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Best of Our Blogs: January 23, 2015

Friday, January 23rd, 2015

I’d like to talk about Disappointment with a capital D. It’s a sharp stomach wrenching sadness, an ache, a yearning for things to be different …

Best of Our Blogs: January 20, 2015

Tuesday, January 20th, 2015

We often feel like we’re sitting in the shadows of someone’s light when we haven’t attained their fame, success or glory.

We see the reward speeches.

We hear the applause. But instead of feel inspired by it, their feat puts a spotlight on our own inadequacies-our fears, weaknesses and insecurities.

We forget about the hard work that was necessary.

We forget that confronting our demons is integral to transformation.

We forget that we don’t know the whole story. In viewing just a sliver of someone else’s success, we’re also neglecting our own story and in doing so, neglect ourselves.

I love what former Drew Carey Show actress Kathy Kinney who played Mimi said on Oprah: Where Are They Now?

“Women have a tendency to compare their insides to someone else’s outsides. And when you do that, you’re always going to lose that game.”

Stop comparing someone else’s perfect life with your own self-worth. Let this week’s post jumpstart your own journey towards a more powerful, meaningful and healthier you. They require just a few surprisingly easy, and quick steps to help you refocus your attention from everyone else’s achievements to all the amazing things you’re going to do!

Success Starts Here Freeway Style Desert Landscape

Best of Our Blogs: January 16, 2015

Friday, January 16th, 2015

“Every day you have to choose and cultivate your own happiness.” – Reese Witherspoon

I remind myself of that every time I’m faced with uncertainty, difficulty or an inability to accept things and people as they are. Inherently, I was born to fight. Somewhere deep within there is a voice that says, “If things are not the way you want it to be, change it!”

And most times I do.

I push myself to exercise when I’m tired.

I force myself to write when I’m uninspired.

I find a way when I’ve reached a dead end.

But what I’m still working on is surrender. I forget that there is as much power and courage in acceptance as there is in fighting, and in being as there is in doing.

Happiness is a choice. Sometimes that means not fighting the fight. Sometimes that means finding acceptance, gratitude and peace with the moment as messy, imperfect and difficult as it is. Sometimes it means giving yourself permission to stop fighting and rest.

Whether you need to take action or take a break, our top 5 posts will support you on the road to success and happiness.


Best of Our Blogs: January 13, 2015

Tuesday, January 13th, 2015

Sometimes to fulfill a new dream, we need to let go of a dream we had.

Maybe it’s saying goodbye to a relationship (business and personal) that doesn’t serve you so you’re wide open for one that does.

Or it could be letting go of a vision you had for yourself before challenges, illness and conflict forced you to reinvent yourself.

Maybe you need to surrender the dream of having a perfect childhood so you can move forward with greater resiliency, self-compassion, empathy and strength.

Maybe your vision was comfortable, but too small.

If you let go and surrender to that closed door, you’ll find love, opportunity and self-growth in another one that’s now open.

Open door

Best of Our Blogs: January 9, 2015

Friday, January 9th, 2015

Part of accomplishing your goals involves confronting the possibility of failure. Most would rather sit on their hands and watch the world pass by instead of deal with it. They shade their eyes in the light of other’s success. They look for flaws in their attempts. They distract themselves with mindless eating, drama and social media.

But for those that venture out and take giant leaps of faith, they too are scared. They are fearful of shame, failure and rejection. But they open their hands and embrace the experience anyway.


Because walking on the right path, regardless of how scary, awakens our true selves. It reminds us of our courage. It speaks to our purpose and it shows others that love overrides fear.

This week our bloggers share why, no matter how scary it is to pursue our dreams in 2015, it’s worth the effort.

Leap of faith

Best of Our Blogs: January 6, 2015

Tuesday, January 6th, 2015

Have you ever been in the presence of greatness and felt less than?

I’m almost always in awe of people who do great things. I love biographies. I feel invigorated when I interview people who have overcome insurmountable obstacles. That’s why I was surprised by an unexpected feeling I had recently: Inadequacy.

At an event where entrepreneurs were glowing in their success, I was overwhelmed with a feeling of sadness and confusion. I realized my perception of what I could do in my life was too limited. Although it was scary to do so, I knew I needed to say goodbye to an old way of thinking to free up space for a new me.

To achieve big dreams, you have to deal with deeper issues of self-esteem, confidence and self-worth. You have to believe you deserve all the wonderful things you get. You need hope and faith to even think it’s possible.

If you’ve put a cap on what’s possible for your life, you might need to bury that limited perception of yourself. All the uns (unlovable, unworthy, unhealthy) are obstacles preventing you from achieving your dreams. To grow, it’s imperative that you let go of this image so that you can entertain the idea of the person you want to become. Our posts this week are all about that. Read them to discover how to transform your life, personality, and relationships. By expanding your vision of what you can accomplish, you will be on the right path towards the life you were meant to live.


Best of Our Blogs: January 2, 2015

Friday, January 2nd, 2015

Goodbye 2014. We’ve had a year long relationship with you. There’s been pain, loss, and heartache. Not to mention hope, courage and joy. It’s been real.

Welcome 2015! We don’t know you yet. But we’re excited by your fresh, shiny and glimmering presence. We’re trading our old selves for everything you represent. Health. Transformation. Possibility.

As emails advertising holiday gifts have been aggressively and quickly replaced by messages on resolutions, diets and bucket lists, we’ve also turned the other cheek. Instead of spending time to reflect on 2014, we’re excited to jump ahead, delve right into new ways of eating and being in the world. We haven’t yet given a chance to grieve the end of one year before we start planning and dreaming about the next one.

Do you really want to be successful in 2015? Before you start tackling that resolutions list, read our posts this week. You’ll find a little bit of contemplation, pause and reflection will get you closer to all the things you really desire in life-love, happiness, purpose and self-acceptance.


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Best of Our Blogs: December 30, 2015

Tuesday, December 30th, 2014

The end of the year beckons us to reflect. All the things we regret saying and not saying, the things we wished we did, and the things we wish we didn’t do. When you think back, how do you resolve what’s not finished yet and still feel right with your soul?

There is a strong desire to believe that worthiness, success and happiness are saved for special occasions, people, and accomplishments. We will celebrate when we get that promotion. We will finally take that trip when we have enough money. We will buy that fancy dress when we lose those last few pounds. Joy is like the gold at the end of the rainbow. In a desperate chase for the thing that will make us whole, we end up exhausted, empty and depleted.

Perhaps, the key in creating resolutions that we will actually keep is recognizing that external situations won’t make us happy. Maybe it’s in acknowledging that a wish list will not miraculously cure what ails us nor will vanquishing our wrongs. A year consists of 365 days of loving, failing, trying again and messing up. Staying stuck in our missteps, deprives us of healing that comes from self-acceptance, resilience and personal growth.

As you’ll read this week, life isn’t supposed to be easy or comfortable. For once, give yourself credit for the hardships you’ve endured instead of beating yourself up for the things you haven’t yet done. If you were to remember where you once was, you’ll be amazed with how far you’ve come.


Best of Our Blogs: December 26, 2014

Friday, December 26th, 2014

As I write this, it’s Christmas morning. There’s a calmness and peace today. The sound of my son watching cartoons, the flood of sparkling gifts still unwrapped, the smell of something delicious being baked for a party. It’s the potential and hope of the present moment and it’s beautiful.

I’ve been thinking a lot about gifts. Some are so completely wrong, they’re humorous. Others have been painstakingly handpicked or handmade and give you goosebumps when you open them. Gifts are filled with wonder, fun and the power of intention. But they are not just the ones sitting unwrapped on holidays. It’s the gifts you’ve been given in your life.

Illness can give us a gift. Maybe it’s not the one we would have chosen. In fact, it could be something we wish we could return. And maybe the gift isn’t obvious. We’re not glad we got it. But maybe there’s something valuable in the struggle.

Gifts come in big and small, pretty and strange packages. Sometimes they can be a surprise. Sometimes we expected them. But I encourage you to see them all as gifts. The process of embracing them as if you chose them, may give us the best gift of all-acceptance.


Best of Our Blogs: December 23, 2014

Tuesday, December 23rd, 2014

Every year, the days come and go like falling stars, gone as quickly as they appear. Sometimes I dream of catching them, holding each to be admired, stored, wondered for another day. But just like minutes, months and moments, they’re impossible to capture, and too precious to be saved.

As we reflect upon 2014 and contemplate the new year, how do we make amends with the things we haven’t accomplished, and continue to hold hope for the future? How do we look to our failures with grace and our accomplishments with pride? How do we muster courage, resilience and strength for what we have yet to confront and conquer? Most importantly, what can we do to treasure each moment as a gift instead of squandering them?

These are admirable challenges that go beyond our desire for the band-aid, superficial resolutions that cover up what’s really hurting us. To start 2015 right, I urge you to conjure up a single word as a mantra, a theme, or a desire from your heart to describe what you would like to see happen in the new year.

Will it be:







Or hope?

Use that word as your mission statement to remind yourself of your essential wish for you and loved ones next year.


Best of Our Blogs: December 19, 2014

Friday, December 19th, 2014

When I was a kid, my mom regularly told me the story about the “boy who cried wolf.” It’s one of Aesop’s Fables whose moral lesson is to teach kids about the negative consequences of lying and exaggerating. “Do that too much and no one will believe you,” she said.

After awhile I began to internalize the lesson so that any time I felt anything, I kept quiet instead of expressing myself. The lesson made me completely confused. How was I to know whether my emotions were genuine or like my mom believed, an exaggeration purely to seek attention?

I wish I had these posts to read back then. It made me realize that any sense of disconnection I had with my feelings was the result of this early lesson. But it wasn’t about whether I was trying to get attention. It wasn’t about lying or bad behavior. The lesson taught me less about my own deficiencies and more about what was considered “correct” and “acceptable” behavior.

Maybe I exaggerated as a kid. But there is a reason why kids lie and exaggerate just like there is a reason why loved ones say they are in pain, depressed or seek your help. The solution isn’t always to ignore bad behavior, tell others to “get over it” and silence it with a fable. The key is to have the patience, understanding and curiosity to seek out why it existed in the first place.


Best of Our Blogs: December 16, 2014

Tuesday, December 16th, 2014

‘Tis the season when my purpose and values slip through my fingers and fall into a blanket of people pleasing and unhealthy behaviors. December feels like a desperate chase to tie up loose ends to make up for the lack of connection during the rest of the year with the perfect gift or holiday party. It’s all too much. In response, we’re left with regret, sadness and an empty pint of Ben & Jerry’s. And then comes the new year.

January is all about torturing ourselves for our “bad” behavior. Diets. Books. Signing up for programs, seminars, classes, and gym memberships. That’s all great if it has a long-lasting impact on our happiness. But what often happens is we trigger a cycle of rebelling and resentment that brings us back to the same place come next year.

Instead of focusing on external events, dramas and situations, tune into what’s going on within. Unnecessary heartache, for example, could be stirred up because of miscommunication. Tuning into your feelings could help you lose weight and grow self-acceptance. Engaging in play could help reduce your stress, and participating in social media could be the thing that boosts your business.

Let’s not wait come January to start undertaking positive changes to bring us closer to the life we want. Let’s start now with these posts.

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