Are You ‘Addicted’ to Something?
The definition of “addiction,” and what people can become “addicted” to, are hotly contested issues. In everyday conversation, of course, people throw around the word “addicted” a lot, as in, “I’m addicted to Game of Thrones.”
Addiction, whatever it might be, is a subject that’s related to my current fascination: habits. As I explain in the introduction of Better Than Before, my discussion of habit formation doesn’t cover addictions, compulsions, nervous habits, or habits of mind. Nevertheless, I did a lot of reading and thinking about addiction, because it’s a useful area to consider.
The nature of addiction is highly controversial, but I found it interesting to read, in Kenneth Paul Rosenberg and Laura Curtiss Feder’s Behavioral Addictions, this list of factors put forth by Mark Griffiths. Apart from the question of “what’s a true addiction?” it’s a helpful way to think about whether a certain habit is making it harder to live a life that reflects our values and contributes to our long-term happiness.
According to this definition, a behavioral addiction is marked by:
Salience — this behavior has become the important activity in a person’s life
Mood modification — this behavior changes a person’s mood, by providing a rush of excitement or a sense of calm or numbness
Tolerance — more and more behavior is needed to get the mood boost
Withdrawal symptoms — a person feels lousy or irritable when unable to engage in the behavior
Conflict — the behavior causes conflicts with other people, interferes with other activities, or causes a person to feel a loss of control
Relapse — the behavior returns after being given up
I don’t want to sound like I’m treating addiction lightly. Whatever “addiction” might be exactly, when a person feels powerless to control a behavior that’s destructive, that’s a very, very serious matter. Far beyond the scope of my writing.
But I do think that even for people who aren’t “addicted” to something, these points are interesting to ponder, as they might relate to a bad habit (a habit that’s not good for us, but doesn’t rise to this level of severity).
They help us think about whether we’re engaging in a behavior that’s turned into a negative. That’s when we might want to consider changing a habit.
Sometimes, a behavior that one person considers to be healthy and positive is viewed by another person as extreme and negative. I have a friend, a fellow Upholder, who exercises just about every day of the year. People sometimes say she’s “addicted” to exercise in a way that’s unhealthy, but that’s not how she sees it.
In cases like this, I found this point by Griffiths to be very helpful: “Healthy enthusiasms add to life whereas addictions take away from it.”
My research on habits and happiness have convinced me that it’s very important that we feel in control of ourselves. The feeling that a behavior is out of our control — that we can’t change what we’re doing, even when we know it’s not good for us — well, that’s a bad feeling. Whether it’s an “addiction” or not.
As I was writing Better Than Before, I kept changing the epigraph (I love choosing epigraphs). In the end, I’ve chosen this line from Publilius Syrus: “The greatest of empires, is the empire over one’s self.”
Self-command, self-knowledge… more and more, I’m convinced that good habits and happiness come down to these two. And maybe self-command comes from self-knowledge, so really it’s just self-knowledge.
What about you? Have you ever had a behavior in your life that felt out of your control? If you wrested back control, how did you do it?
Rubin, G. (2014). Are You ‘Addicted’ to Something?. Psych Central. Retrieved on November 30, 2015, from http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2014/08/20/are-you-addicted-to-something/