After almost a decade of being a freelance writer, you would think accepting disappointment would be easy. But it’s not. Whether it’s a rejection for a project or bad news about my health, the big “D” hits me just the same. It’s only recently that I discovered why disappointment hurts so bad.
You could have had a laundry list of accomplishments or joyful ordinary moments (spending time with your dog, having a meaningful conversation with a friend, or savoring a warm cup of hot chocolate), but that single unexpected downer completely pulverized that list.
Your brain remembers past experiences that were devastating (a high school rejection, a parent’s hurtful comment, disapproval from someone you admire) and won’t let you forget it. The next time you hear disappointing news at work, about your health, or your child, take a moment to ask yourself whether what you’re experiencing is reaction to what is happening now or to something unresolved from your past. Once you’re able to decipher what’s really bugging you, you’ll be free of disappointment’s hold on you. When you’re able to leave the pain from the past in the past, you’re more apt to deal with the monster in front of you. And we can help with that. These end of the week posts will address the challenges you’re currently confronting.
Qigong: An Ancient Practice Brings Relief to Modern Stress
(Living a Balanced Life) – Got stress? You’re not alone. In the past five years, our stress as a nation has increased. The good news is there is a proven practice to reduce anxiety, cortisol levels and improve mood. And you don’t even need a yoga mat to do it. Learn more about Qigong here.
8 Ways To Help Someone With ADHD In Crisis
(ADHD Man of Distraction) – When someone you love has ADHD and is in a crisis, what do you do? You may have good intentions, but your actions could end up worsening the situation. Here’s what you should say or do to help them.
Raising Awareness: Mental Health Issues In The Workplace
(Caregivers, Family & Friends) – Don’t wait until you have a problem before you address it! Find out what you can do as an employee/company to spread awareness about mental health issues in your workplace to create a healthier, safer and more productive environment for everyone.
Dealing with Teasing and Bullying
(Mental Health Awareness) – How do you know whether your child is being teased or bullied? This post lays out the differences, common signs they’re being victimized and what you can do to help.
Challenges of Diagnoses
(After Trauma) – A diagnosis can bring about a multitude of emotions. You may be relieved. You may also feel scared and discouraged. Part of the difficulties associated with a mental versus physical diagnosis is the shame and the stigma involved. Here’s hope and help to get you through it.
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Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 23 Jan 2014
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Uyemura, B. (2014). Best of Our Blogs: January 24, 2014. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 6, 2015, from http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2014/01/24/best-of-our-blogs-january-24-2014/