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“Rest is not idleness, and to lie sometimes on the grass under the trees on a summer’s day, listening to the murmur of water, or watching the clouds float across the blue sky, is by no means waste of time.” – Sir John Lubbock, “The Use of Life” via Real Simple

I bet you have at least a dozen promises you’re committed to. Helping out a friend, picking up a prescription for a loved one, whipping up something fancy for 4th of July, writing thank you notes for your child’s party, visiting a relative, volunteering, etc. That hardly includes the groceries, the laundry, or taking care of your family.

It’s a long overflowing, unending, list of things to do. For others.

But are you on that list?

Have you forgotten about your own needs in lieu of their needs?

This 4th of July celebrate your own independence by freeing yourself from obligations and the fear of disappointing others. For once, give yourself permission to enjoy your freedom to be.

It’s not your responsibility to mend your family’s wounds. It’s not your fault if your kids or your in-laws are unhappy. You don’t have to be happy all the time. You are not supposed to look like you leaped from the cover of a magazine. You don’t have to put everyone’s life back together. You are capable of controlling only one thing-yourself.

Celebrate you and all of your quirks, uniqueness and abnormalities. Celebrate your freedom to let things slide for just this moment and breathe.

Happy 4th of July!

{Etsy painting from here.}

{Etsy painting from here.}

How to Spot a Narcissist
(Bonding Time) – You may know one and not even know it. Some are not easy to spot, but hidden charmers that lure you in. How do you know you’re engaging with a narcissist? Check out these five signs.

10 Signs You Haven’t Adjusted to Life Outside the Womb
(NLP Discoveries) – After reading this, I think a lot of us aren’t adjusting well to “life outside the womb.” In this funny, but true post, you’ll determine whether you need a little help coping with reality.

The key to successful relationships: Intolerance
(Healthy Romantic Relationships) – Tolerating immature behavior won’t help you or your partner. Find out if you’re guilty of doing or excusing actions that sabotage the health of your relationship.

20 Things That Cause Anxiety
(Tales of Manic Depression) – Our blogger lists some of the common things that cause her anxiety. Can you relate?

“Assisted Outpatient Treatment” and Psychiatric Hospitalization is Costly, Ineffective and Dangerous
(Trauma Informed Systems) – Is court mandated involuntary outpatient treatment or Assisted Outpatient Treatment good or bad for patients and the community? Read why this blogger says it “has the potential to trap the bodies and blunt the brains of hundreds of thousands of patients fairly or unfairly diagnosed with mental illness.”

 


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    Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 3 Jul 2014
    Published on PsychCentral.com. All rights reserved.

APA Reference
Uyemura, B. (2014). Best of Our Blogs: July 4, 2014. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 22, 2014, from http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2014/07/04/best-of-our-blogs-july-4-2014/

 

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