The moment takes you by surprise. You never know exactly when it will happen. But one day you recognize that you have crossed the line from ‘faking’ it to ‘making’ it.
And when that day arrives, you feel fantastic.
Perhaps it’s a skill you’ve been wanting to improve. Maybe it’s writing. Instead of droning on with long, boring sentences, you notice that your words snap into place. Your characters sparkle. Your plot takes meandering curves that keeps readers coming back for more.
Perhaps it’s a character trait that you never thought you’d own. Like courage. Or self-confidence. These traits can’t be developed. Or can they?
Instead of shriveling up in fear when you’re tackling something new, you notice that you’re charged up. Your curiosity is aroused. You look forward to learning more.
In what area of life do you want to ‘make’ it? Do you want to be a computer whiz? A public speaker? An artist? Do you want to raise your self-esteem? Enrich your relationship skills? Enhance your decision-making?
If you don’t start ‘faking’ it, I guarantee you, you won’t be ‘making’ it. Why not?
Because you’ll shrug your shoulders, hang your head low and remain on the sidelines. You will not take a risk. You will fear to attempt. You will give up at the first sign of frustration. You will fear that the forlorn feelings you’re having now will be forever.
‘Faking’ it is not being dishonest. It’s not blowing your own horn. It’s not flaunting it. It’s simply acting as if you already have it. You don’t have to feel confident on the inside to look confident on the outside. You don’t have to know it all to know more than the next person. You don’t have to be a candidate for “So You Think You Can Dance” to shake your booty. You don’t have to be the next Monet to put paint to canvas.
‘Faking it’ is being courageous. It’s doing it, despite being scared to death. It’s doing it, despite being disappointed in your progress. It’s doing it, despite wanting to give up. And as you do it, you get better. Why? Because you are practicing a skill. You are in the game. You are polishing your performance, regardless of whether you are aware of it.
Then, one glorious day, you admit that all your hard work has paid off. You take it all in. You pat yourself on the back. You joyfully proclaim, “Yes, indeed, I have made it. I can do that. I am no longer afraid. I am an accomplished craftsperson. I am capable. I am confident. I am proud of myself.”
This post currently has
You can read the comments or leave your own thoughts.
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 25 Dec 2013
Published on PsychCentral.com. All rights reserved.
Sapadin, L. (2013). From Faking It to Making It. Psych Central. Retrieved on January 26, 2015, from http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2013/12/26/from-faking-it-to-making-it/