I’ve been guilty of it many times. In my desire to want things the way I want them to be, I forget to see things as they truly are.
Although I’m unaware of it at the time, it’s most obvious when I’m disappointed. When I catch myself upset over a friend’s comment, a relative’s disapproval, or a misunderstanding. Instead of meeting this person where they are, I treat them the way I wish they would be.
What I should be doing instead is give them the compassion and nonjudgmental response that I crave. By griping over their critical behavior, their negativity, I’m only becoming the very thing I despise.
To truly change our external world, we need to turn inward and look at ourself.
This week instead of meeting the day with wants, what-ifs and wishes, try doing what our bloggers say. Meet your present circumstance as it is. Treat it with kindness. Love your body (big and small), your mind (anxiety, depression and all), and to meet whatever you’re going through (bad situation, challenging marriage, etc.) where you are right now with as much compassion you can muster up.
20 Things to Do Besides Berate Your Body And Yourself
(Weightless) – You spend much too much time being nice to the people who don’t matter, and mean to the people who do. Don’t spend another moment criticizing yourself. Do this instead.
Low Blood Sugar And Panic Attacks: How Are They Related?
(Panic About Anxiety) – Is your anxiety the result of hypoglycemia? Find out the relationship between the two and what you can do to minimize the chances of a low blood sugar induced panic attack.
7 Rules to Protect Your Children from Marital Conflict
(Neuroscience & Relationships) – Read the letter you don’t want your child to ever write to you. A sobering reality for those struggling to teach their kids to respect themselves and others, but aren’t aware of the greater impact their own behavior plays in their child’s life.
The Power of REBT
(Mental Health Awareness) – How you respond to a situation is more important than what happened to you. You’ve probably heard that before. But how do you apply this to your own life? Learn how rational emotive behavior therapy can help you focus on your mental wellbeing right now.
Depressed? Be Compassionate Toward Yourself
(Amazed by Grace) – If you need a break, don’t be hard on yourself. Why it’s okay to set boundaries and avoid toxic and draining friends, family or situation when you’re having a difficult time.
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Uyemura, B. (2014). Best of Our Blogs: February 25, 2014. Psych Central. Retrieved on December 21, 2014, from http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2014/02/25/best-of-our-blogs-february-25-2014/