Aging

How Throwback Thursday Benefits Our Psychological Well-Being

So take the photographs and still frames in your mind. Hang it on a shelf in good health and good time. ~ Green Day

If you frequent any social media site, you probably have noticed the trend to post old pictures of yourself every Thursday. The trend of Throwback Thursday (or #TBT if you are so inclined) has certainly grown in popularity. It has become a time to visit times gone by and share memories with friends, old and new. We enjoy referencing the past, and we can have a good laugh at our clothes and hair back then.

Throwback Thursday is great for a laugh or a clever profile picture, but can it actually foster our psychological well-being?

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Why the U.S. Should Place Broader Attention on Wellness

Recently, the New York Times reported on a disturbing uptick in suicide rates among middle-aged Americans. Suicide among those ages 35-64 rose nearly 30 percent from 1999 to 2010, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

The Times points out that previously, suicide was largely thought to be most prevalent among youth and elderly populations; the CDC findings come as a surprise to many. Moreover, it was found that middle-aged men commit suicide at much higher rates than women in the same category. The suicide rate for middle-aged women was 8.1 deaths per 100,000, while for men it more than tripled to 27.3 deaths per 100,000.
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10 Lies Singles Tell Themselves About Love After 40


Single and sick of it? Find out what you can do to change your behavior.

If you are a single woman over 40, you have a love history. You've been in relationships before and you may want one now, but for whatever reason you haven't found the right person yet.

Maybe you're divorced and frustrated with dating or haven't ventured back out to the dating pool. You could be a widow and unsure of ever finding another man like your husband. Perhaps you were in a live-in or long-term relationship that ended, so you're single again.
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Hallucinations of Loss, Visions of Grief

When I was a boy and there was a death in the family, the mirrors in our house would be covered with a sheet, as Jewish tradition dictated.

The “official” explanation of this custom, according to our rabbi, was that gazing at one’s reflection in a mirror is an act of vanity — and there is no place for vanity in a period of mourning. But my family had a different understanding of the practice: the mirrors were covered so that we would not see the face of the deceased instead of our own reflections.

As a psychiatrist, I think this bit of folk wisdom may see more deeply into the human soul than the theological teaching.

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5 Simple Ways to Recharge Your Relationship


The turning of a year seems to beg us to reevaluate, revitalize, and recommit. We resolve to do better and to be better in almost every area of our lives. The only problem is that when it comes to breathing new life into an old relationship, most of us are not sure how to do it.

But we used to know how! Try reinstating some behaviors that came naturally at the beginning of the relationship.

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Facing Down a Quarter-Life Crisis

College graduation day: You’ve made it! It's a priceless feeling that you will never forget.

That diploma is still radiating through your fingers, as though it is some sort of golden passport. Before you even look down, to check to see if your name is spelled correctly, you have already booked your flight to the future and are well on your way. You hear the comforting voice of your flight attendant say “We will be taking off momentarily, please stow away any and all college books, research articles, writing assignments, forget about group projects, studying for exams and forget about rushing around campus to make it to class on time. Just sit back, relax and enjoy the flight, we will take care of the rest.”

You are now a college graduate. Congratulations! All of your hard work has paid off.

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Will the New DSM-5 Over-Diagnose?

Positive psychology emphasizes individuals’ strengths, and focuses on obtaining optimal mental development (as opposed to just diminishing negative symptoms), which is why I’m drawn to the field. For instance, positive psychologists not only seek to lift depression, but they encourage clients to explore their sense of happiness and resilience as well.

While not a student of abnormal psychology, I’m obviously aware that there are those who suffer from very serious illnesses. The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, fifth edition (DSM-5) is published by the American Psychiatric Association to provide a standard classification and common language for mental illness. It’s used by clinicians and researchers of various orientations and backgrounds.

And with the advent of the latest edition, diagnoses run rampant, encouraging us to pose the infamous question: are mental health professionals a bit too ready to diagnose disorders?

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25 Things I Learned the Year I Turned 25

With 2014 looming around the corner, I decided to reflect upon the past year and what I’ve learned.

Turning 25 was a big one for me, and with it came a lot of personal growth and learning experiences. I would like to share them with you and I encourage you to do the same. It allows you to pause and note any changes, progress, setbacks, and lessons you’ve experienced so far.

So here it goes -- 25 things I learned the year I turned 25.

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Aging

Birthdays & Age Expectations of Today’s Young Adult

"Your age is your age. But more importantly, your life is your life. Enjoy where you are. Here. Right here."
~ Today Was Meaningful Blog

My birthday recently passed, and I jokingly announced to everyone that I’m turning the same age again. (Look at me guys, I’m forever young -- literally!) I think it’s safe to presume that many of my 20-something friends are also a bit reticent that we’re another year older. It’s not that we don’t know this obvious fact of life, but it still somehow hits us hard that time seems to fly incredibly fast.

But perhaps aging is just a small part of our moaning and groaning. Societal expectations -- age expectations -- could be what have us sighing. It’s as if we’re all on a timeline to achieve this by this age, and be in this place by that age, and on and on the cycle continues.

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The Seniors Are Coming: World Mental Health Day 2013

America -- like the rest of the world -- is facing a fundamental shift in its population from younger to older in the next few decades. Due to great leaps in technology and health, people are simply living longer.

Some places aren't well-prepared for this shift. Nowhere is that more true than in the U.S.

In America, I'm ashamed to acknowledge we too-often treat seniors like people whose contributions to society have ended. They have nothing left to share, and so are shuffled off to a nursing home.

How does that make the elderly feel? Let's just say that it's not real good for their mental health.

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Dear Diary: Who Am I?

“What do you wish you could tell your 13-year-old self?”

This is a common parlor-game sort of question, leading to warm and fuzzy discussions about how difficult adolescence is and how we wouldn’t want to be teenagers again. Pink has even turned it into a song, “Conversations With My Thirteen Year Old Self.”

But in a twist on that, I am finding that my 13-year-old self has some things to tell me.

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