What’s the most important question you can ask?
You’re already asking it — we all are — but most of us aren’t aware of it. It’s called a “virtual question,” a question that lives outside of our conscious awareness but affects almost all of our behaviors. Our virtual questions shape our experiences and paint the backdrop of our lives, coloring everything. Changing your virtual questions changes your life.
In my therapy practice, I was recently working with a client who is caring for her elderly mother. My client shared with me how she was in terrible pain, emotional pain, watching her mother grow old. She didn’t know what to do to feel better. But after we discovered her virtual question, she experienced great relief.