to others because we are embarrassed, shamed, or defeated. However, like other bitter things found in nature, such as the coffee or cocoa bean, we have to process it to extract its rich gifts and reframe it into an insight, strength, or life lesson.

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Failure to Launch

John was never the greatest of students but he did manage to graduate from college in six years. Yay! His parents breathed a sigh of relief. Finally, he had accomplished what he set out to do.

Now, three years later, Mom and Dad are feeling increasingly distressed. John is living back home and going nowhere. His motivation to get a job comes and goes. The bulk of his day is spent on social media, video games and getting high.

He shows little interest in becoming an independent, self-sufficient adult. If his parents would get him an apartment, he’d move in a minute. But the idea of working toward that goal is beyond him.

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Anxiety and Panic

Psychology Around the Net: January 10, 2015

Happy Saturday, readers!

As cliche as it might sound, we can't help but think of new beginnings when we think of a new year, and what better way to welcome new beginnings than by keeping up with all the new mental health news, research, and even opinions as we launch into 2015?

After all, we want to stay as healthy and informed as possible!

This week's Psychology Around the Net features research related to pets and their owners' personalities, gut bacteria and how it relates to anxiety, how childhood guilt can affect adult mental health issues, and more.

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Mental Health and Wellness

Psychology Around the Net: December 27, 2014

Ah, the weekend after Christmas. Whether or not you celebrate, this Saturday has to be a relaxing time. What better way to decompress than to check out this week's psychology news circulating the 'net?

From effective communication to handling rejection, we have a great reading list for you today!

10 Rules You Need to Know to Communicate Effectively: Do you use small words and short sentences? Are you consistent and credible? These and other traits could help you better communicate with others.

Psychology: Why Boredom Is Bad...and Good for You: Although boredom is, well, boring, it can actually help shape important characteristics.

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Honor Veterans by Acquiring Support Skills

Is there a military veteran in your life living with an untreated mental health condition? Are you uncertain whether your support is actually hurting more than helping? If so, you are not alone.

Most of us are not inherently equipped with the skills to understand what our loved ones experienced while serving their country through military service. Yet, according to the Department of Veterans Affairs, nearly 30 percent (PDF) of veterans serving in Iraq and Afghanistan since 9/11 that have been treated at V.A. hospitals and clinics have been diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

During the month of November, Care for Your Mind (CFYM) is showcasing an innovative program that coaches loved ones in how to provide healthy support for the veteran in their life.

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Psychology Around the Net: October 18, 2014

Suffer from insomnia? Ever feel you might be addicted to the Internet? Interested in seeing what a schizophrenia episode actually looks like? We have it all and more in this week's Psychology Around the Net.

Hip-Hop Therapy Is New Route to Mental Wellbeing, Says Psychiatrists: According to researchers in the U.K., hip-hop music might be a viable mental health treatment for illnesses such as depression and schizophrenia. How? By providing people with a sense of empowerment and self-knowledge.

Man With Schizophrenia Records Episode to Give Glimpse Into Life With the Disorder: Social media has made it easier to share experiences with mental illness, and Scottie Long is just one patient to do so. Long documents his schizophrenia episodes via YouTube and sends a clear message: When treating mental illness, sooner is always better.

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