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Best of Our Blogs: November 7, 2014

Friday, November 7th, 2014

Ever wonder how to really break up with someone in the digital age? What about chronic manipulation, i.e. how you can stop the manipulation cycle?

Oh, and do you understand emotional integrity and how to establish it?

Our bloggers answer these questions and more in today’s Best of Our Blogs.

Best of Our Blogs: November 4, 2015

Tuesday, November 4th, 2014

The end of Halloween sets off the beginning of the holiday season.

‘Tis the season for celebration, festivities and good cheer right? Well, not for all.

For some, the dark weather outside forecasts inner gloom as well. Those that suffer from Seasonal Affective Disorder or SAD, for example, need to weather the storm inside as well as out. A lack of sunlight can trigger symptoms of mild and severe depression.

Others are anxious about what the holidays signify-an increase in time spent on things you can’t afford, temptations you can’t afford to indulge in, and people you’d rather be with.

How do we continue to stay on the road of good health and well-being despite these challenges?

It takes courage, work and forgiveness to keep on the path of peace, wellness and wholeness. Changing your thoughts from negative to positive, being mindful of your intentions (at work and elsewhere) and believing you are worthy of good things in your life are admirable and significant steps you can take to weather any storm you encounter this and every season.

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Best of Our Blogs: October 31, 2014

Friday, October 31st, 2014

Today is Halloween.

Why is this dark holiday so popular with adults, not just kids?

I think dressing up offers the opportunity to: 1) shed our seriousness for the night by being someone else 2) wear our shadows on our sleeves and 3) make fun of what scares us.

Someone who is shy, quiet and anxious can, for example, play the role of a bold, gregarious character.

A people-pleaser may be an evil villain.

A perfectionist who is always in control can make fun of herself in a silly costume.

Playing someone else for the night gives us a chance to remove our masks and display the parts of us we don’t normally want people to see.

If you feel like an outcast because you feel deficient in some way, Halloween offers the chance to be something weird, terrifying or humorous and feel accepted, even admired for it.

Whether you celebrate Halloween or not, I hope you’ll take the time to embrace your inner Lady Gaga and accept those dark shadows, characteristics, and difficulties that you often try to hide. For those filled with self-doubt, shame, or are burnout, accept our mixed bag of top posts as our sweet treat to you. Happy Halloween!

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Best of Our Blogs: October 28, 2014

Tuesday, October 28th, 2014

Whenever I’m on a desperate hunt for something whether it be compassion, validation or even a piece of cake, it’s helpful to dig deep. The solution is often less about what I need externally and more about focusing on what I need emotionally.

If I’m not getting enough compassion for example, maybe I need to work on having more understanding and empathy for myself.

If I don’t feel validated at my job or from loved ones, it’s possible I need to work on challenging my inner beliefs.

If I feel unforgiven, maybe it’s a sign I need to work on self-forgiveness.

Sometimes a craving is just a craving. Other times, I’m trying to bury, escape from or nourish an ache, longing or emptiness I haven’t yet addressed.

It’s common to remain unconscious about the things that are truly bothering us. But it’s empowering and freeing when we stop relying on other people and situations to make us happy and feel good about ourselves.

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Best of Our Blogs: October 24, 2014

Friday, October 24th, 2014

Something we all struggle with or have struggled with is self-worth and self-love that’s not conditional on external circumstances.

And it’s not just loving yourself despite your depression, mistakes and imperfections. It’s about loving the whole of who you are and realizing you’re worthy of love regardless of the things you haven’t quite figured out yet.

It’s not easy. But we are all works-in-progress. If you find yourself being particularly critical these days, try to remember the following:

You are worthy just by nature of being born.

Celebrities, famous people and even therapists are not more worthy than you.

To be less critical and judgmental of others, you must first start with yourself.

It’s okay to love who you are even though you haven’t found your calling, stick your foot in your mouth, mess up on a daily basis and know people who tell you different.

It’s not about racking up the most accomplishments, being problem-free or even perfectionistic in increasing your self-worth and self-esteem.

It’s about acknowledging where you still have to go and working toward loving yourself whether or not you’ve mastered anything.

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Best of Our Blogs: October 21, 2014

Tuesday, October 21st, 2014

If you have ever forgotten to hit save on a document and lost hours spent on work you can’t recover, you understand the horror, shock and astonishment of accepting what feels unacceptable.

If you have ever lost precious, photos, your wallet or phone, you can relate to the anguish of not seeing something again.

If you have done something untraditional and nonconventional, you get what it feels like to be different.

If you understand that, you have a small glimpse into the world of someone who is struggling with illness, discrimination, or loss.

We often think we can’t understand what others are going through because we haven’t experienced it. But pain, hardship and loss are universal.

You can connect with others through empathy and compassion by reading our post on living with obsessive compulsive disorder. You can also do so by going inward, building up your own mental strength and cultivating compassion for your own struggles with criticism and self-doubt. The key isn’t to find the perfect thing to say, it’s about connecting, compassion and communicating as best as you can your love, understanding and support.

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Best of Our Blogs: October 17, 2014

Friday, October 17th, 2014

Right now I’m angry. It’s been an hour since I’ve tried to get my son to sleep. He also didn’t sleep the night before. I’m tired. I have a ton of things to do and I’m frustrated. But as I sit here, breathe and really connect with my emotions, the energy fades.

Sometimes burning off steam through walking or talking with a supportive friend helps. And it’s not always easy. But I know if I can ride the wave of my emotions and not react to it immediately, I will be okay.

Emotions can be scary, uncomfortable and even intolerable. At times, we need professional support to help us experience them safely. But it’s important to know that we all have permission to feel what we feel. When we allow ourselves the space to feel them, we don’t need a cookie, a drink or a shopping spree to fend them off. We only need to acknowledge their existence, listen to their message and then let them go.

Need support on how to cope with those difficult feelings? This week’s list of posts will teach you everything from walking meditation techniques to journal writing ideas to soothe you back from havoc to harmony.

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Best of Our Blogs: October 14, 2014

Tuesday, October 14th, 2014

What drew you here today?

Was it an illness, relationship issue, health question? Most likely you’re coping with a problem you’re anxious to resolve. That sense of urgency, the need to know, is an affliction that befalls all of us problems big and small. Here’s the answer you weren’t expecting.

No matter how much research you do, people you ask, or posts you read, you will never receive the solution you’re looking for. The answer lies not in overthinking. As this post says, all that energy you spend thinking, obsessing and worrying actually hinders your ability to solve a problem.

While you may need to seek information and resources to make an educated and informed decision about your life and your health, the real answer comes when you let go and listen.

This week if you’re struggling with an illness, a parenting crisis, or your ability to stay strong and cope with an unsolvable problem, know this. You might not have the answer right now. It may not be the right time to make a decision anyway.

Do something else. Rest. Relax. Distract. Your problem might still be there. But giving yourself space and time to accept things as they are, unresolved or not, can do wonders for your energy and ability to eventually resolve what’s got you unglued.

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Best of Our Blogs: October 10, 2014

Friday, October 10th, 2014

I bet what your struggling with isn’t your greatest challenge. It’s learning how to accept the situation for what it is.

It is a simple concept, but an excruciatingly difficult one to practice.

Within each of us is an ideal perspective of how life should be. We have a vision of the way our parents should treat us, how our boss/employees/co-workers should act, or the attitudes and behaviors our kids should exhibit. But life isn’t that way. We are the directors of our own life story, but have no control over others.

This can leave us miserable, powerless and resentful or it can teach us how to surrender and grow in the knowledge that while we cannot control everything, we have the power to control ourselves.

For example, maybe the reason why your friend’s insensitive or compulsive behavior is triggering you is that it’s shedding light on your own issues. This week instead of focusing your energy outward, these posts will teach you how to accept, be more mindful and cultivate greater peace within yourself.

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Best of Our Blogs: October 7, 2014

Tuesday, October 7th, 2014

Wish you had more time in the day to do everything? It may not be your time that needs managing, but your energy.

We’re all buzzing around doing and accomplishing. In fact, sharing all the things you have to do is accepted, validated and even envied by others. The desire to fill time with “stuff” and not necessarily important stuff is a symptom of dis-ease within ourselves.

In The Power of Now, Eckhart Tolle says, “Many illnesses are created through fighting against the cycles of low energy, which are vital for regeneration. The compulsion to do, and the tendency to derive your sense of self-worth and identity from external factors such as achievement, is an inevitable illusion as long as you are identified with the mind.”

Maybe you don’t need a better planner, organizing system or time management program. Maybe what you really need is to stop thinking of things to do to fill your time. Instead refocus your energy on what really matters. Stillness. Quiet. Peace. Let our posts on happiness, stillness and transformation this week start you on the right path.

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Best of Our Blogs: October 3, 2014

Friday, October 3rd, 2014

Sorry this post is late. Our family is recovering from the flu so it’s taken me longer to return to my laptop.

Like anything challenging in life, it reminded me of an important thing. Illness is a great teacher. Priorities shift. Appointments need to be cancelled. Assignments, tasks, to-dos are put on hold. Rest is the only thing you can do. While your mind may stay stuck in what you should be doing, your body only desires one thing. Healing.

This weekend while you’re getting ready for the start of the holiday seasons, preparing for your kid’s fall break or getting over an illness yourself, it’s imperative that we remember that now. Before life sweeps you up into tasks that appear to be more necessary than they are, take the time to take care of yourself.

Whether this means 5-minutes of quiet time, a walk outside to enjoy the change in seasons or being grateful for your present health, give yourself time this weekend to unwind, rest and indulge in this moment. Do it even if your mind says you are wasting time and should be doing something else. Do it because you won’t ever have enough time, money or perfect circumstance to do it later. Do it without the interruptions of your phone, computer or TV, so you can thoroughly enjoy your weekend!

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Best of Our Blogs: September 30, 2014

Tuesday, September 30th, 2014

Every difficult person, the rude cashier, the ungrateful relative, and the draining friend could be excuses for your bad day, maybe even an unhappy life. But they could also be like the sound of your fan blowing in the background-simply white noise.

What you choose to zoom in on and what you relinquish your power to is an indication of what needs healing in your life.

When petty matters cause huge flair ups threatening your stability, and mental health, it’s time to refocus your energy within.

Since life will always be chaotic, difficult and upsetting at times, the key is to cultivate a sense of inner peace. As you’ll read in our posts this week, this may mean embracing whatever you’re feeling or challenge you’re currently going through, or it could mean making a positive change by adopting a new mindset.

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