Archive for November, 2013

Time Might Not Heal All Wounds

Saturday, November 30th, 2013

Time Might Not Heal All WoundsIt’s not the load that breaks you down; it’s the way you carry it.
~ Lena Horne

Think of a painful injury such as a wound — one that’s fresh and open, bleeding. You attempt to secure a bandage and some protection.

You move onward. As time goes by, the wound starts to heal, but you’re left with a scar — a physical reminder and mark of what occurred.

In similar fashion, that’s how I view certain emotional wounds. They’re scars that will always be a part of us, regardless of time and longevity. But that’s okay, because it’s all about how you choose to carry your load, your past.

Words Can Change Your Brain

Saturday, November 30th, 2013

Words Can Change Your BrainSticks and stones may break your bones, but words can change your brain.

That’s right.

According to Andrew Newberg, M.D. and Mark Robert Waldman, words can literally change your brain.

In their book, Words Can Change Your Brain, they write: “a single word has the power to influence the expression of genes that regulate physical and emotional stress.”

7 Tips for Managing ‘In-Law Stress’ During the Holidays

Saturday, November 30th, 2013

7 Tips for Managing 'In-Law Stress' During the HolidaysYour mother-in-law takes over the kitchen at holiday time. So what? Your father-in-law drinks too much and sulks in the corner. Big deal!

Don’t let in-laws ruin your family holiday, multiply your stress, and leave you feeling defeated or angry. There are some simple strategies you can use to get along with difficult in-laws this holiday season.

Doing so will make your holiday get-together more pleasant. But there’s an even better reason to make peace with in-laws.

5 Reasons You’re Feeling More Emotional Lately

Friday, November 29th, 2013

5 Reasons You're Feeling More Emotional LatelyEveryone has off days. You may find yourself giving hostile, clipped answers to simple questions. Or you may find yourself on the verge of tears for no discernible reason. (There’s always a reason, even if you aren’t currently aware.)

It’s important to be in tune with your body, not just physically but emotionally as well. This is referred to as “emotional intelligence.” It’s good to understand what you’re feeling — and why — in order to manage your emotions.

If you’ve been feeling more emotional lately, some likely reasons are below.

How Do You Give Thanks?

Friday, November 29th, 2013

How Do You Give Thanks?Gratitude is beneficial to both the one giving and the one receiving. You can show gratitude to others by saying “please and thank you” and “yes (or no) ma’am (or sir).”

There are many creative ways to express gratitude. It can be as simple as getting up in the morning and acknowledging that you woke up — not everyone has that privilege!

Instead of getting mad at your significant other, show them gratitude. Make an effort to communicate more effectively instead of being critical or judgmental.

When you are having a hard day at work, take a break and remember some of the good days that you’ve had that month — don’t forget that it is only a bad day, not a bad life.

Best of Our Blogs: November 29, 2013

Friday, November 29th, 2013

As I’m writing this, it’s Thanksgiving Day. If there ever was a day to be grateful, it’s today. But as I’m typing this, I’m thinking about the quiche in the oven, the pet that hasn’t gotten fed, the crying baby, the relatives who aren’t here to help. Instead of gratitude, I feel overwhelmed.

When everything’s going well in my life, gratitude is easy. I can fill up the pages in my journal with my good fortune-the great job, the loving friends, the fun day. But when things are hard, I focus on the things that aren’t going right. Gratitude goes out the window with my good mood.

Our bloggers reminded me this week that you don’t need a perfect life to be grateful. A friendly smile is just as worthy of gratitude as the big promotion. The food on the table just as wonderful as a luxurious trip. Happy people aren’t luckier than the rest of us. They’ve just learned how to find pearls in every circumstance. You’ll find ample things to be grateful for in our top posts below no matter what you’re going through.

{Flickr photo by Julie Jordan Scott}

{Flickr photo by Julie Jordan Scott}

Happy Thanksgiving 2013

Thursday, November 28th, 2013

Happy Thanksgiving 2013Happy Thanksgiving to all of our loyal readers! This is our 18th year celebrating a Thanksgiving with you, and for that we are extremely thankful.

I like to spend this time of the year being grateful and appreciative for all of the good things I have in my life, and not dwell on the things I don’t have. Especially non-materialistic things — things like my family (all of whom are in good health and spirits), my friends, my online buddies, my colleagues from around the world, and all of the good so many people have done to help change the message about mental health… From one of shame and hiding, to one of hope, science and illumination.

The Harmful Effects of Toxic Stress on You & Your Children

Wednesday, November 27th, 2013

The Harmful Effects of Toxic Stress on You & Your ChildrenAre you staying in an unhealthy marriage for the children?

I did. I was confused. I was ashamed. But mostly, I was afraid of hurting my kids.

Now we know that childhood exposure to “toxic stress” can have a cumulative toll on a person’s well-being and happiness for a lifetime.

Do I Need to Go Back on Psychiatric Medication?

Wednesday, November 27th, 2013

Do I Need to Go Back on Psychiatric Medication?It’s not the first time I have pushed it. This time, it was my (new) son.

After being on a number of different medications for different diagnoses for the past 10 years, I went off my medicine two months into my first pregnancy.

I haven’t known life without medication in 10 years. Except that one time. And let’s just say I was put on a medical leave from university, sent 4,000 miles back to my parents — and it wasn’t pretty. And that’s putting it lightly.

12 Strategies for Building Healthy Relationships When You Have ADHD

Wednesday, November 27th, 2013

12 Strategies for Building Healthy Relationships When You Have ADHD“Relationships are hard. Relationships where one or both people have ADHD are even harder,” said Beth Main, a certified attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) coach who helps individuals with ADHD develop the skills, systems, and strategies they need to overcome their challenges and achieve success.

Partners with ADHD often feel misunderstood by their spouses, who interpret their behavior as lazy or willful. (In fact, that’s one of the most common concerns Main hears from her clients.)

Partners without ADHD become increasingly frustrated when their spouses unintentionally break commitments, forget or misplace things, run late and act impulsively, she said.

The Importance of Good Support Systems in Sobriety

Tuesday, November 26th, 2013

The Importance of Good Support Systems in SobrietyIn many ways, recovery is an individual experience. Moving through recovery means becoming well-acquainted with your own thought processes and tendencies.

It is a time when you become highly attuned to why you are abusing drugs and alcohol, and a time to find ways to become the person you want to be.

Although much of recovery involves your own individual journey, the value of support systems cannot be underestimated. There are several reasons they are vital to recovery.

Learning to Be Good to Yourself: An Interview with Margarita Tartakovsky, MS

Tuesday, November 26th, 2013

Learning to Be Good to Yourself: An Interview with Margarita Tartakovsky, MSHow do you learn to go gentle on yourself? Where do you begin to teach self-love?

I asked a favorite blogger of mine, Margarita Tartakovsky, who is an Associate Editor at Psych Central, and the author of the blog Weightless. Margarita writes often on this topic, so I thought I’d pick her brain and dispense her wisdom to my readers.

How do you begin to be kind to yourself?

I think taking small steps is key. When you’ve spent years bashing yourself, the idea of kindness not only seems foreign. It seems utterly daunting. So start slow.

For instance, when you wake up tomorrow, ask yourself: What’s the kindest thing I can do for myself right now?

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