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Practices for Having a Happier Day at Work

Monday, January 6th, 2014

Practices for Having a Happier Day at WorkMost of us face various frustrating challenges at work that spike our stress — everything from burnout to boredom to increasing demands to distraction.

In her latest book Real Happiness at Work: Meditations for Accomplishment, Achievement and Peace , bestselling author and meditation teacher Sharon Salzberg invites us to think of these obstacles and blocks differently using meditation practices.

“Through meditation, we can come to understand work problems as a potential source of achieving greater clarity, rather than as obstacles without redeeming value, and begin to recognize the true potential of the challenges that work brings our way.”

When You Want to Change a Loved One

Tuesday, December 31st, 2013

When You Want to Change a Loved OneWe know that we can’t change others. But many of us still try.

“More people suffer from trying to change others than from any other sickness,” according to psychologists Henry Cloud, Ph.D, and John Townsend, Ph.D, in their bestselling book Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life

Many of us try nagging, begging, yelling, guilt trips, even throwing temper tantrums and other ploys to get through to a loved one.

Or we realize that controlling someone else is simply impossible. And there’s absolutely nothing we can do – even when that person’s behavior affects us for the worse.

Or is there?

Bibliotherapy: Do You Really Need a Doctor or Government to Tell You to Read?

Monday, December 23rd, 2013

Do You Really Need a Doctor or Government to Tell You to Read?In an article that notes there are over 100,000 self-help books (I think the actual number is much larger, since Amazon lists over 285,000 in-print self-help books), apparently Leah Price is enamored at the thought of a doctor “prescribing” reading. And a government agency — the UK’s National Health Service — endorsing the idea.

The idea of a “prescription” for a book is as ridiculous as the idea that you need to be told to shower regularly to remove the stink. Reading to understand something better is a basic skill nearly everyone should have learned in grade school.

That’s patient paternalism x2: that only a doctor could be knowledgeable enough to recommend a good self-help book and that the government needs to legitimize this practice.

OCD & Living Without False Hope

Wednesday, December 11th, 2013

OCD & Living Without False HopeWhen one has a breakthrough in therapy or in life, one experiences a feeling of aliveness. As a person with obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), these moments have been few and far between over the course of my 33 years.

It is natural for human beings to want to give other human beings hope. I am not trashing exposure therapy and the therapeutic process. These things work for a lot of people with OCD.

You’ve probably heard that people with OCD get intrusive thoughts. A simple question is: How many intrusive thoughts go away with exposure therapy?

Holiday Gift Guide: 11 More Powerful Psychology Books to Give

Sunday, December 8th, 2013

Holiday Gift Guide: 11 More Powerful Psychology Books to Give Some psychology books are filled with valuable insights we can apply to our own lives. Others are uplifting. And still others make engrossing explorations into the human mind. Really, I’m not sure you can get a more meaningful or fascinating gift under $20.

Books are windows into new worlds and new wisdom. So whether you’re looking for an interesting read for a psychology buff or grad student or an inspiring book for someone going through a tough time, this gift guide may help.

This is Part 2 of a two-part holiday gift guide of books we recommend. Read Part 1 here.

Holiday Gift Guide: 10 Powerful Psychology Books to Give

Saturday, December 7th, 2013

Holiday Gift Guide: 10 Powerful Psychology Books to Give Some psychology books are filled with valuable insights we can apply to our own lives. Others are uplifting. And still others make engrossing explorations into the human mind. Really, I’m not sure you can get a more meaningful or fascinating gift under $20.

Books are windows into new worlds and new wisdom. So whether you’re looking for an interesting read for a psychology buff or grad student or an inspiring book for someone going through a tough time, this gift guide may help.

This is Part 1 of a two-part holiday gift guide of books we recommend.

At Least One of These Things Most People Get Wrong About Depression

Thursday, December 5th, 2013

At Least One of These Things Most People Get Wrong About DepressionDepression and bipolar are often misunderstood, sometimes even by those afflicted.

Unfortunately, misconceptions can be stumbling blocks to taking the action needed to overcome depression, which may prolong the illness and worsen its effects over time.

Just ask Tricia Goddard, well-known TV talk show host and mental health advocate.

How to Listen to Yourself & Others

Thursday, December 5th, 2013

How to Listen to Yourself and Others Mark Nepo was having lunch with a linguist from Nigeria, who marveled at the fact that there are seven thousand languages in the world. That we know of.

After their talk, later that night, Nepo had a realization: If there are seven thousand ways to speak, then there must be seven thousand ways to listen.

Listening goes beyond simply hearing words. Listening involves delving deeper to truly understanding ourselves and others. It involves slowing down and giving the speaker our fullest attention (without talking, texting, TV watching or being diverted by other distractions).

3 Fun, Simple Activities to Seize the Moment

Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013

3 Fun, Simple Activities to Seize the MomentMany of us move about our days like robots. So when we want to make positive changes in our lives, things can get tricky. That’s because our self-awareness may be slim.

According to therapist Andrew Peterson, EdD, in his book The Next Ten Minutes: 51 Absurdly Simple Ways to Seize the Moment, “Big changes in our lives start with small shifts in our state of mind.” They also start within the routines of our daily lives.

When we engage in the most mundane activities mindfully, we’re actually able to effect change. It’s as though we open a different door, another option we didn’t realize had existed.

We use our senses fully. We become more aware of the decisions we’re making. We may get some clarity. Things that looked the same may have a different hue.

Here are three simple — even seemingly silly — activities from The Next Ten Minutes that’ll help you shake out of autopilot and plant the seeds of change.

14 Quotes on Adversity

Monday, December 2nd, 2013

14 Quotes on AdversityAwhile back I gave you 10 quotes on following your dreams from a little book called 2500 Years of Wisdom: Sayings of the Great Masters.

I wanted to share 14 more on the topic of adversity, because I found them very inspiring — exactly what I needed to propel me forward despite the difficulties I face.

I thought you would appreciate them too.

He who has never failed somewhere, that man can not be great.
~ Herman Melville

Adversity introduces a man to himself.
~ Albert Einstein

Inspiration for Living a Grateful Life

Sunday, December 1st, 2013

Inspiration for Living a Grateful LifeIn 2011 writer and artist Anne O. Kubitsky printed out 500 invitation cards asking people to share what they’re grateful for in a postcard (and mail it back to her). She left these cards in various places, everywhere from post offices to parks to college cafeterias to libraries.

Within three weeks she received handmade postcards from all over the world – from Oregon to Alaska to Australia to Germany. Today, she’s received thousands of responses in many different forms: letters, emails and even phone calls.

People also have submitted postcards made from leather and clay. One person submitted a 12-year Alcoholics Anonymous sobriety medallion.

Celebrity Tips For Beating Depression

Sunday, December 1st, 2013

Celebrity Tips For Beating DepressionWhen we suffer from depression, including bipolar disorder and postpartum depression, we may feel responsible for the depressive feelings. Like somehow it’s our fault.

We may also feel alone in battling the illness and lack support or inspiration from others.

Sometimes this may cause us to give up hope and feel like there’s no end to how low we’re feeling; after all, if there’s nothing we can do and nobody we can turn to for help, there’s no point in trying to get better.

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