How to Prop Up Your Sagging SpiritYou’ve had a day in which nothing has gone right. It was a struggle from the get-go. Every bone in your body was shouting, ”Stay in bed, fool. This is not going to be your day.”

But did you listen? Not a chance. After all, you live a harried life. You are a responsible person. You have stuff to do. For a paycheck. For others. For yourself.

So you drag yourself to work. You fake doing a half-baked job. You put on a smile. You remind yourself to breathe. You get through the day. OK, time to relax!

Yeah, right. Now it’s time to ferry your kids to wherever they need to go. Now it’s time to sling dinner on the table, pretending that this meal is an adequate alternative to the home-cooked meals you grew up with. Now it’s time to wedge in a few moments of chat with your spouse. Now it’s time to tidy up a bit. Now it’s time to enforce the bedtime ritual.

So this is the good life, eh?

Feels more like a frantic life in which you are non-stop juggling a constellation of demands. No wonder your spirit is sagging. Time to prop it up. But how? Here are a few suggestions:

  1. Do something relaxing for yourself.

    Don’t know what that would be? Besides, even if you knew what it would be, you’d have no time to do it. So, why waste time fantasizing about it? When you’re an adult, nobody cares if you take the time to relax unless you put it on your agenda, And make it sacred. Otherwise, one more “have-to task” marches to the front of the line. And there goes your relaxing time.

  2. Make time to be with people who lift your spirit.

    When you’re a kid, you’re with your friends every day of the week. And you still want more. Now that you’re a busy adult, you may be experiencing a friendship deficit without even realizing it. Usually, the only symptom of not spending enough time with friends is a shadowy malaise that you can’t quite put your finger on. Yes, you’re aware that at times you feel lonely, yet it just seems like one more thing to do to recharge that friendship. Reverse this trend. Make that call today! Without friends to share your life, problems become more burdensome, pleasures become less intense.

  3. Incorporate energetic fun into your day.

    OK! Prescribe me the pill! I’m ready for fun. I’m tired of feeling tired! Sorry, I’m not talking about stimulants or sugar, caffeine or chocolate. I’m talking about good old-fashioned fun like you used to have when you were a kid. It’s simply not fair that kids should have all the fun! If you have forgotten how to have fun, here are a few things you might try.

    • Enjoy a game
    • Play a sport
    • Learn something that excites you
    • Dance
    • Jump around
    • Be silly
    • Get dirty
    • Laugh at human foibles
    • Don’t act your age.

If you’re doing those things and still not having fun, well then, you’re not doing it right. Get some remedial help from a bouncy kid or a playful pet. Let them teach you everything they know.

 


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    Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 22 Jul 2013
    Published on PsychCentral.com. All rights reserved.

APA Reference
Sapadin, L. (2013). How to Prop Up Your Sagging Spirit. Psych Central. Retrieved on October 1, 2014, from http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2013/07/22/how-to-prop-up-your-sagging-spirit/

 

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