Archive for May, 2014

Empathy: It’s a Win-Win Situation

Saturday, May 31st, 2014

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At a family holiday dinner last week, it finally dawned on me that certain people I consider smart and beautiful consider themselves stupid and hideous.

Granted, I spent most of my life considering myself occasionally stupid and more or less hideous, but no one has ever considered me beautiful, so that’s different. Well, almost no one. But those few who did were clearly out of their minds.

Additional Questions to Spark Self-Discovery

Saturday, May 31st, 2014

Additional Questions to Spark Self-DiscoveryLast month we explored various questions to help you get to know yourself better. Self-discovery is powerful.

“[It] is at the core of living a joyful, fully self-expressed life,” said Mara Glatzel, MSW, an intuitive life and business coach who helps women create lives brimming with ease, self-care and permission.

“It is impossible to cultivate a daily life that makes you feel really good if you don’t even (really) know who you are — or what you like.” She likened it to creating the perfect date for a total stranger.

Psychology Around the Net: May 31, 2014

Saturday, May 31st, 2014

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Ever wonder about self-help industry profits? What about why people are more likely to share negative experiences than positive ones?

What about the psychology of sexual fantasies? Oooooh.

Check out this week’s Psychology Around the Net.

The Self-Help Industry Helps Itself to Billions of Dollars: Did you know the self-improvement industry represents a $10 billion industry each year in the United States alone?

Handling Criticism: Can You Do It?

Friday, May 30th, 2014

The Critical Thinking Coach

A total stranger about whose business establishment I had written an article emailed me the night after it was published, alleging that my article was “mostly erroneous.”

For a horrified split-second I wondered how this could be, as (1) I’m a conscientious professional — not perfect, sure, but too careful after having written thousands of articles to get one “mostly” wrong; and (2) this was a simple feature based mainly on an interview with my accuser’s partner.

The Science of Love: 9 Ways Being in Love Affects Your Personality

Friday, May 30th, 2014

Couple in loveFrom boosting happiness to making you less judgmental, here’s how head-over-heels transforms you.

Love makes us all walk around like giant goof balls. We’re smiling for no reason. We’re asking people how their days are just so they’ll ask us back and we can sigh and say things have never been better. It makes us wake up in the morning and want to get out of bed and want to say hello to the brutal morning and want to be the greatest version of ourselves.

But as great as it makes it, it also makes us crazy.

Best of Our Blogs: May 30, 2014

Friday, May 30th, 2014

I’m tired of insensitive comments.

I’m tired of excuses.

I’m tired of dramas,

overplayed celebrity mishaps,

the crawler/news ticker that encourages distractions precisely when I’m trying to relax.

I’m tired of my obese inbox,

and my malnourished free time.

I’m tired of thinking,

talking,

ruminating,

multitasking,

worrying,

wondering.

I’m. Simply. Tired.

If you’ve ever thought, said, or experienced these words, you will relax, relish and delight in our posts this week. Learn things you never knew about yourself. Find out how to finally let go and forgive someone or yourself. Understand how creativity can transform a traumatic past and get the secret steps toward your own path toward success.

{Etsy photo by TSquaredphoto}

{Etsy photo by TSquaredphoto}

How Anxiety Can Protect Us

Thursday, May 29th, 2014

How Anxiety Can Protect UsIn life there are some things that are good for us and some things that aren’t. Many times though, the things that we think are doing us harm actually have a component of good.

This is true for things like relationships that although were not healthy while we were engaged, taught us great life lessons weeks, months or years down the road. The same can be said for anxiety.

Anxiety was best described to me as the point when your fight or flight response is triggered by something that should be completely innocuous. It can be brought on by social interaction, peer pressure, perceived slights or even things as seemingly harmless as stepping on a crack in the sidewalk or not doing the precise number of actions or the precise order of actions before something happens.

12 Ways to Help Kids with ADHD Get Things Done

Thursday, May 29th, 2014

12 Ways to Help Kids with ADHD Get Things DoneKids with ADHD have a hard time completing tasks, such as homework and chores.

They may understand the material and be capable of completing the assignment, said Cindy Goldrich, Ed.M., ACAC, an ADHD parent coach, mental health counselor and teacher trainer. She shares her unique insights and experience to build an environment where kids feel safe, supported, and capable of learning.

But “they often have significant weakness in their ability to get started, stay focused, plan and organize their work, monitor themselves to regulate their actions, and manage their emotions.”

Thinking About How to Think

Thursday, May 29th, 2014

Observe, Accept, but Don't FollowHave you ever taken a course on how to manage your mind? Have you ever read a book on how to think? I doubt it.

Most of us believe we’ve learned how to think by going to school and learning about the world. But most schooling teaches you only one way of thinking: figuring out the right answer. Once you’ve done that, many believe that there’s no need to reflect on the ideas you have or the beliefs you maintain.

Kiss, Kiss! 7 Healthy Perks to Puckering Up

Wednesday, May 28th, 2014

Couple Kissing and Laughing Outside

Your mom always said that you have to kiss a lot o’ frogs before you meet your prince … but whoever said that was a bad thing? From burning calories to offsetting signs of aging, it turns out that smooching has scientifically-proven health benefits.

So go ahead — pucker up!

PMS & Relationships

Wednesday, May 28th, 2014

PMS and RelationshipsLast year I gave a talk on PMS and nobody came. I was surprised when I looked out at the empty room because so many of the women I see in therapy suffer from PMS.

Whether they come in to deal with anxiety, anger, depression, grief, self-esteem or a breakup, many add, “Oh, and it’s a lot worse when I’m PMSing. I feel like I’m going crazy. And I usually start a terrible fight with my partner.”

Taking Too Many Selfies? Don’t Worry, It’s Not a Disorder

Wednesday, May 28th, 2014

Taking Too Many Selfies? Don't Worry, It's Not a DisorderA news article was recently published that described how the American Psychiatric Association had classified taking too many selfies as a new mental disorder.

The only problem? It wasn’t true.

Showing that far too many people don’t ever bother to check to see what kind of website they’re on, thousands of people tweeted and posted links to the fake news article. Nobody stopped for a minute to ask, “Hey, is this true? How come no other news website is reporting it?”

Don’t worry — taking too many selfies isn’t a mental disorder.

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