When my grandfather was depressed, he would tell me things like:
“Dane is so funny. I’m going to miss that about him. I’m really going to miss all of my grandkids. Her smile. His sense of adventure.”
Although this was a painful time, the experience taught me the gift of listening. If I hadn’t paid attention, for example, if I had told him to, “keep his chin up, “tough it up,” “deal with it,” I would never know what my grandpa thought of us. It was a bittersweet lesson, but one I’m grateful for.
Sometimes we unintentionally ignore those who are suffering because it’s uncomfortable. But listening to them is surprisingly freeing. It connects us to others. It rids us of shame. It allows love and meaning back into our lives. The key to being a good listener, however, is being a good listener to ourselves.
If you’re struggling with the topics our bloggers are covering this week, you’re going to need a good listener. Find it in a friend, therapist, spiritual guide or be the friend you need and find it in yourself.
Overcoming Obsessive Thinking
(Anger Management) – While it can be detrimental to our success to fall into negative thinking, it’s how most of us deal with fear. Find out if you’re sabotaging your own efforts with pessimism and self-judgment.
112 Reasons For Happiness!
(Partners in Wellness) – This positive post reminds us there is always something (no matter what you’re going through) to feel joyful about. Go here for your weekly round-up of happiness.
Why Do Fools Fall in Love? Our Brains Have Some Answers.
(Parenting Tips) – You’ve read and watched movies and TV shows about it. But what is love really? This post answers the question by examining its influence on our brains.
The Complexities of Trauma: A Basic Understanding
(Sex & Intimacy in the Digital Age) – Robert Weiss demonstrates the complexity of trauma through a case study of 28-year-old suffering from multiple traumatic experiences and events.
Excelling at the habits of highly miserable people
(Depression On My Mind) – In reading what common things miserable people do, you’ll laugh, cry and learn what you shouldn’t do to get happy.
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