I have a reoccurring dream in which a loved one’s home is suddenly clean. The clutter is gone. The dishes are cleaned and tucked away. The furniture and decor has been updated. It’s beautiful and the relief it causes is breathtaking.
The holidays often stir up this kind of wish in me-the desire for the people we love to suddenly be well. The inner dream that everything in my own life is ideal. It’s something we all wish for those we love and for ourselves.
But what do you do if your dreams does not come close to reality?
Some of us numb that pain through food, TV, internet, social media, drugs, alcohol, etc. I find that the best way to deal with it is to allow myself to feel the disappointment, lost and grief associated with the sour lemons life has given and then refocus my attention on the sweet nectar of what’s working.
As 2013 comes toward its end, we hope these posts will help you find a way to look back with gratitude and appreciation not just for what you’ve accomplished (academically or professionally), but for what you’ve been able to do personally. Let it inspire you to transform your life in 2014 with creative ways to love yourself and each other.
Helping Yourself by Serving Others
(Parenting Tips) – It’s tempting to indulge in the season. But you’ll find the greatest joy and happiness you’ll ever know comes not from what we give ourselves, but from what we give each other. Let this post remind us all of that.
It’s Okay to Not Know What to Do
(Mentoring & Recovery) – Worrying might feel helpful and necessary. But you’ll find out here why it’s your biggest obstacle to resolving the very issue you’re so worked up about.
50 Last-Minute Body Positive Gifts For Your Loved Ones & Yourself
(Weightless) – Christmas is over, but it’s not too late to do something nice for yourself or someone you love. Pick from this list of fun, creative, and loving (some even free!) gifts.
The ESSENCE of Happiness for Parents and Teens (And Everyone Else Too)
(Mindfulness & Psychotherapy) – This brilliant acronym could change your and your teen’s life. Read what four domains can transform those critical years of optimal health and happiness for teens and parents.
4 Tools You May Not Be Using That Could Help Prevent Drug Relapse
(Addiction Recovery) – This time of the year is an obvious trigger for anyone in early recovery. Go here to get the tools you need to stay sober over the holidays and beyond.
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Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 26 Dec 2013
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Uyemura, B. (2013). Best of Our Blogs: December 27, 2013. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 10, 2014, from http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2013/12/27/best-of-our-blogs-december-27-2013/