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It’s Christmas Eve. For those who celebrate it, Merry Christmas!

While this time of year, we’re focused on material things, there are other gifts to be treasured. For me, it’s about learning to lower my expectations and accepting the reality of what is. It’s a hard lesson to learn. But it’s a gift that lasts longer than anything I open on Christmas morning.

This year, I was finally able to release some of the pain that comes with disappointment from not getting the love, compassion, attention or support I need by hearing the quote below.

On Oprah’s Life Class, Bishop T.D. Jakes says, “When you are a 10-gallon person and you want love, you want it on a 10-gallon level. They could be giving you all that they have…but it doesn’t fill you up because you’re bigger than that.” In other words, suffering comes when what we want and desire doesn’t meet up with the reality of what we’re given. Instead of accepting what is, we agonize over what we don’t have. Maybe it’s not that the people in your life aren’t giving you what they need because they don’t want to. Maybe it’s because they can’t.

This week, we’ve turned the tables a bit. Instead of focusing our energies on other people, our bloggers are helping us to tune into ourselves. Since we cannot control others, make them say, do, or be the person we need them to be, all we can do is change, love and take care of ourselves. These posts will help you do that. Let it be the best Christmas gift you receive this year. Merry Christmas!

{Flickr photo by Bunches and Bits}

{Flickr photo by Bunches and Bits}

144 Reasons For Happiness!
(Partners in Wellness) – Don’t worry about being naughty or nice. During this time of the year, we may need this list most. Focus on the things that make you happiest. Find out what things you can do to change your life in 2014.

‘Dark Matter’ May Be Game Changer
(No Family Madder) – What will 2013 be remembered as? According to the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH), it’s ”the year when we began to realize how much the brain differs from other organs.” Learn the fascinating facts that could bring hope to families with schizophrenia.

New Journal of Attachment Parenting Provides Step Forward for Parenting
(Attachment Matters) – Increased awareness of early parenting’s role in adult health has led to a new journal. Some of the studies include the impact of blogging and parent education on mothers. Get more information about this exciting new journal here.

Healthy Holidays: A Conscious Relationship With Your Mind and Body
(Neuroscience & Relationships) – We spend so much energy on our relationship with others. But how are you doing with your mind and body? Here’s how to build a better, more conscious relationship through the holidays and beyond.

An Exercise For Befriending Yourself
(Weightless) – This is the perfect time of year to develop a kinder, more loving and compassionate relationship with yourself. Here are a few ideas, activities and practices to help you get started.



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    Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 23 Dec 2013
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Uyemura, B. (2013). Best of Our Blogs: December 24, 2013. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 25, 2015, from


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