It’s the rolling eyes, the raised eyebrow, the minor gestures that leave major impressions. This is what family gatherings bring.
Although we gripe and get worked up over it, we give it as often as we receive it.
The truth is that no matter how much our relatives drive us crazy over the holiday season, we’re at least 50% responsible for it. The key is to separate our own egos from the circus.
Bestselling author and meditation teacher Jack Kornfield said on Super Soul Sunday that when people ask for attention, it’s not a little thing. What attention is loving awareness.
If we shift focus from our own pain to the person in front of us, we may see them in a clearer, more neutral way. Perhaps, the eye roll or the raised eyebrow were signals of that person’s own inner shame or wells of deep pain. Instead of making it about us, what if we were to just sit there in complete awareness and listen to their song instead of competing with them over our own somber melody?
It might just transform a time of year that you dread into something a lot more peaceful. Maybe.
In the meantime, enjoy these posts. It will make you see and appreciate another person’s life differently.
What Makes Men (and Women) Happy? A 75 Year Study’s Revelation
(Mindfulness & Psychotherapy) – What makes men happy can be summed up in five words. You might be surprised by what this 75 year old and twenty million dollars study revealed.
Schizophrenia and Homelessness: “A Disease, Not A Choice”
(Caregivers, Family & Friends) – Every day, the young and old walk the streets without roofs over their head. And for about 20-25% of them, it’s due to mental illness. These videos will open your heart to the unimaginable struggles faced by the men and women in your community.
Are Smartphones Making Us Dumb, Doped, Depressed?
(Therapy Soup) – Smartphones not so smart? A research study finds that your smartphone could be causing anxiety, depression, and lower GPAs in college students. It might be time to go on a cell phone fast.
My 12-step anti-depression program for the holidays
(Depression On My Mind) – What does George Bailey, Natalie Wood, Scrooge and Charlie Brown have in common? According to this blogger, they all suffered from depression that was alleviated by a Christmas miracle. In reality, we can’t always wait for a miracle. Here’s what you can do instead.
Chemistry & Attraction: When It’s Healthy & When It’s Not
(The Psychology of Success) – How do you know if what you’re experiencing is healthy chemistry or not? This post breaks down the difference with information regarding one of the most prevalent and dysfunctional attractions out there.
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