How many times has your self-worth affected you today?
It may, for example, be the reason why you grab fast food instead of healthier fare.
It’s why you stay in the same toxic relationship(s) with your job, your friends and your partner.
It’s why you live where you do, work where you work and surround yourself with the people you do.
It dictates how you walk, how you talk, how you dress, and how you introduce yourself.
An old college roommate once told me quite generously that I could wear a potato sack and look nice, yet I walk with my gaze down. It was a life-changing statement. I realized that you can’t hide the way you feel about yourself. You can dress nice, speak perfectly and act confidently, but your actions will eventually deceive you. Instead of focusing all my energies on appearing nice, normal, and capable, I would just focus on learning to like me.
That being said, it’s not easy.
It’s much easier to spend money on an outfit, a car, or the gym to make others think you’re confident than to look at the mirror and say, “Hey I know you’re not perfect, but you’re pretty okay.” And not just say it, but actually mean it.
When it comes down to it, most of our problems stem from a lack of self-love. The good news is we can do something about it. You’re here. You’re reading this. You want to change your life. Let these posts on self-care and self-compassion be the vehicles to get you that much closer to loving you.
Is Second Hand Stress Killing You? Science Proves Stress Is Contagious
(NLP Discoveries) – A shocking new study uncovers the dangers of second hand stress not just on you, but on your children. How can you protect yourself and your loved ones from its damaging effects? Read this.
5 Simple Ways to Moderate Your Drinking
(Addiction Recovery) – This is for those of us who can drink alcohol, but just need help in finding and managing the middle ground of moderation. Here’s how to do it.
Neonatal Bipolar Disorder
(Bipolar Parenting) – Unfortunately, it can sometimes take too long to get a correct diagnosis. That’s what happened to this blogger who had to go through several years and pregnancies before she was diagnosed with bipolar disorder.
Your Summer Self-Care Wishlist
(Weightless) – In her self-care wishlist, Margarita reminds us all to take time this summer to engage in to-dos that nourish ourselves.
The Gifts of Imperfection: A Mini-Memoir
(Mindfulness & Psychotherapy) – How do you respond to anger in a mindful and compassionate way? While we might not always respond perfectly, this shows us that within each situation lies perfect pearls of wisdom for cultivating more compassion in our lives.
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Uyemura, B. (2014). Best of Our Blogs: June 17, 2014. Psych Central. Retrieved on November 28, 2014, from http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2014/06/17/best-of-our-blogs-june-17-2014/