Archive for September, 2013

Would You Help Cover Up an Affair for a Friend?

Monday, September 30th, 2013

Would You Help Cover Up an Affair for a Friend?This guest article from YourTango was written by Kanya Daley

Betrayal. Seeing red. Unforgivable. Unbelievable.

These are words people often use to describe when they find out friends knew their spouse was having an affair.

But there’s often another element of upset that hurts as much as the affair it self — the cover-up. The cover-up occurs when friends know about an affair and fib for their friend as they lie and sneak around.

Which brings us to the question of the moment — would you help cover up an affair for a friend?

 

60 Minutes: Connecting Mental Illness to Violence with Little Data, Facts

Monday, September 30th, 2013

connecting-mental-illness-violence-dataLast night, a poorly researched piece by Steve Kroft appeared on the television news program, 60 Minutes. I say “poorly researched” because it took me all of five minutes to find problems in what some of those interviewed on the program said. While truthy, it wasn’t exactly the whole truth.

The core problem this program displayed is making a post hoc logical fallacy of connecting two seemingly-related things and suggesting a causal relationship exists. Because some of the people who commit mass killings have mental health issues, this is a sign of “a failed mental health system that’s prohibited from intervening until a judge determines that someone presents an “imminent danger to themself or others.”" The two may have little to do with each other (and in fact, according to real research, don’t).

No, the sign your mental health system has failed is when you’re locking up tens of thousands of people with serious mental illness in prison for petty crimes, rather than simply treating them in less restrictive settings.

Can Early Childhood Factors Predict Addictive Tendencies?

Monday, September 30th, 2013

Can Early Childhood Factors Predict Addictive Tendencies?Some research indicates that certain markers and behaviors observed in early development may be earmarks for future addictive patterns.

Children will exhibit some of these behaviors as early as 3 years old.

Possible Early Signs of Addiction

Being a risk taker.

Risk-taking behavior often first appears in early childhood. It may be an early sign of future substance abuse. This is the kid who climbs higher, runs faster, and engages in other physical feats that other children their age would shy away from.

The Psychology of Oppositional Conversational Style (OCS)

Sunday, September 29th, 2013

The Psychology of Oppositional Conversational Style (OCS)Back by popular demand is the assay I wrote about the “oppositional conversational style” (OCS). This post really seems to strike a chord with people.

Which surprised me at first, because when I identified OCS, I thought I was the only person who had ever noticed it.

Turns out that many people have noticed it! From both sides of the OCS-dominated conversation.

A Close Encounter with Thich Nhat Hanh

Sunday, September 29th, 2013

A Close Encounter with Thich Nhat HanhI was eating my California wrap outside at a local coffee shop in Boston when without reason I began to weep. Tears began rolling down my face, which made me feel as if I were sitting in a steady rain. It was as if my eyes had suddenly sprung a leak or a nearby sprinkler had found me.

Initially I didn’t have any feeling, but within seconds after the tears began like a fountain, I felt what seemed like an inconsolable pain — a deep sorrow that grew in intensity. It was as profound and moving as any emotion I’ve ever had.

Within the space of a brief moment I had gone from enjoying my lunch at a sidewalk café on a beautiful late summer day in Boston to a crying, blubbering mess. What the hell was going on?

Recognizing the Signs of Domestic Violence

Saturday, September 28th, 2013

Recognizing the Signs of Domestic ViolenceDomestic violence is a far too common occurrence. It does not discriminate and can happen at any time during a relationship. It takes place in both heterosexual and homosexual relationships. It crosses all ethnic, social, and economic levels.

Signs of domestic violence often are overlooked, denied, or excused. The truth is that there is never an excuse. The only way to end domestic violence is to be aware.

Domestic violence can be more than physical abuse. It can include sexual and emotional abuse as well.

4 Things Introverts Do that Makes Them Effective Leaders

Saturday, September 28th, 2013

4 Things Introverts Do That Makes Them Effective LeadersToday, when we think of great leaders, we typically think of people with charisma, booming voices and big, bold personalities.

Since the turn of the 20th century, it’s these qualities that have garnered praise, while qualities like being quiet and introspective have been seen as subpar, writes author Susan Cain in her book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking.

Our culture has dictated that great leaders and employees must be extroverts who are able to not only sell their companies, but also sell themselves.

How Spirituality Helps to Manage Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

Friday, September 27th, 2013

How Spirituality Helps to Manage Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)This guest article from YourTango was written by Michelle Maliniak.

As a mental health professional who also has post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) after spending over 22 years in the fire service, I have tried many “alternative” methods to treat my own anxiety, depression, and PTSD. Alternative treatment methods I’ve tried include acupuncture, meditation, herbal remedies, hot yoga and massage, just to name a few.

I still use some of these methods, along with daily exercise, healthy diet, positive social support, and a low dose of an antidepressant, to manage my PTSD.

Here, I’m going to relate my experience with the two methods I have found particularly helpful: bibliotherapy (reading!) and spiritual healing.

 

Emotional Eating: Unstuffing Our Faces & Emotions

Friday, September 27th, 2013

Emotional Eating: Unstuffing Our Faces & EmotionsFood is a wonderful thing! There are so many tastes, so many varieties, and quite frankly, we can’t live without it. We typically eat to satisfy hunger, to provide the proper nutrition and sustenance needed to get through our day.

However, we sometimes eat to relieve stress or reward ourselves.

While this behavior is not necessarily problematic or harmful when done in moderation, we have to be careful not to cross the line. It’s perfectly acceptable to reward ourselves with a special treat, or to indulge in something savory after a hard day.

It’s when this type of eating becomes a coping mechanism that we find ourselves being emotional eaters.

Best of Our Blogs: September 27, 2013

Friday, September 27th, 2013

Autumn’s been official for only a few days now, but here in on the east coast, the leaves are already starting to turn; some of them are falling off their trees already!

The mix of red, orange, yellow, green, and brown contrasted against bright blue skies is only one reason fall is my favorite season.

Speaking of so many different things all serving one purpose, this week’s Psych Central bloggers really went out of their way to provide you with an eclectic mix of help information. Take some time this weekend to enjoy it!

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Steps Toward Recovery from Alcohol Addiction

Thursday, September 26th, 2013

Steps Toward Recovery from Alcohol AddictionHow do you deal with alcohol addiction?

Studies show that people become alcohol dependent due to a number of reasons, including personal issues, stress and peer pressure.

Alcohol addiction will disrupt your life and destroy personal relationships. But the problem for most alcoholics is that they realize these negative effects at a later time, making it hard to accept the reality and seek treatment.

Why Do We Overeat?

Thursday, September 26th, 2013

Why Do We Overeat?Is it what we eat? How we eat? How we learned to eat?

Many Americans are asking these questions and searching for the answers as they battle thickening waistlines and pounds that just don’t seem to come off.  And many watch in alarm as our children struggle with the same issues of obesity as American adults.

In recent posts, I have discussed how the media has focused attention heavily on what we eat.

And certainly the food that we put into our bodies plays a significant role in how much we weigh. 

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