This guest article from YourTango was written by Rebecca A. Marquis.
If you have ever tried your hand at online dating, chances are you’ve undoubtedly encountered at least one of these six types of guys. Now, keep in mind, these are broad generalizations, and even a guy who fits into one of these categories might be the exception to the rule.
But have you ever thought about what’s behind the common profile type, and whether or not he’d make a good boyfriend? Or even longer-term partner?
With these men, you should read the warning signs before you get too involved with him. It’s not a “sure thing” that he’s not the one for you (hey, maybe you’re a perfectionist too!), but it’s a possible sign.
The Clueless Guy
He posts pictures of himself surrounded by beautiful women who are wearing very little clothing, as if he’s looking for the next member of his harem. Or he posts a picture of himself wearing an “FBI: Female Body Inspector” T-shirt, and thinks it’s cool.
Why you shouldn’t date him: This guy is probably not looking for anything remotely serious. And if he is, he’ll likely lack any intuition about how his actions will make you feel.
Mr. New Beginnings
On his profile, he talks about how he never thought he’d be dating again or how he’s new to the dating arena. It is clear from his narrative that he’s just come out of a serious relationship, one he had hoped would last.
Why you shouldn’t date him: He’s not emotionally ready to move on if he’s still dwelling on where he’s just been.
He makes a specific list of traits to which you’ll have to measure up. You must love to cook, be of a certain height, be very sensual, speak three languages, and have traveled to at least five countries.
Why you shouldn’t date him: With the perfectionist, everything will likely be calculated and you’ll always have to adhere to some predetermined set of standards. He won’t be able to adapt to change or just relax.
His profile states, in detail, all of his accomplishments and why he is better than any other guy on the site. He mentions nothing about what he offers a woman, and no description of the relationship he’d like to develop.
Why you shouldn’t date him: He’ll likely lack concern for your wants and needs, focusing only on himself.
The World Traveler
His profile lists all the countries he’s been to, and his photo album is like a vacation slideshow. All of his photos show him at a distance, with sunglasses, in front of some international touristattraction. His profile seems more like a travel diary than a personal narrative.
Why you shouldn’t date him: Traveling is great, and can be an important lifestyle aspect to share with a partner. But if his profile is very travel-focused and lacks more personal details, he may have issues with intimacy. He may be the type who is always looking for the next great distraction from life.
The “Young-At-Heart” Older Guy
He pays no mind to the age limits written in your profile, and hits on you like he’s your perfect match. When you express that you’re uncomfortable with the age difference, he says, “Funny, I didn’t think age would be an issue,” or, “It’s only eight years!”
Why you shouldn’t date him: If he’s not respecting the age limits you’ve posted, he’s ignoring your expressed wants and needs. He’ll likely think he knows what’s best for you, despite what you have voiced as important.
They say there’s a lid for every pot. But I’m not sure these pots are ready to be topped yet! What do you think? Can these guys be in successful relationships? And if so, with what type of woman?
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Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 25 Jul 2013
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Experts, Y. (2013). Why You Shouldn’t Date These 6 Types of Online Guys. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 7, 2014, from http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2013/07/29/why-you-shouldnt-date-these-6-types-of-online-guys/