I often hear people diagnosed with an illness say:
“But I’m not going to change my ___ (diet, lifestyle, etc.).”
I didn’t get it. I didn’t understand why you wouldn’t want to feel better or do what you can now so you can live a healthier tomorrow.
But then I remembered the four letter F-word that often comes between what we really want and what we think we want: Fear.
We’re afraid of what a diagnosis will mean. We’re afraid of how it will change our lives. We’re afraid that we will never be illness-free ever again. The thought of how we will live our lives henceforth can be paralyzing. It can rob us of our desire to heal. It can take away our power to make positive changes in our lives.
We’re afraid of sacrificing the way we were in order to be who we need to be. But sacrifice isn’t necessary a bad thing. Poet and author Mark Nepo said on Super Soul Sunday that the original meaning of sacrifice is, “to give up what no longer works.”
To you, that could mean giving up the belief that your life will be the way it was, or the dream of who you thought you were. But through loss, trauma and other life challenges, a door opens. Through it, shift happens. We say goodbye to an outdated way of thinking. We say goodbye to what once was. And the life that now greets us may be unfamiliar, but often better than we ever imagined.
What Death Taught Me About Life: 5 Inspirational Lessons
(The Psychology of Success) – What scares us most (death) can teach us something profound about our lives. In this age of instant fame and success, this a much-needed reminder on what’s truly important.
20 Questions for Connecting to Yourself & Your Needs
(Weightless) – You can’t fulfill your needs, love yourself or experience real happiness, unless you know who you are. Answer these questions and you may be surprised at what they reveal about you.
What is Complex Trauma and Dissociation? Interview Series with Bethany Brand
(After Trauma) – An internationally recognized expert in trauma and dissociative disorders discusses the relationship between complex trauma and Dissociative Identity Disorder and its effects.
The 3 Levels of Sex Addiction
(True Colors) – Is what you’re (or a loved one is) doing crossing over into addictive behavior? Here are a list of signs common at different levels of sex addiction.
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