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How Depression Damages Your Relationship & What You Can Do

Friday, July 4th, 2014

How Depression Damages Your Relationship & What You Can DoDepression is a difficult illness that darkens your thoughts and feelings. It saps your self-esteem, energy, motivation and interest in anything. It’s also tough on romantic relationships.

According to psychologist Shannon Kolakowski, PsyD, in her book When Depression Hurts Your Relationship: How to Regain Intimacy and Reconnect with Your Partner When You’re Depressed, depression diminishes your ability to connect with your partner and creates doubts about your union. Symptoms such as anger and irritability can create tension between partners.

3 Unique Techniques for Navigating a Negative Inner Voice

Tuesday, June 24th, 2014

3 Unique Techniques for Navigating a Negative Inner VoiceEveryone has a negative inner voice. For some this voice speaks up occasionally. For others the voice is a frequent visitor.

According to Steve Andreas in his book Transforming Negative Self-Talk, “An internal voice may remind us of past failures, sorrows, or disappointments, torture us with criticism or verbal abuse, describe frightening or unpleasant futures, or disturb us in other ways.”

A negative inner voice can make us feel hopeless and helpless, because we can’t control the demoralizing thoughts brewing in our brains. However, there is something you can do — many things, in fact.

10 Habits for a Happy Marriage

Sunday, June 22nd, 2014

10 Habits for a Happy MarriageThe key to a happy marriage is the quality of your habits, according to therapists Ashley Davis Bush and Daniel Arthur Bush.

Thankfully, healthy habits can be learned. In their book 75 Habits for a Happy Marriage Davis Bush, LICSW, and Bush, Ph.D, share a variety of practical, valuable tips for couples to reconnect, communicate better and enhance their intimacy.

3 Ways to Navigate Anxious Thoughts with Self-Compassion

Saturday, June 21st, 2014

3 Ways to Navigate Anxious Thoughts with Self-CompassionFor so many of us when we start having anxious thoughts, we get self-critical. We berate ourselves for our worries, sweaty palms and all-over shakiness.

We call ourselves names. We become ashamed and embarrassed.

What is wrong with you? You’re an idiot for getting anxious over something so small!

The Power of Our Personal Stories

Sunday, June 15th, 2014

The Power of Our Personal StoriesThe stories we spin about ourselves shape our lives. These stories shape how we interact with others, and even how they interact with us. They shape how we feel about ourselves and what we think we’re capable of.

These stories shape the decisions we make, everything from the partners we pick to the activities we participate in.

If we spin a story that we’re not good enough, we just might pick a partner who doesn’t treat us very well. If we spin a story that we’re stupid, we might not submit our resume for the job we’ve always wanted because well, we won’t get it, anyway.

A Technique for Feeling Painful Feelings

Thursday, June 12th, 2014

A Technique for Feeling Painful FeelingsMany of us avoid feeling our feelings because we worry that feeling them will be more painful than just pretending they don’t exist. Or we assume they’ll simply skulk away (and stay away permanently).

However, according to therapist and author Tina Gilbertson, LPC, in her book Constructive Wallowing: How to Beat Bad Feelings By Letting Yourself Have Them, “You let feelings ‘go’ by feeling them fully. Once they’re felt, they can leave.”

Beyond Awareness: Mental Health Empathy Month

Wednesday, June 11th, 2014

Beyond Awareness: Mental Health Empathy MonthMay is Mental Health Awareness Month. It’s a good time to look back on what two great writers have said about their experiences with mental illness. These accounts remind us that even though we’ve made great progress with diagnosis and treatment, we are a long way from fully understanding the darkest corners of the human psyche.

5 Ways to Feel More Fulfilled at Work

Friday, June 6th, 2014

5 Ways to Feel More Fulfilled at WorkWe spend the majority of our day at work. So feeling …

10 Small Ways to Cultivate Mindful Moments

Sunday, May 25th, 2014

10 Small Ways to Cultivate Mindful Moments	Sometimes, we move about our days as though we are asleep or at the mercy of someone else’s duties and dreams. In her book Head to Heart: Mindfulness Moments for Every Day , author and coach Jenifer Madson invites readers to awaken to our lives.

Specifically, she shares 365 meditations on purpose, presence and compassion. Here are 10 ways to cultivate mindful moments from her book.

3 Tips for Dealing with Anxious Thoughts

Wednesday, May 21st, 2014

3 Tips for Dealing with Anxious Thoughts Negative, worry-filled thoughts perpetuate our anxiety. They also paralyze us from taking action and can prevent us from leading a fulfilling life.

Sometimes, we mistakenly assume worry helps us circumvent potential catastrophes: If we aren’t worried, something terrible will happen.

But as licensed psychologist and anxiety expert Tamar E. Chansky, Ph.D, writes in her book Freeing Yourself From Anxiety: 4 Simple Steps to Overcome Worry and Create The Life You Want, “When did you last say, ‘Thank goodness I wasted, I mean, spent the last three hours freaking out about that job interview. The worry was so helpful and I feel much better now’?”

Strategies for Reducing Signs of Mania in Bipolar Disorder

Monday, May 19th, 2014

Strategies for Reducing Signs of Mania in Bipolar DisorderEffectively managing bipolar disorder includes knowing the early signs of an episode. It also means having a plan to address these signs before they escalate into hypomania, mania or depression.

According to authors Janelle M. Caponigro, MA, Eric H. Lee, MA, Sheri L. Johnson, Ph.D, and Ann M. Kring, Ph.D, in their book Bipolar Disorder: A Guide for the Newly Diagnosed, common warning signs of mania or hypomania include: feeling irritable, sleeping less, having more energy, driving faster, talking faster, starting new projects, feeling more self-confident, dressing differently, having increased sexual feelings and feeling impatient.

When Depression Becomes Depressing

Wednesday, May 14th, 2014

When Depression Becomes Depressing “I am larger and better than I thought.” ~ Walt Whitman

In the movie “All Is Lost” with Robert Redford, the vast expanse of the never-ending sea could serve as a metaphor for stretches of life when there seems to be nothing on the horizon but more depression and inevitable despair. The increasingly futility of his efforts to survive also can be compared to treating depression as a losing battle, considering the over 120 million sufferers worldwide and counting.

In his latest book, Out of the Blue, Bill O’Hanlon makes a valuable contribution to turning that tide. In his opening dedication he writes, “Let me reassure your soul that there is a way out.”

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