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Best of Our Blogs: February 12, 2016

Our fear isn't that we show too much of ourselves, it's that no one will truly know who we are.

The fear of disconnection and loneliness can drive many to divulge too much too soon. It can make us desire intimacy before a relationship is ready. Or it can isolate us further.

But the key isn't to focus completely on others to fill our emptiness. To build and attract trusting relationships it's important to first look inside ourselves. This means asking if we're trustworthy. Are we self-critical, judgmental and unforgiving? Do we share too much? How are we doing with self-care?

To end the week, you'll get information on how to build more friendships, repair old wounds, and change your inner chemistry so you'll be happier, healthier and more connected.
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Best of Our Blogs: February 9, 2016

In the six years I've had the privilege of writing for Psych Central, I learned a lot of things. But if there is one essential gift I can take from the experience, it's this.

No matter who we are, what we struggle with whether ADHD, depression or anxiety, we all want the same things. We all require at the minimum, a level of wellness so we can live comfortably. We all desire love. We all want to feel heard, validated, and understood. And we want the ability to believe that we're worth it all.

I think if we grapple with anything it's that. At the heart of all matters is a desire for belonging.

As you go about your week, remember to cultivate connection wherever you go. We can do this by learning about the things that are afflicted our loved ones. We can do by taking the necessary steps to reconnect. Treating others the way we desperately need to be treated is one step toward gaining what all of us truly want and deserve.
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Best of Our Blogs: February 5, 2016

My biggest dreams came true early in 2016.

For the past few years I've been struggling with two chronic illnesses. This year, I learned I was healed of both.

I think a variety of things led to a change in my health. There were the usual things like diet and exercise. For example, eating more whole foods and eliminating processed foods, and doing more meditative exercises like yoga and hiking and less high intensity-high endurance ones. But I came to the realization that none of it would have been possible unless I accomplished one thing first.

I had to believe I was worth it.

In order to be successful with your 2016 goals, whether it's lose weight, or find a meaningful friendship, you need to start with our first post this week. Learning how to love yourself will be the thing that finally takes you to where you want to go this year.
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Best of Our Blogs: February 2, 2016

Are you feeling tired, overwhelmed, or cynical about your New Year's resolutions?

Maybe your overdoing during the holidays have finally set in. Too much food, people and activities that don't serve you. Too much spending. Too many parties. Too much moments you want to forget. And it's already February.

You have holiday remorse and worry you'll never tackle those dreams you had for 2016. Instead of throwing in the towel, this is the perfect time to roll up your sleeves and start confronting your problems.

This week, you'll learn how to finally set boundaries with your mother, and gain a better understanding of yourself, issues and people pleasing ways.

Yes a month has already passed since you made those resolutions, but there's still time to commit to what you want for the rest of the year.
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Best of Our Blogs: January 29, 2016

Life isn't a game where whoever makes it easy wins. Yet, we strive for celebrity six-packs right after giving birth, to be at the top of our careers, and manage a healthy successful family, all without batting an eye.

Anything less would be, well, shameful.

The dirty secret is no one does things well, all the time. We're vulnerable to illness. We're susceptible to getting hurt. We mess up. We respond the wrong way. We don't juggle everything without a few balls falling. In fact, the more we look like we're doing it perfectly, the greater the likelihood that we're about to drop them all.

Instead of keeping up the charade, be honest about your situation. You make mistakes like everyone else. Once you can copt to that, you'll be able to start saying, "No," to people and opportunities that don't serve you, and learn how to better manage your stress. The funny thing is once we're able to admit we don't always know the best things to say and do, we're free to start living and doing better for ourselves and those we love.
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Best of Our Blogs: January 26, 2016

If you could get rid of your problems forever, you would. But what if that wasn't possible or more importantly, what if it wasn't even preferable to do so?

The idea seemed foreign to me until I heard these words from The Fear and Anxiety Solution author Dr. Friedemann Schaub in this Sounds True podcast:
"You actually don’t want to get rid of anxiety forever because you will understand that anxiety is a very important inner messenger...And so you want the anxiety as this inner guide, this inner compass, that actually tells you when you’re off track, that tells you when you’re losing your power, that tells you when you’re not really living in harmony and balance with yourself."
What if we view all challenges as inner guides? It would change the way you perceive your singleness, your emotional illness, and your anxiety, which are all topics explored this week. In doing so, you might stop seeing them as villains that need to be eliminated and start seeing them as friends wanting to help you make necessary changes in your life.
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Best of Our Blogs: January 22, 2016

I wasted so much time and energy in my youth striving for normalcy. It was later when I realized that everyone who was successful, happy or worth talking about was anything, but mainstream. Things would be different if I heard this from writer, TV host and advocate Janet Mock on Super Soul Sessions:

"Growing up, I was taught that normal was the pathway to success and contentment, but I learned that none of us should reach for normal. Normal is so basic. Owning who we are is power."

This week you'll learn how to become more of who you are by acknowledging your fears, accepting your flaws and learning a new way of responding to life. Read our top posts and you may recognize patterns and habits that have been sabotaging your happiness and success. Be like Mock and have the courage to own who you are!
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Best of Our Blogs: January 15, 2016

I had an intimate conversation with a loved one recently about vulnerability. "It's easy for you," she said regarding my inability to physically hide my emotions. She went on to explain that people pleasers like her were incapable of self-expression. "It's just how we are," she said.

But I think that being who you are, flaws exposed, is difficult even if you don't have a poker face.

Every decision we make to either hide or reveal who we are has consequences. At the core, we're both afraid of no one ever really knowing us and being rejected for who we are .

If you're a people pleaser, one of our posts this week will teach you how to let a little you shine through. You'll also gain important information regarding the latest research findings and find ways to improve your relationships.

Have a great weekend!
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Best of Our Blogs: January 12, 2016

I caught hilarious and inspiring author, speaker and TV show host Iyanla Vanzant on Oprah's SuperSoul Sessions. Besides making me laugh with her brutal honesty, Vanzant communicated two words that were truly life changing.

In fact, believing it affects everything in your life whether you realize it or not. It influences how you dress. It impacts what you eat. It predicts the kind of relationships you surround yourself with.

Her words are these:  You matter.

When you believe you matter, everything about how you look on the outside and how you feel on the inside comes through. It shows by how you care for your kids and yourself. Read our top posts this week on being successful, and improving your relationship with a new perspective. Read each as if you matter, cause you really do.
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Best of Our Blogs: January 8, 2016

We do it both consciously and unconsciously. We size up friends, relatives and acquaintances. We compare them to our own lives. And it's not just about our financial situation, but our social media status, the way we raise our kids, and how successful we're at balancing it all. The problem with doing so is that it doesn't take into account what's truly value in our lives, like how good you've been about taking your medication or that you've been less critical towards yourself lately.

You've been having a lot more "normal" days lately, which is a wonderful thing. You can't compare that with someone who's got a thousand views on their blog, got promoted recently or went on an extravagant holiday vacation. So the next time you feel the urge to rate yourself with a buddy, remember that. If you want to compare, weigh who you are now with who you were back then and use it to keep motivating yourself to go further.
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Best of Our Blogs: January 5, 2016

We beat ourselves up every year with resolutions we know we'll never live up to (at least within a year's time). And if we were to really consider each of them, it's not what we truly want anyway.

Instead of creating the same old list that sounds a lot like the following:

lose weight
make more money
land perfect job
find perfect mate
get organized

What we're looking for is more meaning, joy and love...
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