Do You Find It Hard to Turn Off the Light, Even When You Need the Sleep?
Because I’m working on Before and After, my new book about habit-formation, I constantly talk to people about their habits, and as I heard about people’s sleep habits, something puzzled me.
For me, sleep is a self-reinforcing habit; I feel so much better when I get enough sleep that I find it fairly easy to respect my bedtime.
Often, however, people tell me that they’re painfully, chronically exhausted — yet when I suggest that they go to bed earlier, they become angry and resentful. Usually, these folks desperately need the sleep. So why do they get so upset at the thought of moving up their bedtime?
As I talked to more and more people, I began to understand. In most cases, these are folks who schedule very little time for themselves. They race around, weekdays and weekends alike, without a break, and their only open time comes at night, when nothing more can be expected of them.
Some use that time to try to catch up on work — to knock off a few emails, to read through a report. For many people, it’s the only time they can work without fear of interruption, and they want to get a jump on the next day.
Other people use the time not for work, but for play. The kids are asleep, the trash is out, office emails have stopped, and they can finally relax.
People don’t want to lose that precious slot of time, even to sleep. It feels like a deprivation — and people hate to feel deprived.
A friend said, with surprising vehemence, “I work at my law firm from morning to night. If I don’t have that hour or two at the end of the day, to read, to relax, I have nothing for myself.”
“So what are your hours?”
“I get home around nine, I never go to bed before midnight, I get up at 6:30 a.m.”
“You might work better and more efficiently if you got more sleep.”
“If I went to sleep earlier, in order to feel sharper the next day, that would just seem like a work-related decision, too. That would mean the firm is getting more of my time.” He shook his head. “No way.”
This it’s-my-only-time-to-myself phenomenon is a big habits challenge. “Rest, relax, and enjoy” is #4 of the Essential Seven, and many of those who cling to that last outpost of open time are reluctant to trade it for the restorative repose of sleep.
Do you find it hard to turn out the light, even when you know you’d feel better if you got more sleep? How do you think about that trade-off?
Rubin, G. (2014). Do You Find It Hard to Turn Off the Light, Even When You Need the Sleep?. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 30, 2015, from http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2014/03/16/do-you-find-it-hard-to-turn-off-the-light-even-when-you-need-the-sleep/