Do you find yourself shouting at people?
The problem with shouting is that it isn’t really communicating — it’s being aggressive and intimidating. That clearly is not the best way to forge relationships. You may not think that you’re being aggressive, or acting unhealthily — but you are. And you’re not doing yourself or anyone else any favors with your behavior.
When we communicate, there are a couple of thinking processes going on in the background: We have a goal or task we wish to complete in the interaction.
That goal is being driven by a set of personal rules and beliefs which are running on autopilot.