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There is a great deficit in our country. But it doesn’t have to do with money. It has everything to do with love.

It is the real reason why we’re unhappy, why our partners can never do anything right, and why our kids/parents are never good enough.

Underneath our fancy clothes, impressive cars and perfect outfits, there is a secret not many of us would own up to.

In Start Where You Are: A Guide to Compassionate Living, author Pema Chodron says the following:

“When we hear about compassion, it naturally brings up working with others, caring for others. The reason we’re not often there for others-whether for our child or our mother or someone who is insulting us or someone who frightens us-is that we’re not there for ourselves.”

Maybe it’s time to hang up the false appearances. Maybe it’s time to work on our own pain before we try to help or judge someone else. The road to greater happiness, joy and peace begins with being kinder to yourself. Our top post this week will show you how. Try it and you’ll be surprised by how a change in your inner dialogue can change your outer world.

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25 Statements for Speaking Kindly to Ourselves
(Weightless) – When you’re at your worst, check in with yourself. Chances are your critical inner dialogue is responsible for your current state of mind. Replace any harsh self-statements with these.

6 Lessons Kids Can Teach Adults
(Reflections from a Children’s Therapist) – Perhaps your greatest lesson can be taught not by a wise old teacher, but a young one. Read the insightful things children can teach you about life.

Is your Relationship Healthy?
(Mental Health Awareness) – All relationships have problems. But how do you know if yours is leaning towards unhealthy? Here are a few signs to watch out for.

5 Ways People Diagnosed With Mental Illness Can Become “Athletes of the Mind”
(Trauma Informed Systems) – What does it mean to be well when you have been diagnosed with mental illness? This post introduces different things you can do to help someone you love feel well despite dealing with an illness.

On The Road Of Life With ADHD
(ADHD Man of DistrAction) – Kelly finds a surprising link between taking a journey on a bus and life with ADHD. Can you relate?



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    Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 17 Jul 2014
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APA Reference
Uyemura, B. (2014). Best of Our Blogs: July 18, 2014. Psych Central. Retrieved on December 21, 2014, from


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