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One of the unexpected side effects of healing and recovery is the negative push back you may receive from friends and family. Instead of support, encouragement and positive feedback, loved ones are resentful, spiteful and angry.


Everyone handles change in different ways. While you’ve been successful at changing your own life, those around you may not be. In fact, your ability to thwart difficulty forces them to confront their own inner demons. And they won’t like it. Instead of commiserating over mutual woes, you’ve learned to take responsibility for your own life and that leaves them feeling abandoned, miserable and alone.

The fear of leaving your loved ones in their mess may prevent you from overcoming your own. It’s comfortable to stay in the role you’re in. Why should you shake things up?

Taking care of yourself is your responsibility, but other people’s problems? That’s none of your business. This week shift the spotlight off a loved one onto yourself with posts on how to improve both your physical and mental health.

{Flickr photo by Jason A. Samfield}

{Flickr photo by Jason A. Samfield}

10 Ways to Evolve & Be a Better Person
(The Psychology of Success) –  Want to be happier, live more authentically and feel more at peace? Don’t wait until 2014 to resolve to be a better person. Find out what things you can do now to change your life.

The Importance of Self Worth in Treating Anxiety & Depression
(Living a Balanced Life) – Is your anxiety or depression treatment not working? If you have the right resources, information and strategies, but nothing’s helping, you may need to check your self-esteem.

Do You Depend on Others for Your Happiness?
(Anger Management) – Feel angry, powerless, and inferior in your relationships? Read this to understand why you’re continually sabotaging your happiness.

Securing Real Love: Three Chemicals That Make Us Feel We’re In Love, 1 of 3
(Neuroscience & Relationships) – Our need for emotional connection is more intense than our drive to physically survive. Why is love so addictive? Read what three hormones are responsible.

Smoking and Mental Illness: Will E-cigarettes Save Lives?
(Mental Health Humor) – In his cartoon and post, Chato B. sheds light on a surprising relationship between smoking and mental illness.



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    Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 15 Oct 2013
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Uyemura, B. (2013). Best of Our Blogs: October 15, 2013. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 22, 2015, from


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