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5 Books to Help You Deal with Work Drama

If you’ve ever found yourself in the middle of office drama, you know a toxic work environment and company politics can be instant energy drainers.

Perhaps the tension in your workplace takes the form of a gossip-mongering co-worker, a bullying boss who flies into a rage when you’re two minutes late to a meeting, or a conniving colleague who’s all about power plays and office politics.
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3 Tips for Creating a Home Meditation Practice

Being in a peaceful, sacred place gives us the opportunity to come back to ourselves. But as Brother Phap Dung writes in the book Making Space: Creating a Home Meditation Practice, this peaceful place doesn’t have to be a church or synagogue. It can be our home.

"If we make space for contemplation and meditation right in our own homes, then peace and joy are always available to us," Dung writes in the introduction of the book. In this sacred space in our home, he writes, we are able to "return to ourselves and touch something deep within ourselves."

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Try This to Decelerate Fights with Your Partner

When we get upset, a disagreement or conflict with our partner can escalate into a fight. This is when we say things we’ll regret. This is when we slam doors, yell and blame each other. We get defensive and feel disconnected. We start thinking our partner doesn’t care about us.

This is when our "survival alarm" goes off and takes over. The amygdala is a key component of this alarm system. This part of the brain is constantly scanning for signs of safety or danger, write Susan Campbell, Ph.D, and John Grey, Ph.D, in Five-Minute Relationship Repair: Quickly Heal Upsets, Deepen Intimacy, and Use Differences to Strengthen Love:

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ADHD and ADD

ADHD and Adults: Helpful Tips for Beating Boredom

Because the ADHD brain thrives on interesting, challenging and novel tasks, it’s really hard for people with ADHD to complete anything that bores them. This has nothing to do with laziness or some character flaw.

Rather, it’s the nature of ADHD. In her book The Elephant in the ADHD Room: Beating Boredom as the Secret to Managing ADHD Letitia Sweitzer, M.Ed., BCC, ACC, defines boredom as "the feeling of too little stimulation." She features a quote from ADHD expert Edward M. Hallowell, M.D., from the book Delivered from Distraction. Dr. Hallowell describes his own experience with boredom as "like being asphyxiated."
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Anxiety and Panic

5 Meditations for Navigating Negative, Anxious Thoughts

Navigating negative, anxious thoughts is hard. It’s hard when your mind ruminates on rigid thoughts: I should do things quickly. I should be more productive. I should never say things like that. I shouldn’t make mistakes like that. I should know better.

It’s hard when your mind is mired in dejected thinking: This is never going to work. I’ll never have a good job. Trying is pointless. Things will always be the same. I’m such a failure.

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Can Something Become Important Simply Because We’re Paying Attention?

I take giant amounts of notes, and I’m constantly copying passages from books that I read. It’s a lot of work, but it’s also one of my favorite things to do.

Oddly, I’ll often take notes, or copy passages where the meaning isn’t clear to me. Sometimes it takes me years (if ever) to understand the meaning of something that I knew was significant, but didn’t know why. And then, when I grasp it -- so thrilling! Nothing makes me happier.
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7 Small Ways to Make a Big Difference in the World

Today, all of us are busy. To-do lists are overflowing. Email goes unanswered. Voicemail goes unchecked. So many of us are exhausted, sleep-deprived, stressed out and working way too much.

This is when kind gestures and deep compassion can get lost. We can get so bogged down with daily responsibilities that we miss the bigger picture, often right in front of our eyes.

But we can make a meaningful difference in this world every day. And we can do so in small ways.
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3 Tips for Understanding and Correcting Mistakes

We talk a lot about the power of making mistakes. We know this intellectually: Mistakes can lead to learning. But this doesn’t make it any less scary, regrettable or anxiety-provoking when we make a mistake -- especially when that mistake involves others.

Mistakes unnerve us. We don’t want to let people down. We don’t want others to feel upset or get mad at us, said Jennifer Thomas, Ph.D, a psychologist, bestselling author and speaker. If it’s a mistake at work, we don’t want to cost our company money and time, she said. And we don’t want to get demoted, not promoted or fired, she said.

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3 Ways to Cultivate Genuine Self-Esteem

When we have low self-esteem, we feel anxious, helpless and depressed. We may not be able to accomplish our goals, have fulfilling relationships and create a meaningful life for ourselves.

If you’re struggling with low self-esteem, you might see yourself in the below words. Marie Hartwell-Walker, Ed.D, includes them in her newest book Unlocking the Secrets of Self-Esteem: A Guide to Building Confidence and Connection One Step at a Time.
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3 Simple Meditations for Starting Your Practice

In our daily lives, many of us are disconnected from ourselves and our surroundings. As Zen teacher Thich Nhat Hanh writes in the book How to Sit, "our body is in one place, our breath is ignored, and our mind is wandering."

However, when we simply breathe, these three once disparate elements come together. This only takes a few seconds. That’s it. That’s the beauty of our breath. Our breath is that powerful.

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Anger

The Silence of Mindfulness

Do you struggle with a mind that never stops, hammering you with harsh thoughts, demands and self-criticism, never letting you rest or get a good night’s sleep? A busy, racing, out-of-control mind is the driver for all symptoms of anxiety and depression.

Practicing the skill of mindfulness in a daily self-reflective practice is the most effective way to a clearer, more peaceful mind, better relationships, improved creativity, a happier workplace as well as for working through limiting, self-sabotaging beliefs.

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Anxiety and Panic

How to Manage 3 Mindsets that Instigate Anxiety

Naturally, we assume that what our minds tell us is the truth. Even thoughts that are irrational or unrealistic, we interpret as cold, hard facts.

But they aren’t.

In fact, we have a choice. After our brains spit out an automatic thought, we have a choice in whether we actually believe it. This is especially important when it comes to anxiety, because our thoughts play a powerful role in perpetuating anxiety.
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