After almost a decade of being a freelance writer, you would think accepting disappointment would be easy. But it’s not. Whether it’s a rejection for a project or bad news about my health, the big “D” hits me just the same. It’s only recently that I discovered why disappointment hurts so bad.
You could have had a laundry list of accomplishments or joyful ordinary moments (spending time with your dog, having a meaningful conversation with a friend, or savoring a warm cup of hot chocolate), but that single unexpected downer completely pulverized that list.
Your brain remembers past experiences that were devastating (a high school rejection, a parent’s hurtful comment, disapproval from someone you admire) and won’t let you forget it. The next time you hear disappointing news at work, about your health, or your child, take a moment to ask yourself whether what you’re experiencing is reaction to what is happening now or to something unresolved from your past. Once you’re able to decipher what’s really bugging you, you’ll be free of disappointment’s hold on you. When you’re able to leave the pain from the past in the past, you’re more apt to deal with the monster in front of you. And we can help with that. These end of the week posts will address the challenges you’re currently confronting.