Being immersed in our culture of reality TV, self-help gurus and a plethora of parenting books, it’s difficult not to get steeped in shoulds. It’s not only the things I should say or do that get to me, but I rehash things in my mind about what I said or should’ve said, things I didn’t do, but should’ve done.
A mom in a parenting group said something I think applies to all of us whether we’re parents or not. She said the most difficult thing about being a parent was trying to solve a problem with no logical, black-and-white answer. It’s like aiming at a moving target. Things change at such a rapid pace. You never know if what you’re eating, saying, or thinking is the right thing to do.
The best we can do is sift through all the research, info and advice we’re given on a daily basis and sink into what feels right. This week, you’ll have a chance to do that in reading why positive thinking may not work for you. You’ll also learn the latest research regarding marijuana’s dangerous effects, the impact of friendships on your recovery, and ideas for celebrating mental health month and reconnecting with your child. These posts may provide the latest information on what’s good and not so good for you and your family, but like everything else, they require your own discretion.
Let this post be a reminder (for me included) to bury the shoulds for this moment and make the best decision for ourselves.
Dump Positive Thinking
(Going on the Ride of Your Life) – Positive thinking seems, well, positive. We should all do it right? According to this, attempting to sugarcoat your situation could end up backfiring on you.
New Studies Show Long-Term Effects of Cannabis on the Brain
(The Science of Addiction) – With the legalization of recreational marijuana in Washington and Colorado, you may have asked yourself how safe is it really? This post looks at a few studies on how marijuana exposure creates dangerous physical changes in the brain.
Study Shows Drinking is Even More Contagious Than You Thought
(Addiction Under 30) – You are who you hang out with. A startling study suggests people in recovery need to be cognizant of your friendships. According to this, friends have a strong influence on your drinking.
5 Love Languages You Might Want To Consider
(Caregivers, Family & Friends) – If your child suffers from a mental health or behavioral problem, you may have many moments where you feel exhausted, frustrated, and disconnected. This can help you reconnect and build a stronger relationship with those you love.
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Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 1 May 2014
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Uyemura, B. (2014). Best of Our Blogs: May 2, 2014. Psych Central. Retrieved on October 23, 2014, from http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2014/05/02/best-of-our-blogs-may-2-2014/