When is the last time you had a real conversation with someone. Not a quick chat with a friend online, superficial passing at the grocery store or shared gossip about someone’s “bad” behavior?
When is the last time you had a one-to-one, phones off, open-hearted, uncomfortably vulnerable moment with someone you trusted? When was the last time you shared how much of a dope you were, how awkward you felt, how genuinely apologetic you are for something you shouldn’t have said or did?
I’m not sure either.
I can remember what I ate for lunch, how much projects I have in cue, and how long my baby slept last night, but I can’t tell you when is the last time I had a long, or meaningful conversation with a loved one. And that’s not good.
When I found out that Dr. Maya Angelou passed away, I was as heartbroken as if I had known her personally. She touched a deep place in a lot of people’s hearts. And when I think of her, I am reminded about what’s important-true, authentic connection.
“We allow our ignorance to prevail upon us and make us think we can survive alone, alone in patches, alone in groups, alone in races, even alone in genders.” - Maya Angelou
This week you’ll find a range of reasons why it’s important to prioritize relationships. Our top post, for example taught me how good social support can increase our health and well-being. But click over and you’ll find out how constantly arguing can be life endangering. Another post is solely devoted to Dr. Angelou and the way she’s impacted all of our lives. And there’s one on research that shows we’re wired to connect and empathize with others. There’s lots to reflect on this week. Hope it will inspire you to think differently, reconnect with a loved one or just spend time doing something that truly matters!
Common Form of Expression Doubles Risk of Death
(NLP Discoveries) – Recent research reveals that fighting with loved ones may put your life at risk. To transform your most difficult relationships, find out why you argue in the first place.
4 Things That We Can Learn From Maya Angelou
(Diary of a Therapist) – We may have lost Maya Angelou, but her wise words will stay with us forever. See if one of these 4 lessons she’s taught us has had had impact on you.
Mirror Neurons: How Our Ability to Connect With Others Makes Us Caring, Moral By Nature
(Neuroscience & Relationships) – Research shows we’re inherently good, wired for empathy and to be good and kind to one another. If you need another reason to pick up the phone or drop by a friend’s house, this should do it.
Therapists and Clients: Common Problems and How to Avoid Them
(Sex & Intimacy in the Digital Age) – No one’s immune to mistakes and that includes therapists too. Watch out for these common therapeutic missteps and get important advice on how to avoid them.
Thirteen Easy Ways To Give Yourself A Break
(Therapy Soup) – I love this! And you will too, especially if you’re burnout, overwhelmed and just need permission to take time to rest, relax and rejuvenate.
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